u/cuteninjasugarbaby

Hey there,

for context: im 21/blr/looking for something long term.. which may feel like speed dating at times haha... Anyway, here's a valuable lesson I've learnt while seeking..

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I entered the space thinking the hardest part would be finding someone wealthy.

Turns out the hardest part is filtering personalities.

In the last few weeks, I've spoken to businessmen, divorcees, party guys, younger guys, older guys, sweethearts, and men who clearly just wanted sex (🙏)

What surprised me was how quickly money stopped being the main factor!

The questions became:

• Do I feel safe?

• Does this person actually listen?

• Can they respect boundaries?

😳

I also learned something silly about myself.

I like being ~needed

Sometimes I catch myself wanting to

RESCUE people, be their refuge, or help them through heartbreak. But I've realized that's a dangerous place to make decisions from.

Just like the good ol' Vanilla dating rule: "the people I was most attracted to weren't necessarily the people who were best for me"

😉

I'm still figuring things out, but I think I've developed a backbone I didn't have before.

I've become better at saying:

"No."

"That doesn't work for me."

"Thanks for your opinion"

"I don't have to explain my standards."

🤭

Whether I continue sugar dating or not, THIS is the most valuable thing I've gained.

Lets stir it up: Am i TOO much or just right 👉🏼

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Hey there,

for context: im 21/blr/looking for something long term.. which may feel like speed dating at times haha... *Anyway,* here's a valuable lesson I've learnt while seeking..

I entered the space thinking the hardest part would be finding someone wealthy.

Turns out the hardest part is *filtering* personalities.

In the last few weeks, I've spoken to businessmen, divorcees, party guys, younger guys, older guys, sweethearts, and men who clearly just wanted sex (🙏)

What surprised me was how quickly **money** stopped being the main factor!

The questions became:

• Do I feel safe?

• Does this person actually listen?

• Can they respect boundaries?

😳

I also learned something uncomfortable about myself.

I like being *~~needed~~*.

Sometimes I catch myself wanting to

RESCUE people, be their refuge, or help them through heartbreak. But I've realized that's a dangerous place to make decisions from.

Just like the good ol' Vanilla dating rule: *"The people I was most attracted to weren't necessarily the people who were best for me*"

😉

I'm still figuring things out, but I think I've developed a backbone I didn't have before.

I've become better at saying:

"No."

"That doesn't work for me."

"Thanks for your opinion"

"I don't have to explain my standards."

🤭

Whether I continue sugar dating or not, THIS is the most valuable thing I've gained.

Lets stir up some controversy: Am i TOO much or just right 👉🏼

Hey there, for context: im 21/Bangalore/looking for something long term.. which may feel like speed dating HAHA.. Anyway, here's a valuable lesson I've learnt while seeking..

I entered the space thinking the hardest part would be finding someone wealthy.

Turns out the hardest part is filtering personalities.

In the last few weeks, I've spoken to businessmen, divorcees, party guys, younger guys, older guys, sweethearts, and men who clearly just wanted sex (🙏)

What surprised me was how quickly money stopped being the main factor!

The questions became:

• Do I feel safe?

• Does this person actually listen?

• Can they respect boundaries?

😳

I also learned something uncomfortable about myself.

I like being needed.

Sometimes I catch myself wanting to

RESCUE people, be their refuge, or help them through heartbreak. But I've realized that's a dangerous place to make decisions from.

Just like the good ol' Vanilla dating rule: "The people I was most attracted to weren't necessarily the people who were best for me"

😉

I'm still figuring things out, but I think I've developed a backbone I didn't have before.

I've become better at saying:

"No."

"That doesn't work for me."

"Thanks for your opinion"

"I don't have to explain my standards."

🤭

Whether I continue sugar dating or not, THIS is the most valuable thing I've gained

Hey there, for context: im 21/blr/looking for something long term.. which may feel like speed dating HAHA.. Anyway, here's a valuable lesson I've learnt while seeking..

I entered the space thinking the hardest part would be finding someone wealthy.

Turns out the hardest part is filtering personalities.

In the last few weeks, I've spoken to businessmen, divorcees, party guys, younger guys, older guys, sweethearts, and men who clearly just wanted sex (🙏)

What surprised me was how quickly money stopped being the main factor!

The questions became:

• Do I feel safe?

• Does this person actually listen?

• Can they respect boundaries?

😳

I also learned something uncomfortable about myself.

I like being needed.

Sometimes I catch myself wanting to

RESCUE people, be their refuge, or help them through heartbreak. But I've realized that's a dangerous place to make decisions from.

Just like the good ol' Vanilla dating rule: "The people I was most attracted to weren't necessarily the people who were best for me"

😉

I'm still figuring things out, but I think I've developed a backbone I didn't have before.

