r/sexualhealth

I'm 21yo AFAB with no physical health problems on my records but I've had very painful periods and period flu since 13. My overall health (not just sexual) has already been on the decline since June with doctors unable to give me answers. I saw a gynecologist to hopefully figure out why I had such horrible menstrual pain but no amount of testing could answer it.

Lately its been getting harder to climax without severe pain. I used to at least feel the pleasure underneath the pain but now the entire sensation of orgasming is just pain. Because my entire body is also suffering Im wondering if this is related and if it could point to the greater cause of whats wrong with me.

Hi, my boyfriend had cummed into my mouth on August 23rd around 2-3 pm, and 3-4 pm which was around hour later we had unprotected sex for the first time, however he never cummed and I didn’t either during sex. He said he would’ve told me if he did anymore. I don’t know if this important but I am 4’11 and he is 5’11 and I was on top of him. He is not a virgin and I was so my muscles were tight. He wasn’t fully hard. I took the plan B on August 24th at 2:53 pm I had started my cycle on August 17th 2026, so I was on day 7 when I had swallowed his cum and had sex with him. And Day 8 when I took the Plan B pill. I am getting nexplanon on September 18th 2026. My cycle said it is due Sept 13th 2026.

I always see people arguing on here about whether squirting is "just pee" or not and somebody asked me to make it a post so here we are. Most people just read it is urine and run with it, missing the nuance of how the body works.

According to the medical research on this, when we have to pee normally, the kidneys kind of drip slowly to the bladder over hours. With squirting, even if you empty your bladder right before, the bladder suddenly fills with fluid in just a few minutes. It is definitely not from the normal process, and they hypothesize it's a rapid autonomic nervous system response to intense arousal. There was a study where researchers put blue dye into volunteers' bladders before sex, and the fluid came out blue, so we know it’s coming from there.

So yes, the chemical makeup is 95 to 99 percent the same as urine. The thing people don't understand is that the physiological process is completely different. it also mixes with secretions from the Skene's glands, which gives it Prostate-Specific Antigen (PSA) and other chemical markers that normal daytime urine doesn't even have.

My point is, why do people look at it as just as gross as standard pee? Normal pee is gross because it sits around filtering heavy concentrated waste, which is why it has a color and smells like. With squirting, the fluid fills up the bladder so fast that it is basically just completely clear, odorless, heavily diluted water triggered by maybe a nervous system release.

Think about saliva and tears. They are both basically 99 percent water, but nobody says crying is drooling out of your eyes or that they are the exact same fluid. People don't think about how chemicals can be so close on paper but be completely different things in reality depending on how the body creates them.

So no, it isn't just "peeing yourself." It’s just chemically close, but because it's a completely different physiological process, people calling it gross are just reacting to the wrong context. Plus, scientists literally still don't even fully know the exact chemical or neurological signal that causes the bladder to fill that fast anyway.

What do you guys think? I am putting the study below and I hope you enjoy this write-up :)

Study reference: "Nature and Origin of 'Squirting' in Female Sexuality" by Dr. Samuel Salama et al. (published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2015

I scratch it since childhood. So much dead skin comes off. I have lost lots of sensitivity too. It starts itching out of nowhere, like it is so strong that it feels like needles poking it. Sometimes I scratch is so much that i can see red long cracks or cuts at there.

Isoconazole nitrate and Diflucortolone valerate cream helped so so much. I mean itchy gone. White scales didn't though. Btw it looks flattened instead of wrinkly.

I used other antifungal stuff and i guess it helped a bit.

This is for ladies only sorry gentleman (unless you are a qualified gynaecologist or doctor!). I'm a 33F with PCOS (apparently, my diagnosis was a gynaecologist eyeballing me and saying "you're fat and you've got a bit of facial hair, definitely PCOS!"- all despite the fact that I've never had a cyst in my ovaries and my AMH level is extremely low at 0.9. I've always been on the heavier side unfortunately but this year I've finally gotten the motivation and willpower to tackle this obstacle face on. Can all of this be why I have no libido whatsoever, forgotten what it even feels like to even get in that mood? What am I missing?

So me (18m) and my girlfriend are finally comfortable with each other, and I just get hard all the time....

Even if we're just texting when she's not around I just get hard , and if we send each other *normal* photos, on top of already being hard I get wet too??

This is becoming a problem because now I only wear thick jeans/trousers around her to hide my boner. We were making out and my precum literally made a wet spot on my jeans. I'm just glad she didn't notice but it's just a matter of time. I know I have a really high libido but this stuff could cause tension between us

Any advice and input is appreciated, thank you!

My partner touched herself and then touched my penis. There may have been some vaginal fluid on her hand when she touched me. Is there any risk of contracting an STD/STI from this kind of contact? Which infections, if any, could potentially be transmitted this way?

