u/-Toxic_Barbie-

Feminists all too often go out of their way to look less appealing thinking that it somehow helps their cause.
I'll be the 1st one to admit that I'm all up for rights and equality but you don't become any less of a feminist by cornering yourself into looking unfortunate just because a man might think you look good...
I can both support feminism AND look good at the same time!

The truth is that I no longer know who I am. I was a feminist but now seem to be gradually distancing myself from the idea. On the other hand, I am definitely not into all that misogyny that I see around. I just seem to be sitting somewhere in between and trying to figure things out. What really irritates me is the fact that when a feminist starts caring about her appearance, she is seen as failing as a feminist, which makes me feel better and more confident. Why would that make me an “anti feminist” and “internalized misogyny?” Can’t I be in favor of equality and self-respect and still want to look beautiful at the same time? I definitely do not intend to completely disown my femininity but the constant guilt trip does not sit well with me. In addition, the “women are inferior creatures and should bow before men” idea sounds completely wrong to me.

There has to be some middle ground, right?

Just because I put effort into my looks doesn't make me a gender traitor or whatever...
I can want respect and rights for women.
I always stand by is that getting lip filler, taking care of my appearance, and looking good is not against feminism at all. Just because I have big plump lips and put effort into how I look doesn't mean I'm doing it for men. It's crazy how so many guys automatically assume that if a woman looks hot, it must be for them or because of them. Newsflash... it's for me.

I find it kind of boring that most convos on here just end up being the same old rephrased or copy pasted talking point
It feels like there are like 10 ppl on 30 account just spamming the same or similar msgs and tbh its kind of tiring sifting through them all