Sex drive in long term relationships
We have been together since 2008 married 2016. I am always attracted to her in every way regardless of how much weight she gained(which isn't much), she thinks its alot but i dont. I compliment her, give physical touch, kiss, rub feet back scratches, back massages when asked.
I find that I am more sexual then her. While i don't base it as a deal breaker to a relationship, it is an important part of connection. She tells me to just "take it" when I want it. But is it weird I want the emotional connection of kisses and mutual foreplay? It almost reconnects the bond we have, in my eyes. I feel like just "taking it" when I need it leaves a sense of void and I feel like I am disrespecting my wife.
It's something I did when I was younger with strangers in one night stands. I never cared if the girl finished, I was getting mine. With her I always want her to get an orgasm. I feel like I failed if she doesn't have one. And its a turn on to feel her body tense up and her muscle pulsating on my penis.
Any advice from women who are not naturally "horny" or for ladies that just dont take the initiative. Give me some advice on how I can nudge her to grab my junk. Wake me up with my penis in her mouth. Anything so im not the only initiator of sex all the time. Thanks in advance!