To all "beginners" sissies
Hi. New to this subreddit and the sissy lifestyle. Spent a bit of time commenting under different posts yesterday. Felt the need to vent it all out here, so i'll share this message for you, and for myself as well. Hopefully, it might help some in need.
To all beginners sissies. The ones like me. The ones who hides their "inner" sissy. The ones ashamed of themselves. The ones hiding in plain sight. The ones who gags when they read "a real sissy should worship cocks and shut her mouth". The ones who feel "they should give in", when their body screams "I beg you, do not do this". The ones who spent nights alone crying, because they're afraid of not being accepted as a sissy if they don't get fucked by the first guy they see. The ones who've been told if they don't dissociate during the sexual act, then they're doing it wrong. The ones that had a terrible sex experiences and try to rationalize after the fact, telling themselves "this is what it should be".
To all the ones who genuinely struggles with who they are inside. The ones who thinks "wearing panties" is not enough. The ones who watch hypno videos at 3am and feel disgusted with themselves afterward. The ones who bought a shaving kit and left it to rot, too scared of trying. The ones who jumped into a chastity cage because they're "supposed" to have a clitty, not because they asked themselves if it was good for them. To the ones with families, partner, kids, friends. The ones genuinely struggling to fit into the role they've been assigned.
To all beginners - and, really, to ALL of you - who are afraid of what they are getting into and are overwhelmed by it all. I know you're there, probably invisible. And I see you all, because I've lived your struggles.
And I tell you this : You are not determined by some preconceived porn vision of what a sissy is. You are not determined by anything.
I understand the appeal. The thrill. The secret desire within that whispers in that sultry voice "just be a slut, darling, it'll be fun". I hear it everyday.
But a fantasy is not real life. Real life is messy.
You have friends. Families. Work. Obligations. Yourself. So think about what you are okay with, and what you are not okay with doing.
And no matter what you do, or do not do :
You can be a sissy and not have sex with men. You can also be one who loves it.
You can be a sissy who's here for the aesthetic of being a girl. You can also be one who likes dressing slutty.
You can be a sissy and not be in chastity. You can also be one who loves having their dick confined where it belongs.
You can be a sissy and hate having to do "tasks". You can be one that thrive in doing them.
You can be a sissy and hide it, keeping it to yourself. You can also be one who wears that mantle proudly to the outside world.
You can be a sissy who feels safe and do not want to experiment. You can also be one who feels adventurous and keeps pushing their boundaries.
The list goes on and on.
But you are NOT a sissy if you try to fit into the preconceived idea of a sissy, simply because porn or some weirdos on the internet told YOU what you SHOULD be.
In that case, you're not a sissy. You are losing yourself.
Never let unrealistic expectations gets in the way of your boundaries and consent. Never, ever, EVER. Always ask yourself : "Stripped of the kink and fantaisies : do I REALLY want this ?".
The point being : You ALREADY ARE a sissy. Explore that at your own pace. Experiment. Reassess. Be proud of yourselves. Be kind to yourselves. You are worth it. You are loved.
Take care 💜