u/tm2890

So my first time with cruising was a completely unplanned occurrence.

I'm married, identify as straight, and always have. High-school was the most curious I had gotten. We had an odd kid at school that would spend his whole lunch hour standing at the urinal and trying to stare at people's dicks. It turned me on a little, and I'd "accidentally" stand too far back so he could see my dick. One day while doing this, I noticed he was hard and it immediately made my dick rock hard (for a mental picture, I'm roughly 7.5in and thick as a toilet paper roll). Nothing ever happened, but that's my backstory of where the little bit of curiosity came from, though I never planned to make any attempts to do anything about it.

The actual story now: about a year ago now, I was out riding my motorcycle during the summer. It was like 95⁰ and I always wear my gear... so I was dying 😂 Drinking a lot of water eventually caught up and I swung into a park to use the bathroom. When I first walked in to the bathroom, I heard a guy cough from inside a stall with the door open. An older guy came out of the stall and said something I really couldn't understand about making a phone call, then went to the sink. I paid it no mind and went to a urinal. There were two urinals next to eachother and no dividers. As I got to the urinal and unzipped to pee, he went to the next urinal and was standing a little far back but not giving any kind of signs he was looking at me. Well, when I took a slight step back to zip up, his head snapped down and he looked right at my dick. I noticed it, but again paid no mind. As I started walking to the sink, he said "that's nice". I turned and did a "huh" and he looked down towards my dick and said "your dick. It looked nice".

I was a little taken aback but managed an awkward "oh... ok" and went back to move towards the sink. He was still standing at the urinal and hadn't even turned to face me, just looking over his shoulder, and said "can I see it again?" Then kind of frantically added "I just like dicks, and it looked big. I saw it and just want to see it again". My hands were kind of shaking but I'm also not ashamed of my dick 😂 So I did a quick scan towards the door and unzipped to pull my dick out. I was totally soft but I'm still rocking a thick 5in soft. He had a jaw drop reaction and said "holy shit" as he turned around to face me with his dick out, stroking himself. He was about the size of my thumb even hard. He asked what I thought and I just gave him an "eh... I don't know really", not wanting to say "yeah it's pretty small" 😂 I zipped back up and he did the same, but asked if I'd ever been sucked by a guy before. I told him I hadn't as I was washing my hands. He said no pressure, but asked if I'd be ok if he sucked me. Now... my wife has really bad TMJ and can't suck me very long without it hurting her jaw because of how thick I am, so it had been a while since I'd gotten a bj at home.

He could no doubt see how nervous I was at this point and reassured me he would stop if I said so. So "what the hell" popped in my head and I pulled my dick out again. He immediately knelt down and started bobbing on my dick. I started getting hard in his mouth, but then I got hit with a wall of gingivitis breath and it made my stomach turn. It still felt good getting my dick sucked, but the breath made my dick start going soft again 😂 I let him go a little longer but eventually had to pull back and apologized saying I was just too nervous. He said ok, thanked me, and I walked out.

I haven't been back to THAT park since, but I've wound up on sniffies since and found a couple others that I've had better luck with. I'm still very new to this whole thing and have only gotten sucked, but I'm trying to work up the courage to try sucking for myself.

To be fair, I tried checking the "stop asking questions every day" link first and it didn't work.

I recently started going to the YMCA and use the steam room almost every time. While I use it for its intended purpose, I'm not NOT trying to do stuff. I wear only a towel and keep my legs spread so anyone that looks can see my dick. Obviously, I can pick up on the blatant ones of guys with their dicks out.

But even when people look (I'll touch my dick a bit if I notice it), I can never tell if people are there with the same mindset.

What I notice a lot is guys stretching a lot and breathing... obnoxiously? And by stretching I mean sprawling out on the seating area and trying to touch their toes and whatnot, or standing up and doing the same.

So anyway, are there universal signs in a steam room setting, or is it just a crap shoot?

Unrelated but the most frustrating was a guy that was 100% there to suck dick (we made conversation and flashed/played with our dicks). But even when I completely dropped my towel and stroked, he acted like he didn't see. It wasn't until I was feeling faint from the heat and got out of there that he followed me and asked to suck me