[M4F] Chat are we cooked as a society, or is it just me?
This is 100% not the place for this likely, but its a penpal sub, and the only subred im active in
Heres a bit of context. Im about 30yo, and ive been single for quite some time now. My ex of 4 years decided 1 more inch mattered more than the memories we made together. Rather than giving her a second chance, i moved on. Im not an exactly ugly guy. Im fit, decent job (it at lest pays the bills and allows me to care for the parent i still have alive) and i like to think im a fairly ok human (aside from some really horny kinks i have)
Yet for the life of me, i can NOT find a gf. Idk if its even a matter of attraction. When i go out to a diner i get a male waiter. When i go to get take out its a bro at the window. If i walk into a jewelry store, im greeted by a guy. The onky place i have seen a woman in the last 2 years is at the grocery store, and they are all old enough to be my mother or grandmother.
Like, just where did all the women go?! I see them on tinder and on the rare occasion i do match with one, well have a very strong connection, not struggling to have a conversation. Regular messaging. Asking about the others day, well more me asking about their day. And after talking for half or a whole month, ill have a bad day at work and think i can speak about it to them. Just someone to vent to, not even crashing out on them, like how i hear some men beat their gf’s now like its 1920.
I just want to talk about my shit day and vent my frustration for just maybe a half hour or less over text. I assumed it would be ok after they have to me for several weeks, day after day. Yet i get this “i cant help you” or “youre too much of an emotional burden for me” reply. Once had someone just ghost me for the day, then the next day tell me they went to a pool party because i was being “too much”.
So is it just me, or are we cooked?