I've become better at saying:

"No."

"That doesn't work for me."

"Thanks for your opinion"

"I don't have to explain my standards."

🤭

Whether I continue sugar dating or not, THIS is the most valuable thing I've gained.

It's men's mental health month! 💐

This post isn't me complaining: just seeking advice - to better connect during "SD talking stage" phase

Hey there, I am 21/F/Blr Sugar Baby looking for a long term Sugar Relationship. I am on Seeking and I’ve talked to many Sugar Daddies, and one pattern keeps repeating itself.

They are simply always “okay.”

Even when life is clearly full, busy, or heavy, the answer stays the same: "okay/ fine/ all good."

No follow-up

Again, this isn't really a complain/rant.. I understand societal pressure being hard on the person, to the extent of conversations staying surface level.

Its a fact that anyone with a good amount of responsibility is rarely given space to be emotionally soft.. I assume thats the reason why?

Because I've heard from a SD that no one really is patient enough to ask what comes after that “I’m fine.”

Me, as a first time offline SB, any advice I could get, to better connect over a shorter period of time (a week or so ) would be swell.

I'm all ears..

Thanks for your time <3

This isn't me complaining: just seeking advice - to better connect with "SD talking stage" phase

Hey there, I am 21/F/India Sugar Baby looking for a long term Sugar Relationship. I am on Seeking and I’ve talked to many Sugar Daddies, and one pattern keeps repeating itself.

They are simply always “okay.”

Even when life is clearly full, busy, or heavy, the answer stays the same: "okay/ fine/ all good."

No follow-up

Again, this isn't really a complain/rant.. I understand societal pressure being hard on the person, to the extent of conversations staying surface level.

Its a fact that anyone with a good amount of responsibility is rarely given space to be emotionally soft.. Assume thats the reason why?

Because I've heard from a SD that no one really is patient enough to ask what comes after that “I’m fine.”

Me, as a first time offline SB, any advice I could get, to better connect over a shorter period of time (a week or so ) would be swell.

I'm all ears..

Thanks for your time <3

It's men's mental health month..

So, heres a genuine question

The world view of SD's are as a "last resort" to pay rent, so on so forth. But in my own experience, some of the most real, caring and thoughtful men I've interacted with have been older men in these types of arrangements.

For example, I recently received a gift from someone who said he enjoyed reading one of my post titled "Why do you sugar?". It wasn't even a flirt..he appreciated the discussion and wanted to show it <3

In my previous post, I've heard that a lot of men crave their lack of appreciation, connection and simple companionship Society keeps most men from pursuing the happiness they deserve, through sugaring - by attaching a social stigma around the word itself!!

I would too, have self doubt about being a SD.. if I had to deal with other unrequited judgement..

Curious to know what you guys think!

It's men's mental health month..

So, heres a genuine question

The world view of SD's are as a "last resort" to pay rent, so on so forth. But in my own experience, some of the most real, caring and thoughtful men I've interacted with have been older men in these types of arrangements.

For example, I recently received a gift from someone who said he enjoyed reading one of my post titled "Why do you sugar?". It wasn't even a flirt..he appreciated the discussion and wanted to show it <3

In my previous post, I've heard that a lot of men crave their lack of appreciation, connection and simple companionship Society keeps most men from pursuing the happiness they deserve, through sugaring - by attaching a social stigma around the word itself!!

I would too, have self doubt about being a SD.. if I had to deal with other unrequited judgement..

Curious to know what you guys think!

Tell me why you sugar and I will respond to every message! :)

Hey there, I am 21/F/Blr Sugar Baby looking for a long term Sugar Relationship. I am on Seeking and have encountered so many types of Sugar Daddies.. Always asked the question of "why are you a sugar daddy?"

Some completely ignored my question, whereas most SD's said : Less pressure, Less stress, More Casual and Explorative. Most men I have encountered are here for the last 21+ part of it.

These are very general and human answers to the more underlying problem that is the male lonliness pandemic.

Men's Mental Health Awareness Month, by the way !

Me, as a first time offline SB, I personally just sugar for the experience of it.. I mostly choose older men (35 max is my comfort zone for offline meets).

Thanks for your time <3

Although this is my first time as a SB, I feel confident about this SD (something like a gut feeling).

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I read someone talking about this and 100% resonated with this. THIS, is my mindset going into this biz

"In a bad mood? Let me fix that. Need some confidence? I'll help with that too. Bored? I'll entertain you. Don't have any apparent needs? I'll find a way to keep you engaged anyway"

\*Along with pictures videos calls etc, normal relationship things

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What do you think a healthy SB mindset looks like ?

Do you think I'm going to last, with this mindset?