First time challenging my partner to go fast
I’ve been somewhat into this fetish for a long time, but have absolutely never told anyone. What I’ve found is that my stamina when with a partner actually seems somewhat independent from my stamina when masturbating- when masturbating alone, if I intentionally try to go fast I can consistently go from soft to cumming within 60 seconds. It’s a bit slower with one finger, but I can get there. My stamina with a partner isn’t stellar, but is usually about 10 minutes. With position switches, servicing and fingering, it’s easy enough to go over an hour without partners really realizing there are any stamina issues.
I haven’t actually tried to ruin my stamina with a partner because my current partner really enjoys sex, but due to a medical situation we haven’t been able to do intercourse for quite a while. We finally had a night off last night, but were interrupted after she got off, so I was left hanging again.
The next morning, I’m awake, pent up, and in a very subby mood. She looked at me and asked me, “okay, how would you like to be taken care of today?”. Without thinking about it, I immediately responded with something I’ve never had the courage to before.
“Can you try your best to make me cum as fast as possible and I’ll try to hold back?”
She laughed, said that was fine, then went to town with hands and tongue. She knows me well- just the right pressure and speed to get me there quickly. Way, way too quickly. It was like I was doing it myself, but better, and it blurred that sensation line between normal masturbation and sex.
Within literally 15 seconds of starting I started whimpering “oh no, I can’t…” and immediately started to cum on her fingers. She was so shocked, she stopped stimulation and gave me a ruined orgasm to boot (which she knows I like, but it was definitely not intentional this time). She just watched it dribble out, then looked at me. “I thought you were going to hold back? What the fuck happened? Why didn’t you say anything?”
I had no response to that, and she just kind of laughed it off as “maybe you were too pent up after last night I guess…”
That look that she gave me though as I dribbled out into her hands. The mixture of shock, pity, and mild derision. That’s going to stay with me. It certainly won’t help my stamina going forward as I fantasize about it.