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Clenching or hold/relax, no touch for a weeks or edge, no visual stimulation or with it? I almost came a few times, but this is feel so random. Tried hypno, binaural beats, imagination and just porn, but best attempts I got was without everything, with completely empty mind and focus on feelings. Also, does breath control really helps that much? Because spreading focus on breath and feelings doesn't really help, idk.

(These are my experiences and mindsets going into HFO)
Like the title suggests, you really have to treat it like a game.

I’m sure many can relate- it starts off feeling good, throbbing, filling up, twitching, etc. But somewhere it fades.
My mentality was always “that felt good, I want it back” so i’d flex a little harder, try to get more turned on by the porn I was watching, try to visualize the pleasure building. It would faintly help, but not much.
I came to realize that I was taking pleasure too seriously, it felt really good, but wasn’t fun. I was stuck in a loop of trying to maintain what I was feeling

What really changed things for me- hfo isn’t like using your hand, your penis/body doesn’t always need 1 thing. The harder you try to do what you want, the less your body responds. Both you and your body want the same outcome, but both are fighting which way to get there.

Most posts i’ve seen here are very “get in touch with your body” or “visualize the pleasure building” (Which are not bad points at all, just very general) A lot of posts tell you that each person is different in what they need, and you have to figure out what your body needs.

I’ve learned that your body will tell you exactly what it needs, you just have to learn stop trying so hard and understand that you and your body want the same thing.

When you’re laying down and you’re itching to twitch your dick, that’s your body saying it wants to flex. You’ll feel it, it will reward you with pleasure for listening and following its instructions. Sometimes you’re flexing and you stop feeling like you want to twitch, stop flexing and let the pleasure you have do its thing. 90% of the time when my body tells me to stop flexing and I do, I feel something in the base of my dick inflate and fill with pleasure. Sometimes it wants you to twitch, sometimes flex and hold, sometimes release halfway, sometimes all the way.

Just like a game, understand what the game wants you to do, and follow it to the best of your ability. You’ll notice the game rewards (pleasure pulses, filling feeling, and getting more turned on) When you follow the path of the game, and stay within the guidelines, you’ll reach the end! It becomes fun, non stressful, and overall just feels way better.

People experienced in hfo- what’s your take on this?

Can anybody help me out? All i see when i search online is things about prostate stimulation or sex toys. Does anyone have any tips on how to get started/ resources i can follow?