r/BetterAffairs

Curvy, cute, fun, and caring blonde with bluish-gray eyes looking for local man to have fun dates with and see where it leads us. Ideally, I want a long term, exclusive partner.

I am a married woman who has been called classy and dignified.. I pride myself on that. While I have flaws, I do like to present myself in that manner. I have many things missing from my marriage. A deep emotional bond, communication, and yes- the physical part. I do want to make it clear that the physical part of any relationship should come after a foundation of trust, closeness mentally and emotionally, and caring is laid. So dick pick jerks or those who just want to talk about what I am wearing or about sex need not apply. I am more than that and expect my boundaries to be respected.

I am a little over 5’8” and I am curvy. I have worked hard for over several years to better myself. Though I am a work in progress, I am learning to love the skin I am in and be proud of my accomplishments. I continue to work on becoming a better version of myself each day. I am blonde with bluish-gray eyes.

I am looking for a gentleman. A man of worth. A man who has an amazing sense of humor (sarcasm is always a plus), a man who can carry on conversations about an array of topics. I want someone who has a solid career and life they are proud of. This man should still have time for me. Locals to Raleigh and wanting a real, in-person relationship is what I am needing.

I need a man who will keep me and what we have safe. Physically and emotionally. A man who knows they want this relationship and won’t back down on the days that we are needed the most. I need an honor among thieves where the man is exclusive to just us and does not wish for multiple women. Protecting me and us in that aspect is crucial and well, just mature and showing their worth.

I want this man to be proud to be by my side, sees me as someone they desperately want and appreciate. I know what they give they will also receive from me.

⁠My new friend needs: 1)Availability to meet and see each other whether it is for coffee, lunch, drinks, dinner, hotel time, etc, etc. Know now if you can get away for “us” time. 2) An account that your SO does not have access to. 3) Emotionally available. That is what makes this worthwhile.

Lastly, I want to say - for now - that these relationships have to have some strings if they are worthwhile and meaningful. Why risk this and everything we have not to have some strings attached? I know I am worth every bit of it. Worth the risk, time, and all the things that come with this relationship.

I find myself here, cautiously optimistic and hopeful that it is indeed, the better place. It seems I may be the anomaly in this realm for wanting something more than just a few Reddit messages that fizzle out. Or maybe I’m the anomaly for not simply searching for that quick sexual fix? I don’t think it’s problematic to say that I am hoping to establish an actual relationship with phone calls, photos, voice notes, jokes, banter, and obviously feelings.

Married mom here, located in EST (southeast). I work full time from home, with plenty of time (even outside of normal business hours) to put forth the effort needed to develop something that actually lasts. This isn’t my first time searching, but I’m hopeful that this particular crowd “gets it” better than some of those other subs. I workout during the week and would consider myself conventionally attractive, and have been told that I don’t like I don’t belong in a place like this. That said, out of respect for privacy/security of the both of us, I don’t typically like to share photos within Reddit chat. I’m happy staying here until we both are comfortable moving elsewhere.

I prefer connecting with those who are also married and have kids. Not trying to throw shade, but there’s that other layer of “getting it”, meaning if I have kid school stuff/extracurriculars you’re understanding if I’m slow to respond. Not interested in wasting anyone’s time or changing anyone’s situation. I have nothing to sell (or buy) and I’ll say it again, not looking to be a hookup or a masturbatory aid.

Wishing everyone luck in their search.