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Men who retired their partners from the workforce… how are you doing today? I hope you slept well and your pillow is cool on both sides FOREVER. I love hearing success stories from the sugar world.

If you retired your SB to be her sole provider, please share the story… when did you know you didn’t want her to work anymore? A single moment or a gradual decision? How did you start the conversation, what did she say, and what boundaries or financial plans did you set? Where are you both now… emotionally, financially, and practically? Has the arrangement met your expectations, and what surprises (good or challenging) have come up?

I want to be smiling from ear to ear reading! Have a great day! Cheers 🥂

Happy Mother’s Day to all the sugar babies who are also mommies. I love that the bowl holds room for you too! If you’re a mom, please share how sugaring has positively impacted your life… emotionally, financially, or practically. And how those changes have affected your children. Did it give you more flexibility, better childcare options, educational opportunities, or simply greater peace of mind? Your stories and tips could really inspire others. Wishing every mom here a peaceful, joy-filled day! 🥂

Are older men turned on by toxic dynamics? I’m not after a politically correct answer… just honest perspectives based on experience. I’ve read many stories here about horrible SBs who have seemingly great SDs, and also about amazing SBs who can’t find an SD to save their life. There’s no wrong answer; people like what they like. Are older men naturally drawn to the chase and a bit of drama? Does a volatile, unpredictable dynamic turn you on in a way that a woman who seems “perfect” and is always agreeable doesn’t? We see that pattern a lot in the vanilla world… but it seems especially common in this forum lately. Let’s unpack this. Real thoughts and experiences are welcome. 🥂

My favorite time of year is here! I’m looking forward to a summer full of trips and fun. Where are you and your partner traveling this summer, and what are you planning to do while you’re there? What’s one place you’d love to add to the list before the season ends?

Happy Saturday 🥂

Ladies! Let’s have some fun for a bit. If you were an SD, what would you offer and provide for your SB, and what would your ideal arrangement look like?

I’ll go first!

If I were an SD, I’d want an SB with her own life, friends, and hobbies (Assuming id be a very busy man). I’d require one mandatory date night a week (we’d alternate picks) and one vacation a month, also alternating choices. Financially I’d be the sole provider, but I’d expect her to invest in herself.

That’s my starter pack… now your turn. Make it funny so we can laugh a bit! 🥂

As a New Yorker, I’ve always believed our sugar scene is exceptional; however, I went to Boston last week and I have to say… SBs, you definitely have something there. I wasn’t there to sugar in any capacity, and you can’t be sure whether the men are into the lifestyle, but they’re friendly, wealthy, willing, and not shy at all to strike up a conversation. If you have the gift of gab, you can definitely steer the talk where you want it to go. That was my first time in Boston, and forgive me, Bostonians… I wasn’t familiar with your game, lol. I hope the ladies there are taking full advantage! 🥂

A little accountability post… we all have things to work on, and sometimes a great partner helps turn those red flags green. My red flag has been time management. I used to be terrible… late and inconsiderate of other people’s time. As I matured I realized how disrespectful that was, so I started “tricking” myself with timers, clearer schedules, buffer time, and honest check-ins with people. I’m still a work in progress, but I’ve been doing amazing!

What’s your red flag, and what are you doing to improve it?

Side bar: this is also why I love sugar dating… when it’s mature and respectful you pick up actual life wisdom and little gems that help you ditch bad habits and upgrade your life faster.

Happy Sunday 🥂