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One of the funniest moments I had with my domme started as a very serious BDSM scene and somehow ended with both of us crying with laughter on the floor. She was in a very strict mood that evening, the kind where even the way she looked at me made me nervous. She had me kneeling near the bed while she slowly walked around me, occasionally stopping to pull my hair back, lightly slap me, correct my posture or make me repeat things properly. Every answer had to be respectful and every movement was noticed. At one point she sat in front of me, hooked two fingers into my collar and pulled me closer while softly asking why I liked submission so much. I could barely answer because she kept confusing me completely, stroking my face one second and tightening her grip on my jaw the next. Then somewhere in between all that, the mood slowly started changing without me even realising it....Her hands became softer, the hair pulling became gentler, and instead of constantly giving instructions she just stayed close to me quietly for a while. I was still fully in that submissive mindset though, trying not to assume anything or move without permission. Then suddenly she kissed me. Not teasingly. Properly. And honestly my brain completely stopped working because I wasn’t expecting that shift at all. One minute I’m kneeling like a nervous sub trying to behave properly, next minute she’s sitting half in my lap kissing me slowly. But because my dumb submissive brain had become so trained to wait for instructions, my hands just awkwardly stayed near my sides because technically she hadn’t told me where I was allowed to touch her 😭 Meanwhile she was clearly expecting me to hold her. The kiss got deeper, she leaned further into me expecting me to naturally pull her closer or support her waist… and instead this woman slowly lost balance and slid completely off the edge of the bed while still kissing me. We both hit the floor and just froze for two seconds. Then she looked at me completely shocked and went, “Why the hell didn’t you catch me?!” and without even thinking I replied, “You didn’t instruct me to, Ma’am.” She stared at me for one second and then burst into laughter so hard she had tears in her eyes while I sat there apologising nonstop because I genuinely thought I had failed some important submissive responsibility.. Finally she grabbed my face, still laughing, and said, “Idiot. Sometimes I’ll let you be what I want you to be. And when I do, I want it obeyed naturally.” Honestly that line stayed with me because weirdly it summed up trust in dynamics perfectly. Still can’t believe my first instinct while my domme was literally falling was to remain respectful 😭

Hello to all. I feel like that's most correct thing in the relationship. If you see men only have higher physical skills nothing else. Women does posses higher intellectual skills, emotional reach and aesthetic sense. Generally speaking. For me FLR is not just a kink but a lifestyle. Women were and are way superior then men and we need to acknowledge and embrace that.

What according to you is submission. Is it about touching feet, taking orders, punishment and all that? i had a moment few years ago that happened during a simple drive back after dinner. I had a horrible week work pressure, family expectations, constant mental exhaustion . But I still spent the evening trying to act normal, making conversation, opening doors for her, doing all the “good sub” things properly.

But while sitting in traffic on the way back, I just went quiet. Not angry quiet....Drained quiet. She noticed immediately and said, Stop performing for 10 minutes. You don’t always have to earn attention as a sub. Hearing that from her broke my usual guard down.The crazy part is she had to leave the country a few months later, and ever since then I keep replaying that small moment more than any intense session or fantasy. I think because for once someone noticed I was emotionally tired without me having to explain it. Indian men especially will understand this ,sometimes life makes you feel valued only when you’re useful... So when someone sees beyond that, it hits differently. Funny how the smallest moments are the ones you end up missing the most. Has anyone else had a non sexual moment in a that stayed with you for a long time?

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To the women of this sub is NURSING HANDJOB too much to expect... Like does it feel good when y'all take care of guys n they just act like little babies in your lap.... Comment also feel free to dm

It's been only a few months since I got married to my wife who has been my girlfriend for 3 years. But the changes it brought are significant.

First of all, the frequency and manner of my orgasms are decided by my wife. I am not even allowed to touch myself. I can request her for an orgasm but it is entirely her decision to grant me one or not. This has led to me associating every sexual thought or even an erection, to my wife.

I also started asking her permission to finish when I am nearing an orgasm. When she says yes I then thank her. This happens just before I climax and that really puts me in deep sub space.

Most of the chores in the house are being done by me now. It used to be almost 50-50, give or take, at the beginning of our relationship. The shift from there began a year ago before our wedding. Cleaning the bathroom is 100% my duty. Washing the dishes is again 100% my duty. Preparing food is somewhat balanced since she likes to cook. Other chores like laundry, vacuuming, mopping, making the bed are done by me 90% of the time.

