r/Melbourneswingers

Couple in our 40s heading to the burlesque show at Viva Scandal today. If any other couples are also going, it would be really great to meet up, chat and maybe grab a drink together beforehand. For those who’ve been before, we’d love to hear about your experience — any tips, highlights or what to expect would be much appreciated as it’s our first time! Looking forward to a fun night.

New couple to all this exploring what the lifestyle is and the excitement it could bring to our lives. We’ve been slowly learning more and more over the past year and are finally organising our first weekend to experience some things in real life. Hoping to coordinate something with the right couple to join us whether it be for just drinks to see if we click, or lunch or dinner. And if we do click, maybe head to a bar or perhaps back to our room.

What we’re looking for?
A couple (yes please if you’re single do not bother messaging, wifey is not keen on a MFM scenario just yet. We will post and look for it when she wants it) who are keen to start with getting to know us, perhaps become friends, and just let things hopefully evolve naturally. We are keen to expand our horizons but there is no set timelines, and we’re not sure what we’ll like or won’t like. We know we want to meet other open minded individuals who like to flirt, discuss kinky banter, have nights out drinks and dinner filled with laughter and innuendo. We know we are after same room same partner play at a minimum at some point, with wifey keen to see how she’d go if contact occurs. Not to fussed on age but we definitely don’t want time wasters. If you are not keen to meet, or only want to meet and go straight to swapping. We’re probably not for you at this stage of our journey.

A bit about us.
Wife is 50yo with a curvy mum bod and an ass to die for. Gets a TON of attention everytime we sneak a post on here. She’s very shy and reserved and raised with very traditional values. So this is all a big step for her. She is keen to open her horizons to see what she likes and doesn’t like. Likes the rugged/manly look with strong features but don’t need to be gym fit. Although she wouldn’t say no if you were.

Hubby is 41, tall, not gym fit but not overweight either. Well groomed and well kept but has hair as it’s what she likes. Very kinky and open to exploring most things (not the extremes) and is generous in the bedroom, focused on her rather than himself most of the time. Not looking for a particular type, more chasing the personality, humour and openness to be a little cheeky and fun. Although attraction is obviously an initial step, it’s not the determining factor.

We both work full time, have two kids with a lot of extracurricular activities. We very rarely have time for ourselves or to explore these things in real life. So a lot of effort has gone in to this weekend to make it an awesome one.

If you have read all the way down to this point, and think you as a couple match what we’re looking for, please reach out. We’d love other couples to join us at some point over the weekend for whatever might eventuate.

Oh and if you’re wondering why our profile is on private/blank. We’ve had lots of issues with pic collectors and guys stealing pics and sharing them as their own so we only post for a period of time before deleting. Please don’t judge that and if you do, and think we’re not real, by all means move on. We are a genuine couple married 17 years keen to explore more. This doesn’t mean we will and doesn’t mean we won’t. We’d love to continue our journey and meet other couples who might want to do the journey with us.

Thanks.

Me and my friend (both f24) aren’t sure which to go to tomorrow night, pineapples? Or between friends. Pineapples has a singles night and between friends have newbies night. We’ve been to pineapples before, very posh vibes compared to places like wet and shed, it was ok, had a good experience, just a bit fancy. Haven’t been to between friends yet. So indecisive because it’s like a whole commitment to a night haha, plz send advice!!!

Edit: what’s the downstairs area like a BF??

Single 35F looking to head to Shed 16 for there Retro Night.

Who’s heading down ?

What’s everyone wearing, do people get really dressed up? I don’t want to turn up underdressed (to the theme) later on doesn’t matter so much 😂

Would colourful leg warmers and a one piece be acceptable ? Or should I be looking at a proper costume ?

350 characters is a lot 😂

Hi hi! 👋

I'm wanting to get back into the swing of things (so to speak) after a semi-extended break from the lifestyle. I'm also navigating this world as a single woman now rather than as part of a couple, which is a little confronting and feels like learning how to do things all over again

So, I'm hoping to find some people around my age who I can actually befriend! Ideally people where there's genuinely no expectation of play. I'd love a whatever-happens-happens kind of vibe and to just make some nice connections with people who get it.

It would be lovely to have some friendly faces to look for when I'm at events/venues, have people I can potentially attend things with, or even just have someone to message and debrief with afterwards. I'm very much looking for friends first, with the lifestyle being the thing we happen to have in common.

I'm taking things pretty slowly and finding my feet again, but I would love love love to make some friends along the way. I'm also more than happy to chat for a while and get to know each other before meeting up!

Bit about me:

I'm 26F, previously in the lifestyle with a partner and now single. I started ENM/swinging in 2022 and have a decent amount of experience with events/venues etc, so I'm definitely not new to the space just new to navigating it on my own!

I'm an online SWer but also work in healthcare. Outside of all that, I love reading, gaming, napping, eating good food, chatting absolute shit and generally being a bit of a homebody/social butterfly depending on the day

I'm ideally looking for people around 24–35ish, but I'm not going to start checking IDs, so if you're around my age and think we'd get along, say hi!

M48F49 Married Couple, both Bi-curious and thinking about heading to Curiosity night at Pineapple Bar. Who else is attending?

About us

M - typical dad-bod but slowly losing weight, non-smoker, clean. Loves to be sucked and curious about his sexuality. Willing to try.

F - has a mums apron and again slowly losing weight, non-smoker, clean. Very Bi-curious and can't wait to explore that more.

Been married for 21 years, attended Shed and BFWB, as well as met up with couples privately. Not yet been to Pineapples. Both ready for some all in fun.

Hey Everyone, hope you are having a great week. Early 30s MF couple looking to get back into the scene.

Curious to know if there are any verified group chats around.

