r/sexualhealth

I am an autistic bisexual guy and I am planning on getting a vasectomy. I have known for a very long time that I never want children of my own. I don’t have the desire to be a parent and I know that it will never change. I have thought this through for years and have also struggled with Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder/ Severe Anxiety, Chronic Insomnia. I am doing the responsible thing and am going to get the procedure done as soon as i can find a doctor/ surgeon in my area who will do the procedure. I have already done my research and I know that my health insurance (Medi-Cal LA Care) will cover the entire cost of the procedure.

(F) Ok so in two days I’m due to swallow a guys semen and I really don’t want to. I’ve never swallowed before so I’m very scared. Can I get like an STI/STD or something like that from swallowing?? I’m rethinking our whole meeting and I realize I don’t really wanna go down on him that much. I’m very shy when it comes to intimacy.

In the same vein, if I were to give this guy a hand job, and we aren’t in an area where he can just clean it up easy peasy, what do I do? I don’t wanna let this guy down, but I also don’t wanna push my own boundaries, if anyone has any tips pls lmk.

So this was a casual situation, the first round of sex he asked if I wanted condoms and I said yes. There he used protection. (PIV sex) But second round (the position was such that I couldn’t see behind) he didn’t use condoms he didn’t cum inside me. But still. I feel really shocked. Should I take PEP? Plus this guy has casual partners although he lies to me and says he’s not with others

He has shown me test results of few weeks back that he is hiv negative but I doubt the results are real

I'm gonna be fully honest here, so here we go.

I'm (M20) in a relationship of over a year and a month now with a girl (F19) and she recently started asking about a threesome. I've done one in the past and didn't really enjoy it. She asked a few days ago and I didn't like the thought of sharing her tbh. I'm quite a jealous guy in that respect.

Anyway, she kept asking because i kept saying "i'll think about it" and a few days ago she asked and when i said "i don't think i want that in our relationship" she seemed a little bit disappointed. not that that's unjust! of course there's going to be a bit of disappointment every now and then, but it just made me feel a bit shitty.

so, i broke down a bit and said that i was worried i wasn't doing it for her anymore. she told me that she wouldn't have moved in w me (we had a 2 week break recently due to my f*ck-ups) if i didn't do it for her anymore and she entrusted me with getting my shit together and blah blah blah. Anyway, today, she asked again and I thought she was js being teasy and cheeky, so i said "you do more than enough for me" yada yada yada. then, she seemed sad when i said no. so, i asked her to list every fantasy she has rn and we'll see how i feel about them. there were 4, 2 of which i liked the sound of. the other two were cuckolding (we're both switches) and a threesome.

I asked her why she wanted to experience a threesome so much and why she'd been asking and her reasoning was "I want to experience it whilst I'm young". Fair enough. I told her I'd think on it.

Anyway, fast forward to a couple hours later and she's now running ideas as to how to make it a bit easier for me to enjoy it. She suggested, and I quote: "I try with a guy who's down to include you and knows about us/you, WITHOUT you first to see the vibe."

I just feel like I'm not doing enough, sexually, for her and I worry that she is just looking for an excuse to do it with other guys. Because, during our break (we technically split up) she slept w a couple dudes. Now I'm just worried I don't really get a say without feeling guilty. Especially as she said it was "a bit poopy :(" that i said no.

I know she probably means no harm and is just excited at the prospect, and good on her for being open to sharing her fantasies, but I just worry.

i had protected sex a few days ago / was fingered by someone new and i started bleeding/red discharge 2 days after even though i just got off my period a week before. what do i do its been 2 days.

My ex girlfriend had a vaginal biopsy done when we were together that came back suspicious and she had to have a procedure done to remove tissue. Her gynaecologist told her to tell me I should get checked for STD’s because of this.

I got tested and it came back all clear and I offered her nothing but love and support throughout all of this.

Thing is this cancer is caused by HPV and as far as I’m aware there is no test for HPV for men so getting checked out seems pointless in this regards.

Unfortunately I come with baggage, I’ve been cheated on in the past multiple times and it’s done a number on my head. I worked on myself to get over this and tried really hard to be trusting in this relationship even though there were signs of cheating and all of this is playing around in my head as I move on from her.

So my question is for men whose partners went through a similar thing, did you get asked to get tested for STD’s too even though you can’t get tested for that particular STD?

I am female going to be 45, and my pussy always feels like I'm a virgin. It's really tight and if the man isnt rock hard you can't do me! Is that normal?

I'm male, 19 years old ,

I masturbate 3 times a day sometimes more. Then recently I wanted to quit so I stopped and the day after I stopped, I started having boners like never before. I feel restless and it's hard all day Long. I can't get it to stop and it's getting in the way of my work. One second everything is fine the next I'm full hard.