I’m 18 years old and my size is a 5.6 inches, i already hit my growth spurt and im 6’3 but im a little overweight. Am i cooked or do i still have a chance to grow?

hello! i’m posting this on behalf of my boyfriend (i hope thats okay) but earlier today i was giving him a blow job and 2 bits of grey tissue like stuff came out from under his foreskin. he has phimosis, and with that finds it hard to fully clean under his foreskin, so we weren’t sure wether this is smegma or abit of loo roll that has been trapped for awhile. it tasted funky and smelt bad. any advice would be SO helpful, thank you.

the standard tablets clearly do something mechanical and nothing whatsoever for the mental side. on the nights when my head is not in it they may as well be sugar pills. i understand desire and function are different systems and i am not expecting anything to manufacture wanting. has anything you were prescribed addressed the brain side of it and what did it contain.

I'm 18M, 55kg, 168cm no meds, and I've never been able to orgasm or masturbate successfully.

I can get and maintain an erection without any problems, but I've never intentionally had an orgasm. Whenever I get close to the point of orgasm—or even seriously think about ejaculating—I suddenly feel extremely nauseous. It feels like I'm about to throw up, I get a really intense headache, and it almost feels like my head starts spinning, so I have to stop immediately.

The only times I've ever ejaculated were during wet dreams. Even then, I wake up feeling like I'm going to vomit and with a severe headache. I think I may have even thrown up once after one, but I'm not 100% sure since it happened a long time ago lol.

Has anyone experienced something similar or know what could cause this? Could it be something physical, psychological, or a combination of both?

Sorry if this is a weird or awkward question. I honestly wasn't sure where else to ask.

“Palatal petechiae are small red or purple dots, due to broken capillaries, that appear on the top of the mouth,” explains Toronto-based dentist Dr. Steve Mascarin. “They can be caused by vigorous oral sex, but are not exclusive to sexual activities.” 

The fact that dental professionals can deduce this intimate detail might make a coquettish cocksucker shy about keeping a dentist appointment, whereas a bolder blower might ask: How can my dentist help me give better head? It is not a question dental professionals are trained to answer, but given that harsh odors like bad breath can kill sexual arousal, and jaw pain can affect technique, it is a constructive query to pose. Or you can take a more direct approach like New York City-based comedian Caitlin Reese. “I tipped my dental hygienist for making my mouth ready for new guests,” she joked on Threads, after paying out-of-pocket for a six-month cleaning and justifying the cost to herself. In her forties, Reese no longer fusses over shaving every inch of herself for a date, but she’s not one to skimp on her oral health. “Everyone cares and notices what your mouth is like.”

Read more: https://www.playboy.com/read/sex/the-unexpected-way-your-dentist-might-help-you-in-bed

I have struggled with an issue that is kinda putting me off. I am not gonna go into extreme details. Basically the first time I was engaging in an intercourse. I couldn't penetrate her vagina, We tried 2 times it didn't happen it was the first time for both of us. She still had a good time because i was able to finger her but my penis was too big to penetrate. This isn't me trying to brag I do have a big penis but it is not like 7 or 8 inches. After that relationship I was with a another girl and the same thing happened.

Is there a way I can fix this?

I am a male and never had sex ever in my life, one year ago i got my first blowjob which was like a very brief time 2 min maximum , after that i have never had any physical contact with anyone, , 😞which i regret till this day , because from that night i have never known what peave feels like now i am in a relationship but its been over 10 months , i have never touched my gf because i am afraid that nothing should happen to her, and every sensation in my body leads to thinking i have an std and i also have h*v, i feel like i lost everything , i cant just explain how it feels , only consoling thing is the thought of death,

I'm 22M and over the past year I've noticed a gradual change in my sexual function.

I used to get morning erections regularly, but they gradually became less frequent and now I almost never wake up with one.

I've also noticed that my libido has decreased. I don't feel as sexually interested as I used to.

Some background:

I'm currently in college and also worried about finding a job.

I'm constantly stressed about my future and family.

My sleep isn't refreshing, even when I seem to get enough hours.

My routine is basically classes → come back to my room → study → sleep.

On weekends I mostly try to relax or do something productive like reading or watching a movie.

I masturbate around once or twice a week, usually on weekends, and usually with porn.

I'm a virgin and don't have a girlfriend.

I don't think I'm masturbating excessively.

I don't drink/smoke/use drugs.

The biggest issue is that I feel stressed almost all the time. Even when I'm doing something normal, it feels like there's one part of me doing the task/thinking about it while another part of my brain is constantly tense and analysing everything in the background.

Recently I've also noticed that my heartbeat feels more noticeable than usual. It's not necessarily racing, but I can distinguish/feel my heartbeat much more easily, and sometimes it feels like my heart rate is slightly higher than it used to be.

So at this point I have:

Reduced libido

Almost no morning erections

Unrefreshing sleep

Constant mental tension/stress

More noticeable heartbeat