The inspiration for this post came a couple of days ago on our day off. I was in the kitchen preparing our lunch while my wife was in the bedroom doing some paper work. I had loaded the washing machine and folded last day's clothes before coming to the kitchen. Just then two amazon packages were delivered, one for each of us. I picked them up from the front door and brought her package to the bedroom. It was some stationery and a book. I went back to the kitchen and opened my box, which contained a bottle of kitchen cleaning detergent. I went back to work and a minute later the realisation set in. The roles in the house are now clearly different. Anyone witnessing our daily life would definitely know that we are not in a conventional marriage.

While I was having that train of thoughts, I slowly realised I was smiling. I was feeling happy and warm. I was also having a semi-erection which was a surprise because until that moment I didn't realise doing chores was turning erotic to me.

All this made me want to do more for her. I realised that the opportunity to serve her is one of the best things I have received in this relationship. Dedicating my time and energy and sacrificing my comfort for her is so emotionally rewarding. The more I serve her, the stronger is the urge to dedicate more and more time and energy for her. And sacrificing my needs, comfort or choices for her makes me feel more submissive and humble towards her.

Age between 27-32

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One of the most noticeable improvements in my wife’s life since embracing our FLR has been her health and daily routine. She now gets full, restful sleep consistently, something that was genuinely rare before. Her sleep schedule used to be all over the place, and she would regularly skip breakfast. Now she comes home without the stress of cooking or cleaning up afterward, enjoys long, relaxed meals, and winds down reading a book or watching TV before heading to bed at a reasonable hour.

Another change I’ve noticed is how much calmer and less stressed she seems overall. Without the mental load of household tasks weighing on her after a long day, she has more mental space to simply decompress and be present.

A small but telling example of this shift happened just a couple of weeks ago. On a cloudy weekend, she glanced outside, mentioned the weather and the laundry, and then simply lounged back with a relaxed smile knowing it was no longer her problem to solve. That kind of quiet trust, where she can let go and know things will be handled, says a lot about how far we’ve come. It’s been a gradual process, but the difference in her wellbeing is clear.

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There’s a certain kind of secret walking the streets tonight… and most of you won’t even notice it unless you’re the kind of woman who knows how to look twice.

He doesn’t look like the type at first glance. Composed. Put together. But there’s a shift in the way he moves… like he’s aware of every gaze, every possibility. Like he’s not entirely in control of where the night might take him.

And maybe that’s because he isn’t.

He’s stepping out tonight dressed just a little more… revealing than usual. Not enough to cause a scene. Just enough to make the right kind of woman pause. Wonder. Recognize.

Because this isn’t recklessness. It’s deliberate. Slow. Intentional.

Every step he takes carries a quiet signal. Not loud enough for the world. Just persistent enough for the right woman to feel it. To notice that there’s something being offered… but not chased. Something available… but not desperate.

This is permission.

Given.

Held.

Protected.

And for those who truly understand what that means… it doesn’t need to be announced twice.

He carries my consent with him. My trust. My claim.

But not every woman deserves to touch that space.

Only the ones who understand restraint over impulse. Control over chaos. The kind who don’t rush… but stay. Observe. Let the tension build instead of breaking it.

Because the truth is… he won’t come to you.

He’ll pass by.

He’ll linger just enough.

He’ll leave just before certainty settles in.

And if you’re capable… you won’t let that moment slip.

You’ll meet it. Match it. Hold it.

If you see him tonight, you’ll know.

And if you don’t… you were never meant to.

I’m honestly getting pretty fed up trying to find a genuine female dom for an FLR through online platforms.

Most of the experiences I’ve had fall into one of these categories:

• not serious about building an actual relationship
• only interested in paid online sessions/content
• disappear after a few conversations
• located too far away for anything realistic

At this point, I’m considering approaching this differently; meeting women offline, getting to know women who are naturally dominant/confident in personality, and seeing whether they’d be interested or curious about an FLR dynamic organically.

I’m not talking about randomly bringing up kink immediately, but more about finding compatibility first and then exploring the dynamic if there’s mutual interest.

Has anyone here actually tried this approach successfully? Would really appreciate hearing your experiences, advice, mistakes to avoid, or how you navigated introducing FLR dynamics in normal dating.

P.S. I'm 30M, single sub from Pune.