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Heading to Mingle tonight for the first time and to say I feel overwhelmed is an understatement. I need a night out because I am a single dad who either works or kids means my life is alrwady so overwhelmed. This was meant to be a time for me to just chill out and be kid free/work free and time I could just chill and relax. Have some great friends who are trying to support me in this but I feel like I am pushing them away because they are speaking positive and I am leaning more negative about what I am feeling and how I am coping with the thought of going.

I came out of a vanilla marriage a few years ago and since then have really found myself and what I enjoy and had some experiences. I still feel that I concentrate to much towards the spicy side of things instead of just going with the flow. How have people dealt with this, I just lean more towards sitting an observing and taking it all in to try and cope with the overwhelm. I am going with a FWB and staying in the city and even the thought of being intimate afterwards genuinely makes me uneasy.

As I am writing this genuinely feel like it's to much to go tonight and instead just want to stay in the hotel and sleep. I think burnout in life is real meaning I can't see the positive of things to help get me out of this funk

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Alright, putting this out there as a bit of a roll call for Saturday night 😏

I’m a 43M heading along with my 48F FWB, and this will be our first time. We’ve talked about it for ages, built it up in our heads, and now we’re finally committing to just going for it. Safe to say there’s a mix of excitement, curiosity, and that little nervous buzz that makes it all feel even more real.

We’re pretty easygoing, social people and we’re mainly going in with open minds and no pressure on ourselves. The goal is simple: have a good time, meet some fun people, and enjoy the atmosphere for what it is. If anything more comes from it, great but we’re not forcing anything. We both really like the idea of just letting the night unfold naturally.

There’s something pretty exciting about stepping into a new environment like this together. That mix of anticipation, unknowns, and a bit of cheeky energy is definitely part of the appeal. We’re looking forward to the vibe as much as anything else good conversation, a bit of flirting, and seeing where the chemistry takes us.

If you’ve been before, we’d genuinely love to hear any tips or advice for first-timers. Anything you wish you knew before your first visit, things to do (or avoid), or just general insight into how the night tends to flow would be really appreciated.

And if you’re also going this Saturday, consider this a friendly invitation to say hello if you see us (Her a little black dress, me jeans, black shirt). We’re approachable, respectful, and always up for a chat. Chances are we’ll be the couple taking it all in, smiling a lot, and clearly enjoying ourselves.

First time, a little nervous, definitely excited, and ready to experience something new together.

Who else is going? 🙂