r/Married_R4R

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only looking for something online. i want a flirty, consistent online bf/fling that stays online and actually feels good to be in.

being upfront, i’m unhappily married but not in a great place. my husband knows i talk to people, just not the details. if that’s not your thing, no worries.

not looking for something purely sexual. i like flirting, but i don’t rush and want a real connection too.

i need someone consistent, communicative, and emotionally present. if you go quiet, disappear, or avoid real conversations, we won’t click.

i’m 5’9, so i do prefer taller guys (being honest about what i’m attracted to - since im tall)

I’m a huge homebody into modded minecraft, cozy games, good convo, a little chaotic energy. down for discord (text + some vc).

i don’t chat on reddit, if we vibe, we’ll move to discord.

here’s me: https://imgur.com/a/FUAEV6p

if you message me:

send your age, a bit about you, AND a selfie (imgur link or selfie after I accept msg is fine)

i’ll ONLY respond if there’s mutual attraction + effort from the start (sorry <33)

u/Starlitfalry — 3 days ago

28 [M4F] #Dallas- married and looking for someone who I can make laugh, I bet it will be you

Eddie wanted desperately to have sex with the hot girl at work, but she had a boyfriend. One day Eddie got so desperate that he went to her and said " I'll give you 100 dollars if you have sex with me." The girl looked at him shocked and said "hell no!" He said it'll be real quick I'll throw the money on the floor, you bend over and get it, and I'll be finished by the time you've picked it up! She thought for a moment and told him that she would have to talk to her boyfriend.
So she called him and explained the situation. Her boyfriend says, " ask him for $200. Pick up the money really fast, and he won't be able to get his pants down!" She agreed and accepts the proposal. 30 minutes go by and the boyfriend is still waiting for his girlfriends call. Finally after 45 minutes, the boyfriend calls and ask "what the fuck happened!" Still breathing hard she managed to reply, " that bastard had all quarters!”

Maybe I watch too much tv but I always remember the funny guys always getting the beautiful women and it makes sense, if you’re bored and trying to find that connection, why bother filing through dry message after message when you can talk to someone who can make you laugh and smile just from looking at your phone.

A little about me, I’m 28, 6ft, very tan, in shape, with dark curly hair and a very infectious smile. I play rugby on the weekends so I’m excellent arm candy and would consider myself pretty funny but would rather you be the judge. I’m looking for someone who makes me excited, makes me want to constantly check my phone to see if she messaged me, and makes me smile without even realizing it. I want someone who I can talk to who’ll add spice to an otherwise mundane and boring day and I hoping it’s you. If you resonate with this or you just want to reach out to tell me how shitty my joke is, my dms are always open lol

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u/Long-Bus-3378 — 4 days ago

27 [f4m] #losangeles/online - bi girl married to a women but missing the other half

Mainly looking for discreet online fun. I’m white, chubby side, tatted, big tits. Prefer cut white or latino men but not always a deal breaker. Plsss don’t be dry. I LOVE a guy who’s descriptive/a good writer. Looking for someone to match my freak as well as I’m veryy kinky (public, somno, cnc, watersports, etc). If I lag it sometimes as well I’m literally probably just at work lol. Message with some stats :) like age, quick physical description, kinks etc.

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u/3pt_slow — 4 days ago

32[F4A]#Online- Seeking Genuine

I’m not looking to blow up my life.
I’m looking to feel something in it again.

Happily married woman here, and I mean that sincerely. My marriage is safe, loving, stable, and deeply comforting. I have a partner who knows me completely, the unfiltered version of me, and there’s something profoundly beautiful about being chosen day after day by someone you’ve built a life with.

But comfort and excitement aren’t always the same thing.

I miss butterflies.
I miss anticipation.
I miss staring at my phone waiting for a message that makes my stomach flip. I miss conversations that stretch too late into the night, emotional tension, playful teasing, intellectual chemistry, and the delicious feeling of being seen through fresh eyes.

