u/AIOjisan

Ok. Long story short.

We only started learning/exploring recently.

Now wife's cat enjoys being eaten.

So, last night we tried something new, where I laid flat and she sat on my face.

But as she got tensed, pressed down and grinded hard on my face, her knees pressed down on my shoulders. atp I was ok. Until she clamped her thighs so hard and I couldn't breathe for a while. I couldn't tell how long, maybe 30 seconds?

But I was running out of air liao.

I wriggled and tucked my chin until I had some gap to breath.

Appreciate if anyone has safety tip to spare.

Would like to stay alive for the next round.

I enjoy it, but not that I tried, I still much prefer the actual sex with wife?

So, for 2 nights in a row. Wife did it for me after getting the first one ever few nights back.

Though I enjoyed the feeling/intimacy. Knowing she wanted to try something out of her comfort zone already makes me feel very happy.

While she didn't say anything, I did notice her discomfort.

Not wanting to dampen the mood. Only after it, I suggested next time we can try something she enjoys instead.

Part of me knows she was more concerned about making me happy.

Then she did it for me again the second night.

Which brings me to the strange part.

I think I still prefer having sex with her than her giving me the BJ.

By quite a lot actually.

No doubt it felt good.

But still can't beat the actual one.

Maybe I felt more connection the regular way, rather than seemingly passively enjoying myself while also wondering if she was uncomfortable.

edit: so, wife read my posts. while not angry. she's asked me to delete my original profile pics even though they were masked/censored and not even nsfw 😢

long story short, not the first time intimate with my wife, but after i did something new for her last night.
now she's a bit weird, but in a good kind of way?
i don't know how to put it.
in general, she's already quite caring/soft spoken and pda (not physical) to me.

but after last night, since this morning from the time we woke up, to car park, to our destination.
she's been like very sticky to me and I mean like she literally hugging my left arm, and her talking tone went from normal soft spoken to those super teh.
and apparently, when i asked her, she says she don't know!
Is this a hormonal thing or what?

wish me luck

OK ok ok.

to the ones who gave me suggestions, i re read them in the carpark while waiting for wifey to finish OT.

Thank you all. I'm going to try to recount what happened and paiseh if parts of this is not making sense. coz my brain is gone and it's 12.07am, she's asleep next to me and I'm buzzing.

So. She had OT. Husband duty. I drove to pick her up. So we updated each other of our day, her difficult case at work. while in my mind, it's going in a blur, thinking how to broach the subject.

Got home. She showered. I heated up food, nothing fancy, just rice and dishes from earlier.

Dinner was dinner. She told me about some case. I nodded. I "mm hmm"'d. I think I said "so jialat ah" about four times. In my head I was rehearsing lines.

After dinner we went to the bedroom. She was on the bed, scrolling her phone, legs tucked under her. I sat next to her. Started small. Hand on her knee. Rubbing her shoulder. Kissed the top of her head. She leaned into me, which was nice, which was normal.

Then things escalated and before long I'm intoxicated with her smell. And I could see her blush starting. Then I just decided to just whack and asked while trying to sound smooth/chill. Straight up just blurted out "baby, how come after that night you didn't call me daddy anymore?"

She froze. Her blush, now went a deeper shade. The chest, even the ears turned red. Totally silent, she opened her mouth like gonna say something, but nothing came out.

And I panicked.

The silence felt like eternity. In my mind I went omg omg wtf. She's freaking out, she's going to think I'm some dirty old man (ok maybe I'm a little bit, but I do self restraint).

And I started talking.

I was blabbering. I said something like, "Ok, I just want to say, I love being with you, like, with you, and I know that word slipped out and you were embarrassed and I don't want you to feel pressured, and I'm sorry if I'm being weird, but it really turned me on, like a lot, and I was scared you'd think I'm being a dirty old man, and if you ever want to try anything, or I want to try anything, either one of us can just take the lead and we just... try and see how we feel and go with it, no pressure, we can stop anytime, I just..."

atp I kept rambling. I think i said "no pressure", 2 or 3 times.

And then she buried her face into my chest.

just... pressed her face right into my chest. Hid herself. I could feel how hot her cheeks.

then she muffled a soft "daddy."

my brain went blank. and while still her face in my chest, she said she liked my caring mode, but she also liked my beast mode.

I don't remember much after that. I only remembered in between me going slow and catching my breath, and each time she whispered daddy again, I went in harder. and she just hugged me tight and whispering the magic word on and off.

It's 12.23am now.

She's asleep. I'm on my back, looking at the ceiling, I can feel my blood pumping in my ears. my thighs are lembek now.

I should have just manned up and approached this gently and calmly like I always do. and not spending almost a whole week over thinking everything from the ants to the weather.

I'm loving my married life with her. It was worth the wait.

Hi all. Gonna be upfront here, since i don't need to post as asking for my "friend" haha.
My head is absolutely exploding right now, and I have no idea who I could talk to about this in real life.

For context, my wife and I have a pretty huge age gap.

On top of that, she comes from a traditional, conservative Christian family. I've always been hyperaware of both things.

I try to be a protective, respectful and loving husband, while making sure our age difference never leaves her feeling uncomfortable or as though I'm taking advantage of having much more life experience.

Then a few nights ago, something happened that completely sot my brain.

We were being intimate, and right in the middle of it, she let out a muffled, murmured "Daddy."

She immediately knew that I heard her, because she instantly buried and hid her face into the pillow, clearly embarrassed or shy.

But hearing it, it flipped a switch in me. I was super turned on. So I asked her if I could go harder on her. She didn't say a word, she just kept really quiet but held onto me much tighter.

Taking that as a yes, I gently whispered to her, "Ok, but if it's too much, please tell me to stop." I ended up slamming into her quite hard, the bed frame was hitting against the bedroom wall.

The whole time, my mind was racing. I was so intensely aroused and horny atp, yet simultaneously terrified and worried that I might have hurt her as she's smaller and more delicate than me (i'm quite hefty).

She hasn't said it again since that night. But heck, I was so turned on, and now finds myself craving and thinking about it the last few days. Even when we were intimate the last few nights, it went normally, but in my mind, I wanted more.

Yet, I'm struggling with my own thoughts and guilt.

I know our age gap is huge, and because of her strict Christian upbringing, kinks and dominant/submissive stuff might feel incredibly taboo to her.

I felt like I did something wrong, or crossing a line I shouldn't cross. I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like a creep, and terrified of how my wife might view me if I asks her to do it again.

Will she think he's gross? Will she think I only sees her as a fetish?

How would you bring this up with your wife without embarrassing her or making her feel pressured to repeat it?

TL;DR: My much younger wife, who comes from a conservative Christian family, unexpectedly called me "Daddy" during sex and immediately hid her face in embarrassment. I found himself intensely turned on by it, and now feels guilty because of our huge age gap. I want to explore whether she's into it, but also terrified of embarrassing her, creeping her out or changing how she sees me. How should I talk to her about it?