r/bdsm

I have been dating a wonderful woman for about a year who is a self-admitted sub. She says that I am a “pleasure dom.” I don’t really understand the lifestyle but am learning and I also know that she wants to be spanked and flogged. She had a couple of floggers.

I told her that I would indulge her…I’ve spanked partners before but the “scene” was usually about being punished.

I don’t want that with this partner; she is such an amazingly good girl. She gave me a “target” graphic that shows good and bad areas, and wrote a short story about how it might play out . I am very intentional and confident in my lovemaking and don’t want to appear otherwise here. She loves to call me sir 🙂

I am looking for advice how to proceed. I know I am overthinking, but pain as a part of sex and intimacy is new to me.

Also will take suggestions on different subs if there is a better one for this.