r/collegestationhookup2

Hi everyone,

First year college student here, Asian F. So I posted before about my challenges wrapping around my head around Greek Life and being in college in the SEC, . Long story short, because of greek life hazing or whatever, I was matched to hook up with a guy from the much larger white frat even though I had a bf. My older posts were more complainy in tone because I didnt know how to deal with the situation.

I recently spoke to some people about this and they helped me understand i need to learn to focus more on the positive by relying on positive delusion as a coping mechanism. Instead of complaining about the situation, look at it more learn a trauma bond i got to experience with my sisters and that it was actually a good thing that I got to take care of this white man despite having bfs. It was all part of the college experience. I admit i'm still working on this.

I cant promise that i wont drift back to the negative thinking and complaining but ill try to do better. :)