Did he stealth on me or was it a misunderstanding?
I (25f) met this guy I used to hookup with (29m) after a year. We have been having sex for 2 years together. So we were waiting for a long time for this.
First round of sex he asked if I wanted condom and I said yes. He put it on and then we had sex. For the second round I was giving him head and then he said turn quickly/change position (for PIV) and I honestly had no idea but we had sex without a condom. The room was also a bit dim so I couldn’t tell if he had condoms on or not. Plus I had trusted him because he was a long term casual partner and he always put on condoms. Tbh the second round was also a bit intense and quick. So I don’t get if he was stealthy or it was a misunderstanding.
Third round he was going to insert without a condom I stopped him and said to wear a condom and he said we didn’t wear for the second round. I was confused I said we did he said no it was the first round. And he said I thought you knew.
I’m also someone who is very scared about get pregnancy and STIs. I had his STI reports but it was from Feb and 31 May while we had sex in July.
Anyway, I took an emergency contraceptive pill and I was absolutely in shock because I had not planned on no condom sex. Tbh when I said I wanted to take emergency contraceptive he said it is bad for your health and to not take it. That it is very hard to get pregnant , He had pulled out etc . But if something happens he will cover the costs.
The next day he messaged me to ask me if I was alright etc. but because I was so scared of STIs I bolted to a gynae next day, and I asked for PEP pills. She did give it to me but said it was optional but if I want she will prescribe it to me. She strongly suggested that we both get tested together so he doesn’t cheat the report.
Since the PEP window was just 72 hours I asked him to get tested within the 1 and a half day that was left. And tbh benefit of doubt he didn’t happen to be free on those days that he had a friends wedding etc. so I asked him to send me a recent test report so I could send it to my gynae he said he would send it to me next day. Next day he didn’t when I asked he told me his grandfather was feeling sick so he couldn’t send.!that he was sorry. Maybe I should ask him for a test in the week.
But oh god I’m going absolutely crazy with all this. This was supposed to be a short fun thing.