r/SugarRelationship

Returning SD here after being out of the bowl for a while.
I had great success with Seeking in the past, but from everything I’ve been reading it sounds like the landscape has changed quite a bit. I just started looking at SugarDaddyMeet for the first time, and I’ve also heard very mixed things about Secret Benefits and WhatsYourPrice.

For those who have actually used these recently, which one is the least bad in 2026?

Location probably matters a lot, so I’m particularly interested in experiences from North Jersey / the NJ side of the NYC metro area. I’m not really interested in having to go into Manhattan regularly just because the pool is larger there.

My priorities are pretty simple: real people, local enough to actually date, fewer scammers/time-wasters, and people interested in a genuine ongoing sugar relationship rather than online only.

Curious what SDs and SBs in this area are actually having success with lately.

Seeking? SDM? Secret Benefits? Something else entirely?

Finding someone on here is harder than it seems, as searching on other sites is much easier. Having been referred to Reddit multiple times, I find it hard to believe that individuals actually find a suitable arrangement here.

why is it that some proclaimed SD’s give tasks to their SBs and then ghost them without an explanation :/

is it hard to provide an explanation?

My girlfriend and I(f) go out looking very sexy which attracts men…. We are not bother by that at all. But they ask us if they can watch or join and then get offended when we say not for free.
That’s not word for word on every occasion.

How do we tell men we are not free or sl*ts

Definitely are not strippers or sex workers but would enjoy a sb / sd relationship.

Also why is every man MARRIED

Uggh
Pls help

I thought I would reach out to this community for pointers. I previously had one SD/SB relationship about 10 years ago and it was fantastic. We both found at the right time in place in life and had a great relationship for about a year and a half.… and only ended after she took a job in another state and was starting her career. We kept in touch and she’s now married with kids. Really happy to see that.

That said… I’m now looking for something similar and everywhere I turn women are looking to sell content or some are just looking to get paid for sex. I’m struggling to find anyone who is looking for more of a connection and isn’t just trying to sell content. It’s really frustrating, especially when I live in very populated central FL area with lots of colleges and young adults.

Where are the authentic sugar babies who care about more than getting another subscriber??

I met on app with a serious older POT, he is living in another city and he wanted to start to build arrangement 4-5 times in a year he comes to my city and we agreed on allowance biweekly but he didn’t send me anything yet and wants me to text him a few times a day and reply him and sometimes wants some special moments on text, almost a month, I can do that but I don’t wanna give time or share pics without receiving anything, he still waits day to meet in September like everyday messaging but nothing motivate me to continue. And even I don’t know he will keep his words and pay regularly 😉 if you are in my shoes what would you do 🤍

One time arrangement
I want Online shopping experience
I want to pay for whatever my sugar baby wants online
(Preferably in my budget)