u/pantysexual

I’ve crossdressed for as long as I can remember. Now in my mid-40s, married, with a supportive wife and a very happy sex life, I’m finally at a point where I can openly explore this side of myself, and she is very encouraging.

For me, it’s less about hardcore humiliation or permanent lifestyle stuff and more about feeling feminine, slutty, desired, playful, submissive, pretty, sexy, affectionate, getting excited by actually doing these things. I’m honestly not sure cages/chastity are really my thing. I’m more interested in dressing up, flirting, making out with another CD/sissy, exploring with a trans woman, or maybe submitting to a confident man in the right situation.

My wife knows all about this side of me and has basically given me permission to occasionally explore outside the relationship. We communicate a lot, have boundaries, and family always comes first. I know I’m incredibly lucky.

The problem is: I have absolutely no idea where people actually meet anymore.

I live near a major East Coast metro area, so I know there must be plenty of CDs, sissies, trans girls, bi guys, etc. around. But I’m shy in person and would rather ease into this online first instead of blindly showing up at clubs or parties.

So where do people actually connect these days?

Feeld? FetLife? Reddit? Discords? Grindr? Something else entirely?

Especially interested in hearing from older/married CDs or sissies who explored later in life. How did you find trustworthy people without immediately getting overwhelmed by the chaos?