r/ChristianSwingers

We are married couple in ours 40’s just moved to FL looking to make new friends no single males

The rush of thinking about sexual things as a pastor

I'm a married Baptist pastor and seminary professor. I hold a PhD in theology. Of course real life is quite different and more conventional, but I enjoy the rush of posting about sexual things on here. I like admitting these things, and being vulgar, if that makes sense. The very opposite of what my position in real life demands. I imagine what the women in my congregation look like naked. I imagine them being penetrated and doing sinful things. I imagine what their big bare breasts look like. I imagine "titfucking" them. That is a weakness of my mine, big breasts.

I'm obviously aware of the questionable nature of these thoughts. There's something potent about our humanity and tendencies. Potency with good and problematic branches. I think we all think about these endless contradictions, and the love of God.

Hi all. We (43F and 37M) are a fully commited and well established couple, New to the LS. We fully embrace this as we only talk (chat) with others together in group chat, we only go on dates (to meet first) together and we only play together. We keepmour bed sacred, we host outside our home. We agreed, anything outside that(behind the others back) we consider "cheating". Nothing is done behind the others back. Everything is consensual even choosing partners. We have great communication. I, the female half, was the one who brought the idea of swinging. After lots of discussions we both feel this is right for us. We have had swaps. Reclamation sex is amazing. The bond and closeness it brings is phenomenal. The level of openess, trust and happiness are why we continue. We love the bond is has created.

As a couple, how do you move past the ingrained fears of "losing them" to others. Or the feeling that youre cheating on them. I know for me (the female half) I have fleeting moments of, "what are we doing, im going to lose him". And for him he has moments of, "she's going to find someone better,a better man". This is more of fear/insecurity vs. jealousy. Neither are jealous. We love seeing the other flirt, and receive pleasure. We can be with others and fully enjoy the moment before, during and after.

We both come from a strongly monogamous past. And those ideologies are still in the background, a forshadow i guess. I guess my question is.... how do we move past the monogamy brainwashing fears (this is what im calling it) as it's not a huge issue and it really only creeps in very rarely, id say a couple times now.

Im hoping since we are newish that with more experiences this will go away with time.

Love and advice are welcomed.

Hey there we are a couple in our 40’s just moved to the panhandle looking for friends to get to know no single males

I have been in the Lifestyle for about 16 years. Met a bunch of people in a vanilla setting and only experienced 7 but the stories I heard when meeting others was crazy. The ghost and flakes. It goes both ways because I had plans to meet a bunch and no show and no communication? Not sure what gives. I never pressure so is there a reason to ghost?

Throwaway because people I know are on Reddit.
I’m 24F, my husband is 26M, and we both grew up Catholic. We waited until marriage and were basically each other’s first everything, so neither of us had much experience.

Recently my husband admitted that one of his fantasies is seeing me with another man. At first I thought he was joking because it seemed completely opposite to everything we were taught growing up, but he’s brought it up a few times since.
He says he doesn’t want to pressure me, but he’s genuinely curious about watching me flirt with, kiss, or potentially be intimate with someone else while he’s there.

The strange part is that instead of immediately rejecting it, I’ve caught myself thinking about it. I’ve never been with anyone except my husband, so part of me wonders what being wanted by another man would even feel like.

Now I can’t tell whether I’m actually curious or whether I’m only thinking about it because my husband introduced the idea and seems so excited by it.

Has anyone else from a conservative Catholic background had their spouse bring up something completely outside what you expected marriage to look like? Did exploring the fantasy make you closer or just complicate things?