r/sugarlifestyleforum

I'm in the process of shopping for a new car.

I paid 50-60k for my current car when it was brand new, however it is now ~6 years old. I took good care of it (I'm a car guy) and it's got low mileage & new tires. The AC is cold, the interior is clean with nice leather, but like any used car it will need regular maintenance to keep running (brakes, spark plugs, etc).

I was going to initially trade in my car but thought maybe one of my SBs might want it

SB 1 - Has no car, she takes Uber. She has never owned a car, and is early 20s. A little less responsible, I could see her running the car into the ground. I might have to end up maintaining two cars, which is exactly what I don't want. She is my main SB, and we see each other every 2 weeks.

SB 2 - Has an old beater handed down from family, it will probably need a large repair soon. She's a few years older, has a stable job, and would take good care of the car. She used to be my main SB, but life stuff happened and now we see each other much less.

Are there any other sites where its still allowed to talk about allowances/gifts etc without getting banned? Seeking seems to be full of cheap men/similar to tinder since they implemented this new rule.

“Just seeing what’s out there”.
“I’ll know it when I find it.”

These are major red flags for me personally when looking at SDs profiles. Being open to unexpected experiences is one thing but be sure you go in knowing what you’re looking for.

General idea of what you want your pot SB to look like.
Your monthly budget for sugaring specifically.
How often you’d like to see your SB.
Types of dates you want to go on.
Etc.

Not only will it help you more easily find something satisfying, it’ll speed up the search, and attract the most ideal type of SB; a woman who also knows what she wants and can communicate it clearly to you.

I've seen two accounts that maxed out both photos categories, open and hidden (50 and 50). I'm looking at an account now with 5 open photos and 35 hidden photos. Profiles using the new-ish hidden videos are posting 10 or more of those. (Don't forget, guys on SB, every single one of those hidden videos costs you another 10 credits each, unlike viewing all hidden photos for just 10 credits total.)

Anyway, both those maxed-out accounts and this newest one just threw up the same poses over and over, with very slight head turns and such. They may have come from photos burst mode.

Do you have any reaction? I believe those are a sign of incredible and oblivious conceit, and I've decided to start passing right away.

Probably an unpopular opinion, but I don’t need a Sugar Daddy for the money.
I already have a job and my own income, so I’m not desperate to grab the first arrangement that comes along. I’d rather take my time and find a man I can actually trust and build something real with.

So what does “sugar” mean to me?

For me, sugar can also look like access: to a network, to a completely different sphere of society. Lunch with high performers. Real conversations. Exchanging knowledge. Constantly learning.
I want a Daddy who can mentor me, push me, and help me level up both professionally and personally. Someone willing to teach me his skills and genuinely invest in building a special partnership. Maybe help me start a business, give solid legal or investment advice, open doors I couldn’t open alone.

The honest downside?

Men like this are rare. Time is money, and not every Daddy is interested in depth or emotional connection. A lot just want the easy arrangement while they travel the world.

What do you guys think? Does this version of sugar even exist, or am I looking for something most people in this lifestyle don’t want?

Does anyone have any good tips on keeping potential sugar babies interested a future relationship when your roster is already full?

I’m very happy with my 2 SB’s right now, but I know these sugar relationships have a shelf life, particularly when there is a big age gap. If my current girls don’t work out long term, I don’t want to go back into the sugar sites and start from scratch.

Right now I have a good problem in which I have been texting with 3 other girls who are very attractive and seem down to meet. I probably have room financially to take care of 4 SBs at a time, but I just don’t have the time. I also don’t want to string these new women along with false promises, but I want to keep in touch in case I am looking for a new baby at some point in the future.

Give me your best advice.

Things are so weird - a SD asked for my zodiac sign and as soon as I said Pisces he blocked me 😂. We literally had no other conversations

Thinking its time to setup a new, not-strictly-for-profit, Sugar Relastions site. A couple of base ground rules:

1. No scamming clients with false online status

2. No money generating scams like secret photos, secret videos, secret questions, etc. which are typically normal photos anyway.

3. Persons "last activity" time (message read, message posted, profile looked at, etc.)

4. Lots of filters

etc.

I can probably make this happen as one of my retirement projects.

Two Questions:

A) Good idea?

B) Conversation here or in a new subforum?

I've a SD for about 5 years. I'm 55 with enough income to support this lifestyle. It used to be I could pay for a month on SA and meet 2-3 women for lunch during that period. Now it is pretty common that a woman won't even look at my profile after I've sent an initial message. If we do send a few messages back and forth, she stops responding after a few msgs and I can never get to a lunch date.

I've posted my profile here for review and gotten good advice. The thing I keep hearing is sugaring is much different than it was 5 years ago and it's obvious. Ladies, what are you seeing in a man's profile, and what kind of msgs are you getting? I'm curious to hear from women in big cities and especially smaller ones like Cedar Rapids, IA. The dating scene in a smaller Midwest city has got to be way different than the big city. What am I missing? Is there a good person on TicTok or something who has advice videos? Real advice videos, not women talking about how to get your entire life paid for.

