UPDATE: Giving our bull a gift(s) for our lifestyle anniversary
UPDATE: Giving our bull a gift(s) for our lifestyle anniversary
I made a post asking for advice on giving our bull a gift(s) for our, or I guess my, 6 months pussy free anniversary. Thank you everyone for your input in the comments and in my DMs. This post is an update laying out what my gf and I have decided. Here’s a link to the original post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/CuckoldPsychology/s/MWezZaBePk
\-To those who brought up concerns about me being pussy free: did a short pussy free trial run, discussed how we felt and if we wanted to continue. We all decided we wanted to continue and picked my birthday later in the summer as my “release date”)
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As opposed to just giving him a physical gift we are treating him to a nice day along with some gifts (plus my gf wanted an excuse to have a fun day). I’ll layout everything from the perspective of how we have the day planned:
\- We’re going to take advantage of the long weekend and go out this Sunday to celebrate. I will tag along and will effectively be acting as our bulls assistant, my gf will act as his gf. We think he deserves a day of the girlfriend experience, plus my gf and I don’t want our dynamic to be clearly displayed in public (her clearly being my gf but I let an older guy treat her like his gf). So I’ll just tag along, typically following a few steps behind them, no displays of affection between her and I, but our bull and her will hold hands, kiss, and whatever other PDA they choose
\- I got them a half day couples spa package. They have one of those fancy packages with a couples body massage, a scalp/foot massage, hot stones, and access to the rest of the spa. I will be at the spa also but only with a regular day pass so I’ll be hanging around the common amenities and they have the time to themselves at their spa treatments as well as the amenities reserved for higher packages (some fancy saunas/steam rooms and a separate pool area)
\- I’ve scheduled a lunch reservation at a pretty nice restaurant that is serving a tasting menu. Our bull is a bit of a foodie and enjoys the fancy/unique food combinations. For the lunch my gf and I decided they should have some private time so I will be across the street having lunch at a more toned down place. Then after lunch we’ll be going to a rooftop cocktail lounge, I won’t be sitting in the same booth/couch area that I reserved for them but won’t be far away. We’ll be in view of one another so it’ll be easy to leave when they’re ready and I can just follow when they get up and wave to me that it’s time to leave
\- We are then going back to my place where I’ll give him the physical gifts. He’s getting a few cigars, a cigar kit, this whiskey he likes, and a robe with his initials embroidered. Lastly I’m giving him a watch my gf got me for Christmas. A person suggested that a gift with sentimental value would be a great display of respect which my gf and I discussed and agreed (it’s not some expensive watch or overly sentimental between us, it wasn’t the “main” gift she got me for Christmas that we both value highly). Oh and thank you to the person who suggested this
\- I got my gf some things to commemorate the occasion for both her and our bull. A new fancy lingerie set, I don’t know what all the things are called exactly so I’ll probably forget some but it has stockings, garters, a belt, crotchless panties, brassiere. Idk it’s 9 pieces lol. A dress she chose, she actually needed a dress for an upcoming event anyway so this works out. I’ll also be surprising her with a small silver necklace
\- After I give our bull his gifts she is going to step away to get ready, shower, hair, makeup, get dressed, etc whatever else girls do to prepare themselves. While she gets ready my responsibility is basically to just make him comfortable and serve him as needed (non sexually lol). Poor him drinks, light his cigar, prepare snacks, give control of the TV, play music, light massages, have conversation, whatever it is he wants really
\- When she’s finished getting ready and joins us in the living room I’ll present her to our bull. I’ll thank him for taking this dynamic upon himself, leading the dynamic, and the positive contributions he’s made to our relationship - my gf wants me to give him a little appreciation speech so that’s what that is really. I’ll ask our bull if he’d do us the honor of taking her raw - I haven’t gone raw with her yet. I will request to film it, offering him a copy of the recording - we haven’t filmed before. Lastly I will ask if he’d be willing to stay the night with her, offering my spot in our bed.
\- We’re also pulling some of our “hesitant” limits back for the day - things that aren’t hard limits but we also things we haven’t explored to much of a degree. Broader impact play (moderate face slapping, whipping, belting, paddling, etc), bondage/restraint/light BDSM gear, spit, light cbt, etc. He’s shown some interest in exploring these with us, but knowing in knowing we’re hesitant of them he has never pushed or pressured us to try them