Hi everyone,
I am currently established in a long-distance FLR (Online phase for now, planning to meet in a few months). Me 30 and My sub is a 41-year-old—he is highly intellectual, structured, financially independent, and extremely eager to serve.
He recently fully surrendered, stating he wants to follow my "brain and body" and handles psychological submission/discipline very well. However, since we are strictly online right now due to the distance, I want to expand my protocols. I don’t want our dynamic to just be texting or talking; I want real, actionable investment.
I’m looking for creative ideas from experienced Queens/Dominants on how to implement:
1.Financial/Material Tributes from afar: (e.g., setting up local deliveries to my doorstep, luxury treats, or creating a dedicated savings fund for my upcoming birthday/future gifts).
Daily/Weekly Tasks: How can I use his professional background or his structured routine to serve my daily life?
Psychological & Physical Discipline over Cam/Text: Beyond the usual, what are some high-authority tasks that keep a sub "caged" mentally throughout his day while he is working?
He is very open to humiliation, shame, and complete control, so I don't want to play nice. I want to build a solid routine that tests his consistency before we take the next big step in person.
Would love to hear your best protocols for long-distance ownership! Thank you.
To keep in mind: we are on day 3 yet he insists to surrender and trust me completely so is that normal?
Hello. Newer to FLR but it’s definitely something I want to explore further. I’m wondering if anyone has any tips for my solo time that can help to train me. Looking for suggestions to make my own chores to feel more submissive or tips for things like sitting down to pee every time.
TIA for your suggestions!
My last girlfriend is where I really came into this FLR thing and liking aspects of it. Our last Christmas together I gave here a coupon of me as her house boy for the weekend.
It was great. Woke up Saturday and walked her dogs, did a famers market run, made her breakfast in bed then ran all her errands and put everything away.
While she lounged all day I waited on her hand and foot and also had a a long chore list to do. I did everything all day whatever she needed done. Some intimacy was involved which focused on her pleasure and there was some teasing and spanking involved for me along with giving her a full body massage.
Sunday was the same, dogs, cook, clean, chores. She even left to go have brunch with her girlfriends and I did chores she didn’t even have on the list.
I’m looking for this in my next relationship and in the meantime wondering if there are options for me to experience some of this on my own.
Now every so often I’ll turn my own chores into pretending to be her house boy again while I clean my house. Obviously that’d be better with someone or something leading this.
It got me thinking about platonic options of this without intimacy.
I’ve recently convinced a friend to be my trainer as she is training for a half marathon and she said I should sign up. She agrees to going on walk/jogs/runs together and doing some FaceTime workouts. I will also have to do a daily workout on my own and then everyday I’ll get a number and do that many sit ups and push ups.
If you’re still reading thank you.
This is the part where the advice seeking comes into play.
Are there resources out there that can be used to plug in chores and make it feel like it did that weekend?
What are ways you can experience this feeling in other ways during dating/getting to know you?
I’m wondering if asking my ex or someone to do this no string attached is an option as the dating world sucks
I’d like intimacy included but I’d do without
Thoughts/advice?