r/FindomSFW

I hope to find a gentle soul who will help me to stop thinking, to stop the ego trap of selfishness. Who can help me just let go and let Mommy take over, trust in her to do what is best for me and not think about it anymore. Have a good and interesting day.

Hey everyone,
I'm posting this because I'm honestly getting super burnt out. I've been practicing for a few months now and trying to meet serious subs, but to be honest, it's such a pain.

I feel like I only ever run into two extremes that totally block me: either they're fakes or time-wasters, or they're people who are way too psychologically fragile, and it makes me too uncomfortable to take things any further. Because of that, I end up blocking myself.

So far, the only real-life meetings I've actually managed to pull off were pure luck. I ran into two guys here on Reddit. But outside of that, it's absolute radio silence.
So I'm mainly asking the other dommes in this sub: how do you guys do it? How do you screen people beforehand to filter out the toxic or unstable profiles?

I've honestly gotten to a point where I wonder if all of this is even "real," since my actual concrete experiences boil down to just those two exceptions. Are all those crazy numbers or success stories we see everywhere about dommes managing dozens of perfect subs actually real, or is it mostly just hype/marketing?
I'd love to hear your feedback and advice because I'm starting to seriously question how to move forward.