Historically has been hit and miss. Understandable that everyone has a busy life and circumstances can change.

As some of you know, it's not always easy organising sessions and the disappointment involved with a last minute cancellation.

Seeking regular chats with the odd event if schedules match.

Hey hotties, what is everyone doing this weekend? What events is everyone going to?

We have this weekend free and are keen to get out to an event finally 🕺🏻

We are actually keen to try mingle as we havnt been before, does this event tend to skew older?

We are late 20s F early 30s M so keen to see if any people similar to our age are heading out to any of the events on this weekend Xx

Heya! There are two sapphic/ladies only (F&TF inclusive) coming up - Eve Sapphic Party on Thursday (Dance club with an optional, separate play room at Pride of Footscray) and Lady Like (Wet on Wellington's ladies-only night)

Are there any Fs on here (either single or part of an open couple/poly/ENM relationship) who are going to be attending or thinking of attending? From what I can gather, Eve Sapphic is a bit of a younger crowd - has anyone been to either of them recently and can give a bit of advice on the demographics/types of people they've met there?

Hey all, we're an Asian couple and are looking for some cool peeps to have some fun with. We've had some experiences already so we're looking for some more fun!

About us: She's petite, and bi. Would love some g/g play. He's fit and gyms regularly. Both 420 friendly.

Vaxxed and tests are a requirement before taking anything further. Strictly no soft swaps.

Bonus points if you're similar to us, into anime and gaming.

If you're interested, send us a DM with pics and send 3 love emojis to kick the convo off so we know you've at least read this to the end.

Hi everyone, we M30 (straight) F30 (bi-curious) will be heading to the Newcomers event at BFWB this Friday. Would love to see who else is planning to be there?

It will be our first time at BFWB and we're hoping to connect with some couples before heading there Friday night.

A bit about us:

M - tall, average build, brown

F - 5'6", curvy plus size build, white

Me and my wife m33 f34 are new to the scene but have decided to kick it off with a bang and attend the mfm night as our first party 😅 would love to connect with some similar aged couples particularly those that are interested in some bi exploration 😈 send us a message if you’re attending/want to connect for future events :) happy to chat and send pics and hopefully we’ll see some of you there!!

Hi fellow swingers 😘

We are planning to head to Gemini for the first time on Saturday - super excited. We are 44M (straight) and 44F (play with everyone 😉). We have a couple of questions -

1. After completing the google form and messaging for a booking, how long did it take to be contacted to confirm?

2. Perhaps of most interest to us, are there any bars or pubs close to the venue for pre-drinks?

Thanks everyone ❤️

Hi just wondering if anyone knows the cost of a couples ticket to harder faster? I seem to remember it being on the higher side but I understand that it’s more of a private type event and overheads would be huge.

I have a play friend coming down from Sydney and thinking of going to the one in September sometime.

I’ve heard it’s a great night like a classier version of some of the other venues around town.

Hey all, 42M/30F here. We’re staying in the Brisbane CBD this Saturday and tossing up between BFWB and Gemini’s cowboy/rodeo party. 🤠 Keen to hear which one people think will have the better vibe!
We’d also love to meet another couple that weekend for a drink, see how we all click, and potentially play at our hotel if everyone’s feeling it. Easygoing, no pressure good chemistry and F is a kinky sub and likes Dom men.

My wife (43F) and I (44M) have recently decided we’d like to start exploring the lifestyle together, but we’re not particularly interested in jumping straight into a swingers club or play event.
We’re looking for something much more ordinary to start with a pub, bar, queer-friendly venue or particular night where open-minded/lifestyle people tend to socialise and where meeting people organically wouldn’t feel completely out of place.

For context, she’s interested exclusively in women outside our marriage, while I’m interested in both women and men. We’re not looking to change those boundaries. We’d just like to go somewhere together, have some drinks, meet people, flirt if it happens naturally and get a feel for the community without any expectation that the night has to lead anywhere.

We’re a couple reasonably new to RHP… is there an etiquette? Likes, Favs, Messages, responding to Dates etc?

We’re also trying to work out messaging. It just seems odd.

So we have a well considered, mid length profile, we’re clear in what we want… which is essentially couples. We have an equal number of female and male photos, dressed and naughty ish. We’re full swap with only safe sex as a boundary. We’ve are verified with a small number of validations (partly choice, my wife finds the 30+ validations profiles a bit much).

We’ve have over 100 likes since we created the profile. We will like back if we’re attracted to them. Some couples, approx 10, have favourited us. But messaging just seems odd. Some people like us, and message when we like back, sometimes if they have an interesting profile with a hook, we will write them immediately. We’re happy to message for a bit or share a face photo up front, we get attraction is a massive thing. Our preference has probably already changed to face pick up front to save time for everyone.

We will always write a message that reflects we have read a profile, or gives a point to comment on, or asked a question. 9 out of 10 couples send 3-5 word responses, even if they instigated the conversation! Don’t get me wrong, we’ve met some couples online who can clearly hold a conversation, but we just find it really weird.

We’re really keen to hear your experiences….

Hi!

Our date with single F has got cancelled 😩and we are thinking of going to BFWB tonight.

Just checked RHP and it seems quiet night compared to last weekend. We are wondering if lots of people from this community are heading to there🤔
Or what people are doing tonight?!

If we decide to go we’d love to connect with lots of people.

Love to hear from you guys !!

F41 heading to Pineapple Bar tonight, solo! I’m a regular there, but usually always go with a date, so this is a little different for me. 😅 I thought I’d put the feelers out and see who else is planning on being there.

Who else is heading along tonight? Would be lovely to say hi, have a drink, chat and meet some friendly faces. Always nice to know a few people when you walk in solo! If you’re going, drop a comment.