u/plankrin

Hey bros.

Thought I would give this a try, so here's a long about me.

I'm a gay/bi-curious professional dude living in DTLA. For the past couple of years I have been building my business and WFH, shit gets lonely. Sometimes while I wait for AI to finish something or I want to get distracted in between stuff I go on Discord and whatnot to chat with people. Figured instead of having anon online friends, I'd check if my story resonates with anyone who would want to bond in person. I miss those connections and that mutual understanding.

About a year ago, I ended a relationship which impacted my social life. I realized that my ex had become the center of my social circle and everything gravitated around him. When we hung out with other people it was always "we," lots of friendships got more distant after the breakup. Not because they picked sides but because I wasn't looking to just have company, I went through a huge leap in maturity and my friends were still acting like they were in high school.

Making new friends as an adult is difficult. In college we all bonded over that experience, then you go and work, make friends and acquaintances there, start a relationship, meet other couples. But when you have a life reset you realize everyone else has moved on, your people are in other cities, on their own journeys, and bonding is just different. Add to that WFH and it gets difficult to have casual conversations, you don't want anything that isn't strictly work recorded on Slack...

At this stage of my life, my main priority is sovereignty, leading a life with agency. I'm focused on:

- Business: Building, learning, picking myself up after every fall.
- Gym: Was huge in my 20s, fell off the wagon after getting locked up, realized how much I missed it and I'm getting back to training hard.
- Nutrition: I guess I'm healthmaxxing, but metabolism, mood, and everything is harder to maintain past 30, so now I really focus on eating well, meal prepping, and eatings tons of protein.

Those are priorities, but I love my silly side. All work and no play makes no sense to me. I love partying, music, live events, traveling, road trips, adventures. I'm also geeky af and you will find me coding or trying to figure out circuitry for a side quest. Part of the reason why I created my business was to have my own schedule, I'll work 12h days on a sprint, then spend a week being lazy, smoking 420, playing videogames, fucking, watching TV. I love kicking back and I'm completely happy either making plans or just hosting a bud to hang out.

Open to NSFW. I'm a horny dude. But that's not my priority here. I have had many friendships in my life, both with straight and gay dudes, in which we openly embraced our horniness. Swapping dick pics, jo, blowing each other, hanging naked, sharing porn, or talking about sex and our hookups. All of that is cool af, and the best friendships are those that reach a balance between "let's workout," "dude I read this book you'd like it," "Bro, I'm fucking horny wanna jo?" and everything feels natural.

Now, what I'm not looking for: Sometimes on these sites I get hit up by people who have never had real life friendships. That's usually a sign of incompatibility here. Life circumstances are one thing, but if you avoid putting yourself out there, I doubt we will be able to bond meaningfully. Dudes that make being gay their whole identity, or constantly seek approval without having an inner drive are also not gonna be a great match. Also, if you come to me seeking guidance, mentorship, a dad instead of a bud... sorry, but I'm looking to bond with an equal. Someone to hang, who challenges me or I can challenge, without depending on each other cuz we can both hold our own. Disclaimer so neither of us wastes each other time.

If you got this far, let's chat brother.