So this is just a short and rant. I log onto Sniffies briefly while at work, just boredom during a slow time.
This bicurious guy hits me up, he wants to crack, and asks me when I get off so I tell him. I explain I'm at work and don't have my enema so that we could try for a different night when I can properly prep myself.
Now here's where he got weird: he asked if I was gonna use my douche at work? Of course I said no, but, that at least if I had it I wouldn't have to make the couple of miles trip back home just to come back down to him and I could get it done quicker by bringing it over to his place.
He goes "you'd have to shower still" and I agree and say "okay, so then would I be able to just use your shower since you're dead set on me coming directly after work?" He goes "use your own shower tf?"
I ended up finishing out that convo because we obviously had different values about time and etiquette in general. I've gotten ready at other guy's places before especially when they've made last minute requests because they understood that my time has value, too. But when I spoke with a friend, he agreed with this guy's point of view.
I don't personally think either of us is in the wrong given that it's probably just his preference to not have anyone over without prep, but it's also valid on my side because I'm not gonna go out of my way to go all the way home just to prep and douche and then come all the way back for MAYBE 20 minutes of actual play time. He's just adding extra unnecessary steps(to me at least) because once I go home from work, I'm not stepping foot outside again for anything unless it's an emergency. What's everyone else's opinion on this?