Hi! I am afab nonbinary, and a cis man and I were talking about kink and whatnot (as we matched on a dating site and are in the getting to know you phase)
I said that a hard limit of mine was anal and said "Oh I'm surprised, most afab/masc leaning nonbinary people tend to like it because it's gender affirming"
It kinda gave me the ick a little, like it was bordering on questioning my identity or what's affirming to me, so I thought I'd come here and see if it's even accurate!
If you're afab, is having anal penetration over vaginal gender affirming to you? Of those who do like it, do you enjoy it BECAUSE it's affirming, or is the affirmation not a part of your enjoyment of it?