Help after bad interaction
Hi there!
I'm a bit embarrassed about all of this. I had a bad anal experience with a partner a few years ago. Not enough lube and the safe word wasn't respected when it was used. I have dealt with a lot of anal fissures and discomfort since then, and generally just a LOT of anxiety whenever someone goes near my ass in general.
My current partner really loves anal, and has been respectful of that boundary for me. I really want to get to a point where I can do this for him but I start hyperventilating even at a finger outside. Does anyone have experience with this? Any advice they could give to retrain and relax? I did enjoy anal before this happened and would love to be able to do this with him again but always get so in my head in the moment about it hurting or hurting long term.
Thanks for any advice!