r/misoparaiso

Today’s culture is obsessed with the female orgasm. Article after article. Research after research. All pointing to and discussing female orgasms, their rate of orgasm, and the orgasm gap.

This focus on the female orgasm lead woman and men to believe that they are not good enough. Women are left feeling like they need to do more. On top of working. On top of far too much for a woman to do anyway. I brings resentment into relationships and tells men they need to do more.

The secret is: women do not need to orgasm. There is not purpose for it. Unlike a man’s which is necessary for species survival a woman’s is simply a nice to have. Currently our culture has forgotten that and pushes its agenda because unhappy marriages where each partner does not understand their purpose is easier to sell to and control.

In my marriage it took me a long time to accept that my wife does not need to orgasm. After years of her telling me “I don’t need to I just want to please you” it still was hard for me to fully believe it because of our societies obsession. She felt pressured and felt she was not good enough because I felt she needed to orgasm. When she was telling me all along she does not and just wants to be used for my enjoyment.

We spoke about it often as I encourage all couples to. Our sex life has improved immediately. Every morning before work I use her body as she smiles. Every day she begins her day with her purpose. And if she wants one she asks.