Truth be told I have been masturbating for about 8 years now.

Is it normal or do I have see a doctor

Sup, I'm 22yo and i start to realize that maybe i got a frenulum breve, i need someone that can check if my frenulum is too short or just normal and i'm concerning about nothing, ty in advance

So I was put on Zyprexa four years ago, which was a very necessary thing and you can pry that medication out of my cold, dead hands, but I did have the unfortunate side effect of completely losing my sex drive. To make matters worse, I didn’t even realize what happened, I was probably on it for a solid two years before I saw enough memes about losing your libido on psych meds that it clicked.

Once I understood my problem, I spoke to my psychiatrist about it and she put me on Wellbutrin, informing me that in some people that will reignite the sex drive another medication took away. And good news, it worked! Bad news, however, is that I now get so anxious about initiating that I still don’t have that much sex. I want it now, and I can come again, but for some reason I cannot for the life of me manage to tell my husband when I want him to rail me like a freight train, which happens often. And because of the fact that I spent literal years not being in the mood, he doesn’t want to overstep and wants me to take this at a pace that’s comfortable for me. Which I appreciate immensely, but it does leave the ball in my court.

I wasn’t this anxious about making the first move before Zyprexa, so it’s definitely a lot to do with seeing myself as a sexual being and being out of the habit, but I have now been on Wellbutrin and happily horny again for long enough that I cannot figure out what’s holding me back or how to get past it. It is a very weird feeling to wish you were having more sex while simultaneously being the reason you’re not having more sex. It is a little harder in general for me to be sexually assertive because I am very, very submissive, but it still shouldn’t be to the point of never being able to act on it. I want to act on it. So very much. So if anyone else has been through this or just has any idea what to do, any advice on how to move forward would be appreciated.

I am absolutely terrified. I am a 17-year-old girl and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. I have always had regular PROTECTED sex, but there are 2 moments where we had a scare:

1. When the condom broke, so I had to take EllaOne to prevent a pregnancy.
2. TODAY, due to UNPROTECTED penetration after a previous ejaculation, and especially because right after he "pulled out" he ejaculated, so just to be safe I had to take it (this pill is 2 months apart from the other one).
   I am incredibly scared that the side effects will be worse than last time and that I am 'overreacting', help 😭

I had sex for the first time the other day and I’m very unexperienced even with masturbation and stuff. Ive noticed before when I try to masturbate it hurts but I always figured I was just doing something wrong. but I had sex and my partner fingered me and it still hurt. I’m not sure if it has to do with the fact I’m on ssris which can lower libido and make you more prone to dryness but idk. will this pain stop happening after a few tries or are we doing something wrong?

Hello all, this is a bit of a weird explanation and I hope it would make sense. I (19M) have been with my girlfriend (18F) for a year now and were very much in love and having been getting to the stage now where were are comfortable being with each other and want to have sex and lose our V Cards to each other, and we have a good opportunity to do it this Friday night we will be alone.

However a weird issue has popped up on my side that I’m scared may effect how the sex will go, as usually I can think of sex and ejaculating normally without having anything weird, but this past week everytime I’ve thought about it and gotten aroused a bit I have the feeling to ejaculate without actually doing anything except from thinking about it, like any thought that is even slightly sexual or if I randomly get hard it somewhat triggers that feeling and I have to stop doing anything for a moment to stop myself from doing it, and it’s making me thing that if we get into that mood and I think about it, I’ll finish by accident before we even start it. The only thing that I think hasn’t helped is that before I met her I had a bad pornography addiction for around 3-4 years but has since calmed down.

I have told her about this issue before so she knows that I don’t usually last like 20 seconds as usually I can go around 10-15 when doing things with her and it does it’s thing, but this has only started happening mid last week and I’m annoyed that it’s happening right now as we’ve been waiting at least 4-5 months and this is the perfect time, so I was just wondering if any advice could help this out. I have been considering ejaculating the night before so that I don’t get that feeling when we get to it an it’ll give me around 12 hours to recover, but I’m not sure of what else to possibly do, and any help would be greatly appreciated and many thanks

(F) For some reason i’ve always had this issue and it makes me feel “broken”. I don’t feel pleasure from getting head, fingering, or someone else masturbating me. Sex toys don’t really work either especially dildos. Vibrators just make me numb.
I can only finish by clitoral stimulation and it only works if i’m alone (Fingering feels more uncomfortable than anything tbh). I do feel pleasure during intercourse but penetration alone won’t make me finish. If i want to finish during intercourse, i have to be on top and masturbate but it takes forever.

It’s been like that with every single partner i’ve had :(
Anyone else has this issue ?

I feel so broken :(