Anyone else wish they could un-heal and go back to casual hookups from time to time?
So I’ve been dating on and off for a few years, 43F here and been in counseling consistently for those same years and I’ve found myself getting more selective in who I will even go on a date with bc truthfully I want long term but tired, so tired, of the dating game. Originally married the wrong guy and left after many years of being a roommate. Then dated a few who weren’t healed or over their ex spouse.
Yea I have hobbies and a job and friends and do the self care, but sometimes you just don’t want to wake up alone. But I find myself thinking… through all the “work” in healing and self-worth, I just want to go back on Fet and find a hookup but I know I wouldn’t even enjoy the evening with a one night stand or casual.
Am I alone in this? Or do others feel like this from time to time? I mean honestly, I have a high drive and typically I’ll abstain until I find the right person but shit this is getting old.
And I can tell you I don’t relate to the women who say they won’t sleep with a guy for three months, sorry, I’m not her. I’m not wasting three months to find out someone is lousy in bed. Bc it’s happened and what a disappointment.
Sorta a vent post. Sorta a question.
Will be happy when I find my person that’s for dang sure.