r/stagvixenpsychology

We have been married for 11 years. Wife has done some Hotwife play over the years but nothing consistent. Absolutely horrible time trying to find a guy she likes. We are a white couple and she’s only been with white guys.

Fast forward to last week and she says she’d be open to playing with a black guy. She is only into clean cut guys who take care of themselves, so I went on a mission to find someone. I’ve found a local black guy who I went and met tonight just to get a feel for him as a person. Great dude and definitely someone she will enjoy. This is all just such a whirlwind and so many layers.

I know it’s pretty much just labels but I’m curious to hear from people on this side of things. Originally I asked her to cuck me but the more we do this the more I think I just enjoy sharing and watching and not being belittled or humiliated. We don’t do this bc I can’t please her (she claims I’m still the best fuck she’s ever had) I just want to let her have other experiences and I enjoy watching and somewhat participating. When we play with couples the guy fucks her and my and the other girl do everything besides actual penetration. Would love to talk to stags about this side of hotwifing.

Wondering how to meet people in the lifestyle. I’ve been the third for a few couples before in the past and it was super hot. Definitely sparked something for me. Now, I think I would like to meet a partner who is into swinging or being shared/slutted out. I am a bit worried about bringing it up to girls I am friendly with since we are in the same social circles. any advice would be appreciated. Thanks! :)