r/SugarRelationship

I have an SD and honestly he’s pretty good when it comes to spoiling me, but he almost never gives cash directly. It’s usually gifts, shopping, vouchers, food deliveries, and other stuff like that.

I’m not exactly complaining because he does spend money on me, but sometimes I wonder if this is normal in SR's or not. Most arrangements I see online talk about allowances or ppm, so now I’m curious how common this type of arrangement actually is.

Do SDs just prefer gifting over cash, or this simply a sign that they’re avoiding real financial support?

I am a newbie. My SD said he had a PPM arrangement with a SB for a year previously, and its exclusive. So i just agreed to it. The hotel he books is very far from me (45mins drive), and he offer to drive/drop me off.

I cannot stay overnight at a hotel in general. SD initially invited to meet up at hotel late morning on a weekday, then he suggested to have dinner together the day before. I suggested a casual and nice restaurant nearby my home so its logistically easier - as i only have ~3 hours at night between finishing work and wind down/sleep time. However SD insisted to drive (45mins) to have dinner at a restaurant nearby the hotel and do a bit bedroom thing as "prelude" the night before.

I am a bit pissed. The evening is not paid, only the next morning is paid. Its nice to spend some time outside the bedroom together, but for me to spend 1.5hours on commute after a full workday so he can have some sexual fun in a hotel, and this will squeeze the dinner time too.

In addition, i think the PPM amount is too low for the time and effort i spend on each meet up.

SDs and SBs what do you think ? Please help me.

Dm me

I used to have one before, but we decided to part ways due to some personal reasons, and i tried to find some again, i have tried several websites but ended up deactivating/deleting it since it feels like it is full of bot, and only few are real people in there.

I’m an F22, waiting to be able to take my licensure exam until next year. Have been going through something rough and needing the money to move away from my toxic family. I’ve been considering looking for a sd but don’t know where to start. I know doing this sounds ridiculous right now but I can’t wait for another year to leave this goddamn place.

I’m curious about how these relationships work. Is it all just about sex?

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So I have been chatting with a possible SD. He provided proof of his last SBs and I really think he's legit. We also called two times now (SFW). He picked out my clothes from Shein. But now that it comes to payment he for some reason cannot pay (apparently there's some bugs in it) I tried to search his payment username and nothing came up. We really clicked and I thought he could be yk real but now I'm unsure what to think. Can anyone give me advice or their thoughts?

I love to go shopping and party. 💰
I need a long-term sugar baby that is open to being my girl bestie when we are out, but always submissive!
Must be willing to travel and stay with my husband and I. (All expenses paid) You will have your own room. ❤️

ONLY F/18-22

Hey everyone,

I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to share my recent experience because it feels like a real win after some duds.

A couple weeks ago I connected with this guy (early 50s, owns a couple of businesses) on Seeking. His profile was low-key but the conversation was surprisingly good — no immediate dick pics or “what are you bringing to the table” nonsense. We chatted for about a week, nothing too heavy, just normal getting-to-know-you stuff. He suggested a lunch M&G at a nice steakhouse downtown.

I was nervous as hell because my last two meets were awkward and cheap. But when I showed up he was already there, well-dressed, good energy. He stood up, hugged me, and immediately told me I looked even better than my pics (points for that lol). We had a really nice lunch — he was funny, asked about my goals, and didn’t grill me about my body count or whatever.

After the meal he said he had something small for me “just because.” Handed me an envelope with $800 inside and said it was for my time and to buy something nice. No pressure, no “let’s go back to my hotel.” Just “I’d love to see you again if you’re comfortable.”

We’ve now had three dates. The last one he took me shopping and told me to pick out a bag I liked (got a gorgeous YSL I’ve been eyeing forever). We haven’t even slept together yet — he said he wants us both to be relaxed when it happens. PPM is generous and consistent, and he’s already talking about helping with my tuition next semester.

I’m lowkey scared it’s too good to be true, but so far it feels really comfortable. Has anyone else had that “this one feels different” experience that actually worked out?

Would love to hear your thoughts or similar stories!

SD claiming he is a professional dom and SD said he wants me to completely submit and then get paid until 3 days later. I try to arrange for a small payment today and the rest of the money in three days, they’re refusing. What is happening?

This is online btw

Hi there. I’m a 25-year-old woman based in Goa
educated, well-spoken, emotionally aware, and someone who has gone through a lot in life. At this stage, I’m looking for a mature, meaningful, mutually beneficial connection with the right man.
I appreciate a man who is emotionally intelligent, respectful, generous, experienced, and knows exactly what he wants. Someone who enjoys taking care of his woman, providing, spoiling, guiding, and building a genuine connection beyond just surface level attraction.

What I’m looking for:
Exclusive & long-term arrangement
Emotional connection and companionship
Dates, travel, quality time, experiences together
A generous provider mindset
Someone intelligent who can also mentor/share knowledge and life experience

Respect and chemistry matter a lot to me
I’m open to travel depending on the vibe and connection, provided travel expenses are taken care of
I’m someone who values attention, affection, consistency, and effort. Physical chemistry is important too, but only with the right connection and comfort.

If you think we may align, send me a proper introduction:
Where you’re from
What you do
What kind of arrangement you’re looking for
How you prefer to provide/spoil in a relationship
Please put effort into your message low effort DMs will most likely be ignored.

You can check my profile if you’d like to get an idea of how I look.
Looking forward to meeting someone genuine, generous, and emotionally mature.

I am a newbie. I signed up SD for some fun and financial help. I am quite busy and have friends, work and child, not looking for a relationship/soul mate in SD.

Turned down first SD, who offered a monthly allowance for part-time girlfriend style, the allowance is too low and i am not interested to hang out with him (not interesting person) either.

Second SD is wealthy, net worth >10MM, not divorced but open marriage. He offered PPM. Nice cars, nice restaurants, very gentleman and loving in bedroom (but it was very boring - just full disclosure, I know I should not have expectations). Respectful about my life and time. I agreed to the PPM price thinking it would be a lunch + 1~2 hours in bed, however it ends up being 3.5 hours in bed........., plus the hotel he preferred is 40mins from my place so in total it will take me more than 5 hours and I won't be able to stay for dinner afterwards (my own reason). After first time, I felt the PPM price for such a production is too low. It is even lower than my hourly rate at work................

After first date and meet up, he seems like me a lot. He started to text me everyday, about his life, asking how was my day, text good morning, good night .etc. And he sometimes video call me just to say hello. He has also been suggesting outdoor sports / activities to do together. Also he even volunteered himself to be my date at a gala that i am going to attend, 5 days after we met.

To provide such attention constraints my time really - I work and do child care responsibilities, then squeeze in workout/reading time. His PPM price is too low for me to provide daily attention, be available for sports/activities like a real GF......

It looks like his expectation is quite clear - a soul mate, part time fun partner, some texts and calls, and available once a week in bedroom. If the PPM is increased by 60%, or turn into a monthly allowance (assuming bedroom meet up 4~5 times) i would be happy to re-order my priorities and provide that. And I know he absolutely can afford it!!!!!

How do i communicate with him without making him feel it is purely transactional - which is not. How do I know if he would provide the potential increase of allowance/PPM if the relationship develops? Someone could promise - oh maybe we can increase in a few months if this works out, lets say how things goes - then it becomes a target for me to perform and hit.

F 26 beautiful body, brown eyes. I’m struggling financially a lot. I’m getting my PhD and don’t have money to sustain myself l. Can you please help me and I’ll help you? 😉