r/stagvixenpsychology

Well we finally did it, I have to say as the Stag in the relationship I was very moved... We have been married 40 years and after a year of discussion and 20 years of fantasy we finally did it, I can't describe the feeling I had watching my wife, it was euphoria to say the least, I think I smiled for an hour watching her. I really just can't describe it, I was nervous about how I would feel and thought maybe a little jealousy would creep in but it was the opposite, when they were finished we were all three laying on the bed together and I was just in Awe..

Seen her come out of the shower, all shaved, with perfume between her breast and under her thighs. Carefully picking out very sexy underwear and a sundress. Seeing how she make sure her hair is just perfect in her makeup is good. The whole time knowing she’s preparing for her lover and anticipating an afternoon and evening of sex.

Having her kiss me, goodbye, knowing that in a very short period of time, she’ll be kissing him, tasting him, and having an afternoon that includes a lot of oral, kissing, and leisurely slow sex. I also know that at some point, she will tell him she wants it harder and rougher.

After the first round, they will lay together, cuddling, kissing, and that she will go down on him again to prepare for round two. She will taste both their cum on him and when he gets hard, she will probably mount him.

Then I will get the call that she’s on her way home and the reconnection will be amazing as she will still be full of him and smelling of him and smelling of sex. While we reconnect, she will tell me all of the details of what they did what they said and how it felt.

I love this part of our relationship and it is made us stronger, we communicate better, and her self-confidence has gone through the ceiling.

We have no regrets whatsoever.

As a Stag Vixxen couple what are the top 3 important factors in deciding on a third. Also, where are you finding reliable thirds to join.

Happy Friday to all!

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for just over a year. She has only played with one guy and we see him roughly once a month. He is a nice guy, very respectful. He is married and his wife is aware and encouraging. We have met her. They have a great marriage as do we. We are both very secure in our relationship and doing this has brought new levels of intimacy and communication. All in all it has been great! We have also recently starting to look for additional play partners and my wife has expressed desires to be with a woman. So all is good!

Except for one tiny little thing that I am having a hard time understanding and dealing with. I hope others may be able to give me some advice on how to manage this internally.

A couple of weeks ago my wife admitted that ahe has strong feels for this guy. She equated her feels with how she feels about some of her closest friends. All good, right? She let the L-bomb drop in talking to me about it. I froze. Shut down completely and almost broke down into tears.

She tried to explain a little more, but I was in a state of shock and didnt hear or retain much of what she had said. A couple nights later they were texting and they told each other that they love eachother. That was way harder to hear than her just telling me.

Her falling for another man was one of my biggest fears going into this. Even with this revelation I do not have concerns with her leaving me. That isnt going to happen and I am not leaving her. We have been married for almost 20 years, this is just something I need to understand and process.

I do not feel like I am losing her or anything like that, but my stomach has been in knots and I feel numb about everything. How do I get an understanding, process this new information, be happy for her, etc. I dont have anyone in my day to day life that even knows we are doing this, let alone talk to about all of the emotions going through my head.

She said he wants to talk to me about it face to face the next time we see him. I dont think I want that to happen. I also told my wife that I feel like it would break me to hear them say it in person, especiallyif it while they are in bed... It is making me extremely anxious leading into the next visit. I dont see how him telling me anything would make me feel better

Anyone been through a similar thing? How did you process and move forward? Advice would be appreciated.

Hi

We are 33M 32F since college we are inviting friends to our bedroom. My husband penis size is avg not small and not enormous. Most of our single guys are thicker or little bit longer or in same size as my husband

Few weeks ago I found a guy in bumble texted for few nights invited him to our hotel room , he is very amazing in oral and kissing me. His penis is small not like very small but he is the smallest guy I had and he came in few seconds and both of us were looking at each other in surprise. Now he is texting me to meet again. I don’t really know he is really good in oral and kissing. I don’t want to be the bitch to tell him that he is not good performer. My husband feel that it was the experience for meeting me first time and said maybe next time he will take some time and satisfy you. I like his personality and I am not into bigger ones but I remember it was really good 30 minutes of kissing and oral then the moment he started it was just three thrusts and he came. He stopped washed himself my husband had some fun with me he came back got aroused a little I tried to wake it up it was awaken I tried multiple times and no it is gone. We didn’t tell him anything and was just kind talking post it and drink a little then he excuses himself. We found his account in swinger website he got few comments from couple

What do you hotwives think ? Shall we invite him again maybe he will perform better ?