Hi all, I recently started going on dates with a friend of mine and we’re trying to see if we’d be compatible for a long term relationship. She’s absolutely perfect and I feel so lucky to have this opportunity with someone like her. Previously all the people I’ve been remotely romantic with were just people I met on Hinge, so it’s exciting to have something fully natural for a change.
As amazing as she is though, there’s one thing that I know for certain will be a problem if we do decide to fully commit to a relationship: she is a hard bottom/sub, and I’m a sub-leaning switch. Before we started going out together she would tell me how much she wants to be dominated by a stronger man, and while I can provide that, I don’t want that to be our only sexual dynamic. I have no problem being the dom more often (because again I’m a switch), but I want to be the sub sometimes as well and I’m just not sure if she’ll want to go along with that.
With all that said, how can I address this with her? Having a sex life is very important to me and I want for us both to be satisfied, but this will undoubtedly be a problem if we become official.