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My wife and I went on a solo date separately

Caution: a long read

It was over a month that I was planning to meet my old friend(40 F- not aware of this lifestyle) who was connected professionally. We reconnected through a mutual friend. So I decided to meet her along with my wife over a weekend. Initially my wife was ok with this and she is also happy to come along with me to meet her. In fact my wife purposefully wanted to join me so that my friend could be jealous of me and my wife- as if how understanding and intimate that we are as husband and wife.

But closer to the day that we planned for meet, my wife wants me to meet my female friend privately without her she told me lame excuses like ‘I don’t want to spoil your date/meeting with your friend. You need to cherish your experience; etc etc’. But both me and my friend were never in the intention of being physically involved- not even a kiss/hug. My wife’s well aware of this and still she wants me to meet her privately.

After few convincing, my wife agreed to come along with me to meet my friend. But she said that she would be with us (me and my friend) for 15-30 minutes maximum. She also wants to meet a guy (married guy in 30s-active in the lifestyle) whom we know through a mutual friend. I told my wife that if she leaves in the middle, my friend would mistake us and I would be embarrassed in front of my wife. And my wife said, that she is not keen to see me and my friend together for longer time; otherwise she would be possessive and irritated.

My wife somehow convinced me that she would leave us 30’minutes after meeting us and to go with the guy. She convinced me that we should give mutual freedom to each other. I know my wife is not keen to have sex with him and even when they returned to our room, they didn’t have sex though I pushed. She was nude with us in our room. They just smooched and fondled each other in front of me. Even this I pushed them to do. But no sex.

I feel all these are staged by my wife herself. But I don’t understand why she did not have sex with him. I personally feel retrospectively that my wife should have stayed with me while meeting my friend until fully. And then we both could have visited the guy and even had fun. I even would have pushed them further to have sex.

My question are

1. what would be the actual intention of my wife to leave me and my friend in the middle?

2. And why she didn’t have sex with the guy though she liked him and I pushed them.

3. Did my wife stage this or it’s my imagination?

-confused hubby