We are first time wanna-be (potential) exhibitionists visiting Desire this month (never played in front of others before, but it’s a very exciting proposition)

Does the silicone lube like Pjur or Wet Platinum (pure silicone) do anything out of the ordinary when on your body parts while out in the sun?

Is there an experienced recommendation for playtime and lube out in the sunshine?

Anyone ever done this? We're dirty vanilla (exhibitionists/voyeurs/nudists) who like public play and chatting up other couples in our chill time. I've heard the other dinner for more than one couple is lame and overpriced. And we did the sushi on a naked lady thing once and were not really impressed. But the idea of chilling on a beach at sunset (what remains of the beaches) for a private two person dinner sounds nice. Could anyone who has done it enlighten us on what this entails?

I saw the drama not too long about about the owners bait and switching/changing terms for beneficiaries, etc (various OPs descriptions, not mine). How has the membership changed, if at all, thus far into 2026? We’re looking at returning in winter but are on the fence about stay and play, memberships, contracts, etc.
Any vets on this from the recent debacle regarding benefits, contracts, etc that could enlighten us?

How is beach at Pearl, any left by party side of pool?

We get a lot of questions about promo codes, so I figured it would be helpful to keep a monthly running list here in one place.

I’ll list expiration dates as I know them, but in my experience some end early. I’ll update this post as things change.

Start Here – Book & Enter Any Promo Code

You can adjust dates and plug in any promo code you find.

• Direct Reservation Link (Desire RM)
• Direct Reservation Link (Desire Pearl)
• Air Bundles (Desire RM/Edit Dates and Airport)
• Air Bundles (Desire Pearl/Edit Dates and Airport)

Helpful Links

• Public Promotions Page
• Extra Icebreaker Items at the Pool

Active Promo Deals Desire RM

Promo Link – Free One-Way Transfer
Travel: Ongoing
Minimum: 3 nights

Promo Link – Free Round-Trip Transfer
Travel: Ongoing
Minimum: 4 nights

Promo Link – Free Massage
Travel: Ongoing
Minimum: 4 nights

Promo Link - 10% Off, Free Couple's Massage, 15% off the Mystique Shops/Premium Beverages/Spa Treatments and 10% off Spa Products
Travel: Aug 1st - Aug 30th
Minimum: 4 nights
Expires: August 7th, 2026

Active Promo Deals Desire Pearl

Promo Link – 5% Off
Travel: April 7th - Dec 23rd
Expires: May 31st, 2026 (Still active as of July 1st)
Minimum: 2 night

Promo Link – Free One-Way Transfer
Travel: Ongoing
Minimum: 3 nights

Promo Link – Free Round-Trip Transfer
Travel: Ongoing
Minimum: 4 nights

Promo Link – Free Massage
Travel: Ongoing
Minimum: 4 nights

Promo Link - 10% Off, Free Couple's Massage, 15% off the Mystique Shops/Premium Beverages/Spa Treatments and 10% off Spa Products
Travel: Aug 1st - Sept 15th
Minimum: 4 nights
Expires: August 7th, 2026

Hi everyone,

Another couple and our selves were mentioning how there is no active Bay Area Telegram group for pinapple couples......so we started one.

We would be happy to send you the TG group invitation, you just need to reach out via dm with verification picture (faces no necessary), name/pseudonym, city in the bay area of where you reside. We will then reply back with TG group link.

Rules

1.Most be a couple or single woman with a picture verification of the both of you in your first post. (faces not required but body shot of both of you, with name or pseudonym, screen name etc)

2. Absolutely no single males or advertising as a single male outside of your couple.

3. MUST LIVE IN THE BAY AREA please mention your city in your DM.

4. Be kind and respectful.

5. No solicitation of anything illegal.

Looking forward to creating a fun community

We got suckered into doing the "ritual dinner". We would say do NOT do this dinner. The food is the exact same meats and food that they serve at the resort buffet. Really bad. Lobster tail was more tough than rubber (not joking). Then the "show" with "strippers" are just their normal nightly staff and it is NOT a stripper show. There was zero nudity and the girls only took a bikini top off but they had large pasties on so zero nudity. They wanted to constantly get the audience to become the show and it was super awkward and not erotic or sexy at all. My wife had to tell the entertainers NO three times before they would listen. I guess no doesn't mean no to them. The entire thing was so awkward and not sexy that we left early along with at least two other couples. We had researched before buying and read the description many times but was not what was advertised.

We are still just completely shocked at how bad and frankly corny the entire thing was. We heard afterwards that the resort will offer this free to long time guests when they don't have enough other couples to try and get their numbers up and that makes sense now because they want the guests to become the show.

We talked with the manager about the experience and they really didn't care and did not offer and refund or compensation. No Bueno!

F/M 48/52.

Illicit videos taken by influencers at lifestyle resorts going viral

I am seeing a rise in social video content created at lifestyle resorts by influencers, often claiming to "accidentally" have booked a hotel with a bunch of swingers. Sometimes they admit it's an actual swingers resort. Other times they pretend swingers took over their vanilla hotel (but those in the know recognize the background).

They often show faces of all the guests at the resorts, but blur/crop the nudity so their content doesn't get removed by the platform (of course I doubt they are blurring the nudity if they are sharing them elsewhere). These videos are frequently going viral due to the vanilla curiosity of the lifestyle and the places we like to spend our time. Unfortunately, this means that outing someone is almost certain (if that's not one of the intended purposes all along, seeing as they dont blur faces).

A PSA for attendees of these resorts: watch closely for hidden cameras, meta glasses, clip on action cameras, and people filming from windows or balconies of rooms.

The resorts seem to be doing nothing to get the content taken down, and that will ultimately be their demise if they dont figure it out soon. I've even seen Temptation (granted, the Diet Coke of swinger resorts) commenting positively on a video despite it being taken against their own rules. A different video taken at Temptation from a balcony zoomed in on the face of every topless woman in the pool. The video had \~50,000 likes (meaning an estimated 500,000 to 1,000,000 views). The user was at a bachelor party and had no idea he had "ended up at a swingers resort."

In many jurisdictions, there is no legally enforceable expectation to privacy when you are out of your room at swinger takeovers or resorts. Being nude in a public place often negates any revenge porn claims that may have otherwise been possible. Usually, only the event or resort has a means of going after these people.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/s/4RUQxWJLxY