My initial messages show I've read her profile. It reads something like this:

"Hi there. It's nice to see a terrific smile like yours on this site!! It's kind of rare. You mention making memories. The butterflies in the pic are huge. What memories go along with the pic?"

I genuinely thought y’all were nerds. Why are some of you behaving like sex offenders?

Perhaps I misunderstood the demographic.

I came to the sugar side of Reddit expecting successful, slightly eccentric men. Engineers. Executives. Finance types. Men with demanding careers, obscure hobbies, excellent restaurants tucked away in their notes app, and perhaps a little too much disposable income.

In other words: nerds with provider instincts.

Charming.

What I did not anticipate was how many grown men apparently interpret a woman expressing interest as permission to immediately speak to her like an object they have rented by the hour.

And no, prudishness is not the issue.

I adore intimacy. I love SEX, passion,chemistry, tension, desire…all of it. But sexuality without seduction is painfully dull. There is nothing sophisticated or dominant about abandoning all social grace the moment a woman gives you attention.

Ask me what I’m studying. Notice something about me. Make me laugh. Tell me where you want to take me. Let there be a little anticipation.

Seduce me before you interrogate me about my anatomy.

You are supposedly accomplished men. You negotiate contracts, oversee employees, manage portfolios, navigate divorces, raise children, run companies.

Surely you can survive six messages without behaving like access to a woman has caused a complete neurological event.

And perhaps that is the strangest part.

A man can have money, status, and an impressive résumé and still reveal within minutes that no amount of professional success ever taught him how to make a woman want him.

That is not sexually adventurous.

It is socially incompetent.

I came looking for an intelligent, generous man with a slightly nerdy disposition, beautiful manners, and enough confidence to understand that a woman enjoying sex does not mean she wants to be spoken to like a malfunctioning porn algorithm.

Please return the nerds.

Some of their replacements are deeply concerning.

After months of stress and the LONGEST roadtrip that I’ve ever taken in my life(from Austin to Seattle ), I’m finally living in Seattle. A dream! I’m basically just wanting to get some advice on the scene here. I’m currently on seeking now but am wanting to move more into free-styling, as there are so many interesting restaurants and social places that I want to visit.

Any advice is welcomed! Thanks in advance

I genuinely hate when men approach with nothing but “hey, you have Snapchat?” because it immediately tells me you probably didn’t read anything I wrote. My posts are pretty clear about what I’m looking for, so when the first priority is moving to Snap, I automatically assume you’re more interested in buying content or getting pictures than actually being an SD.

Maybe I’m biased, but Snapchat also feels really immature to me. I didn’t even use it when I was in high school, so I definitely don’t want it to be the foundation of an adult arrangement now.

If you’re genuinely interested, just introduce yourself like a normal person, tell me what caught your attention, and what kind of arrangement you’re looking for. It really isn’t that difficult.

All the SDs I’m meeting on Seeking are only doing PPMs. And im kinda new to the scene? Idk how to approach it? Like if PPM- should I go on a normal public date first (spend a day) and then meet him again somehwere at a hotel??? Because going to a hotel/his house on the first night itself feels unsafe? But if he wants PPM, then why should I waste time on a regular date? And if there are only PPMs available, then how many dates will I divide in 2??? Like I’m so confused

Mini rant because I’m starting to feel like some of these men do not actually understand what being an SD means. I’m completely open to meeting in person once we’ve talked, verified each other, and agreed on an arrangement, but I do not send nudes or sexual content to strangers online.

What keeps happening is they’ll talk about wanting “connection,” “mentorship,” “companionship,” and a real arrangement… then the second I say I want the sexual side to stay in person, suddenly they lose interest. At that point it starts feeling less like they want a sugar relationship and more like they want discounted content from someone they haven’t even met.

I’m not anti-intimacy at all, I just don’t want my body sitting in some random man’s camera roll before I even know who he is. Is this actually uncommon in sugar dating, or am I just running into the wrong men?

58 year old single guy. Try to be honest and respectful
Met a lovely girl who was married and wanted paid meet sex. We met a couple times and seemed to hit it off.
I said I wanted more intimacy. Kisses. Social meets etc, and she ghosted me.
Am I mistaken that SR has to be about sex or is it possible to have a more platonic relationship outside of the bedroom? Or was she just wrong for what I’m after?

Profiles that say things like that. Or take your best shot. What do you think of them? They are kind of a turn off to me.

I never actually went to one, but I remember hearing about the Sugar Daddy mixers that Seeking used to host and I've always wondered if they were beneficial. If Seeking brought them back, WOULD YOU GO? I would!

I feel like an actual in-person mixer with successful men and women looking for mutually beneficial relationships could be way more interesting than endless swiping.

Would you go; or would you be too scared to walk into a room full of sugar daddies and sugar babies? 😂