u/-Letter-Bee-

My wife and I have been together for 12yrs and have gone on a bit of a sexual journey together over the years....

It was only very recently that I "got the courage" to eat her ass... We've done it only a handful of times thus far, and if we're being honest; it turns me on more than I can put into words. OMG

Herein lies the problem; she's indifferent to it. She LOVES when I eat her pussy, and it's the most guaranteed way to make her cum... But she says it's partly mental (it's awkward in her mind) and physical (she said it just doesn't objectively feel great... More like it's just kind of happening). She plays the part while it's happening, and pushes back towards me, really burying me in there... She definitely plays the role, but I know it's just that, performative.

She says that she is OK with us doing it sometimes, because she knows I enjoy it, but I definitely feel some kind of way about her getting pretty much nothing out of it... I know that all kinds of sex acts have different payoffs, and they aren't all physical- but to have her say that she doesn't physically OR mentally get off on it, makes me think twice about doing it at all... I do want sexual enjoyment to be mutual.

Anyone else in this situation?