My friend copied FLR and broke her husband.
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I’ve been in a happy, healthy Female-Led Relationship (FLR) with my husband for over a decade. We have a great balance: he chooses to be submissive to me at home, but he remains highly dynamic in his career and active in his social life. I have never taken away his financial power or isolated him, because my goal was never to crush his spirit.
A few years ago, we went on a picnic with another couple who are close family friends. During the drive, my husband started praising me non-stop. His total devotion raised my friend's eyebrows. She realized my husband completely follows my lead. She got jealous, and since her husband is naturally an extravagant spender, she decided to "leash" him but she took it the wrong way.
She took total control of the finances and started giving him a tiny daily allowance. Now, he literally has to beg her for money just to buy a cup of tea. She also completely cut him off from his friends and even stopped him from talking to his parents. Because of this, he has become completely aloof, tensed, and isolated.
The worst part is the psychological damage. He has completely stopped using his discretion.He can no longer make decisions at his office job or navigate his career because his confidence is entirely gone. He is just a shell of himself.
This is absolutely not what a healthy FLR is supposed to look like. She mistook loving, consensual leadership for absolute tyranny and fear-based isolation.