Do I need to be a brat?
I’ve (F23) been spending more time lurking on this sub and reading posts from similar subs and I absolutely love the idea of a dom setting rules and structures for me in my day-to-day life. I enjoy reading about the nsfw and sfw tasks and I feel like I would thoroughly enjoy that dynamic—especially the sfw structure as I’m not an incredibly sexually driven person.
Irl, I am hyper independent and very responsible—I live alone and spend most of my time working on myself and hanging out with my cat. I am assertive when I need to be, confident in myself, and I socialize well; but I feel unfulfilled and unbalanced. I want to be able to let go and have a dominant figure completely take the reins. I want turn my brain off and do exactly what I’m told—for example, letting the dom pick out my clothes or tell me what to eat and how much.
That being said, I am not a bratty person. I don’t really have a desire to disobey or push back against authority (at least in this context). Is this an issue/something that most doms wouldn’t like? I see a lot of discussions and posts pertaining to brats and that being a huge part of the play, but I don’t enjoy doing that and will happily follow orders. Is it healthy to have a certain amount of brattiness in the dynamic? Will things be boring if I’m not a brat? I’ve never been in a dom/sub dynamic (besides an evil ex bf when I was 19 lol) and I’m craving this type of connection more and more.
Would love to hear thoughts from anyone :’)
Edit: thank u for your thoughtful DMs ahaha :p I don’t use Reddit often so I am a bit overwhelmed, apologies if I don’t respond!