Do you sometimes lack penetration?
I’m a bisexual man with a strong preference towards men. I’m in a relationship with another guy. We never identified as “top” nor “bottoms” as we found it rather… let’s say disciplining (we didn’t want to define ourselves this way knowing that sexuality is fluid and we might be enjoying different acts/dynamics depending on our moods). What is more, we’ve hardly ever participated in anal - when we chose to do it, I was the one penetrating. It was nice, but: 1. We knew it required at least some type of preparation; 2) I couldn’t stop thinking about the “purpose” of the hole.
For a long time I thought that maybe we should do it more often to expose ourselves and therefore enjoy it more. I think that it had to do with my pornography use - we all know that anal is considered as an ultimate gay sex act there. Not gonna lie, when I watch it I’m getting turned on, especially when it’s sensual or intense, but not rough. However, it’s a fiction. Shit might happen and if some people can już wipe it off (hehe), that’s fine. But I can’t. It’s too much for me. So anal isn’t a part of our sex life. I’m not saying it’s never going to happen again, but we concluded that we don’t necessarily need it.
However, I sometimes lack penetration. I bought myself a flashlight and let me tell you this - orgasms are great. But that’s the thing - sometimes I crave sex with a woman because of the penetration part. I enjoy vaginas, but I’ve only had sex with my man so far. We discussed it and he told me he would be fine with me experimenting. Well, I want to, but I’m not sure how to even approach it.
But that’s not important. I wanted to see if there’re any other bisexual men here who feel this way or maybe have an experience as a penetrating person with woman and a side with a man. I know that this is a gay group, so I hope I won’t be seen as an impostor.