So this is me being honest about wanting an online only connection rooted in romance, curiosity, chemistry, and emotional intimacy. Not looking to meet. Not looking to change my situation. Not looking for chaos, guilt, or dishonesty. I’m looking for a mutually understood escape hatch from routine, something exhilarating and emotionally alive.

About me:
I’m thoughtful, affectionate, emotionally intelligent, and probably more sentimental than I let on at first. I love books, gardening, wandering through farmers markets and antique shops, fostering animals, and getting lost in conversations that drift from ridiculous to vulnerable without warning. I can be playful and teasing one minute and intensely introspective the next.

Physically, I have soft black hair, expressive blue eyes, and the kind of look that’s more “come closer and stay awhile” than intimidatingly polished. Feminine, freckled, bbw, cozy, a little dark around the edges in aesthetic, but warm once you get to know me. I’m more likely to be found in an oversized sweater with messy hair and a cup of coffee than dressed for a spotlight, though I clean up beautifully when the mood strikes.

I’m drawn to emotional chemistry as much as physical attraction. Wit matters. Curiosity matters. Effort matters. I like people who notice things. People who can flirt without sounding copy and pasted. People who ask questions because they genuinely want to know the answer.

What I’m looking for:
Someone emotionally mature, kind, articulate, and self aware. Someone who understands boundaries are what make this feel safe instead of messy. Married or attached is fine if you’re honest and emotionally grounded. I’m not interested in rescuing anyone from their life, and I don’t need rescuing either.

I want:
- tension
- banter
- vulnerability
- long messages
- stolen moments during busy days
- mutual obsession without possession
- emotional intimacy without demands
- romance that exists because we choose it, not because we need it

If you’ve also found yourself missing that electric feeling while still appreciating the life you’ve built maybe we’d understand each other.

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u/Little_Fenrir — 11 days ago
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49 [M4F] #20850 Making out and cuddling

Married guy here and there is nothing that I love more than a long, passionate making out session.

Kissing is the best thing ever, the hottest, the most intimate, it's just amazing!

That is absolutely the thing I love doing the most, and I crave it so much.
Even when it doesn't lead to anything else, it is still extremely enjoyable!

If you agree and crave making out as much as I do, we should get together!

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u/PopSudden998 — 9 days ago

33[M4F] #online- looking for spice and nice

Hey there. Exactly how this sounds. Looking for that workday conversation, fun, excitement. I like music, the outdoors, hiking, camping. I’m an Avid Fisherman, and just generally like spending my time outside when I’m not working. I’m not looking to ruin your situation or mine. Just wanting a little bit of spice with everything nice. Someone to make me feel important again. I have my profile hidden, but just ask and you can see :) hope to hear from you.

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u/VAWildd — 9 days ago
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43 [M4F] 20003 - Memorial Day Weekend Trip

Hi, I have a trip to Punta Cana leaving 22 May and Returning 25 May. Looking for a nice woman to spend the weekend with. Maybe we can meet for a drink and see if we vibe and if so, little vacay on me! DM if you’re interested.

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u/mtnsmall24 — 12 days ago
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33 [M4F/MF] #Burbank -

Looking for a fwb into breeding/creampies who is clean and wanting something consistent. Definitely up for actual hanging out too. I can host but happy to drive to you too.

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u/DonutFit6976 — 9 days ago

27 (F4M) married,but feel alone

Hello,I’m a 27 years old named Kylie from Denver Colorado,I’ve gotten mins bored in my last two years marriage and am looking for people to chat tossin around some flirty men’s . I wanna feel that spark again . I love to flirt and would love to make you blush and make you happy by many ways you wish
I've never done this before, I am married but he has been away for a while. I’m a very laid back fun person. I love to do stuff outside but also love having Netflix,YouTube and watch movies.
I would love to find a fun, laid back guy to chat with..make eachothers days more fun and exciting..I love the thought of making a guys day better from when he wakes up to when he goes to bed. Share photos/videos, maybe even video chats.
I’m a open book so ask away :)

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u/Reference4860 — 14 days ago
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33 [M4A] Belmont - Discrete passion

Craving a NSA adventure with other like minded and clean individual(s)

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u/ChiefHankerT — 14 days ago