r/GaySides

I don’t know how often you guys have experienced this. Recently I hooked up with a vers bot and mentioned before hand that it will only be side fun and he agreed. While on bed, after making out and doing some nipple play for sometime, he started moaning weirdly and saying I wanna get fucked. I brushed it off but he just kept saying that and requested me to do it. This is just so frustrating and not the first time I have experienced this. I have heard comments like “you are not doing it right thats why you don’t like it”, “try again “ . I’m so done.

Okay guys, I've been doing some major anthropological digging (scrolling twitter), and I think I've come to understand why some progressives dislike sides so much as a concept.

We don't enjoy anal, and anal has historically been a sin (sodomites). And over the years there's been so much work done to normalize and legalize gay relationships. Like there's been so much progress made to bring homosexuality into mainstream tolerance.

So when a group of gays start being against butt stuff? it's kind of like a red flag to the people that have fought for progress. Like, it could be easily misconstrued as a kind of return to conservative values/puritanism/anti-gay propaganda (which is kinda hilarious b/c I see the conversations on here and they're definitely NOT conservative or anti-gay lmao).

So yeah, I think we're misunderstood by some of the people who could be our biggest allies. Progressives generally celebrate alternative gender expressions and sexualities... and yet some of them just don't get us b/c they haven't done the research. And it's easy to paint all dissent as homophobic, or "they're just being haters," when in reality, they're skeptical for good reasons if all they know about us is that we're anti-anal.

Rant over 😛

I am a side but I don't feel comfortable with the idea of rimming or getting rimmed because of hygiene concerns.

Am I weird?

One day last year, I was on Hornet and came across this guy who had literally every trait needed to stop my heart. Anyway… we started chatting, and by the end of the day he invited me over to his place. I’m usually pretty cautious about that kind of thing, but I went because I was seriously horny.

When I got there, he came down to get me at the entrance. I was already attracted to him the second I saw him. We went up to his apartment and wasted no time, we started kissing right away. And god, it was a good kiss, you know? The kind where everything just clicks and you could stay there forever just enjoying the moment.

We ended up in bed, grinding on each other and making out a lot (no penetration). At some point, he grabbed my neck a little tighter and looked at me for confirmation, and I gave him the green light to choke me. It was my first time being choked during sex, and it turned me on in a way I can’t even explain. I really loved being submissive like that, it felt insanely good.

After that, he really started taking control: slapping me a little, spitting, moving me into different positions to suck him off. In the end, I made him cum just from oral… hearing his moans and feeling him twitching was so hot.

By the time we finished, we were both breathless and flushed. I kissed him goodbye and said I wanted a round two, but he never messaged me on Instagram, and I deleted the app, so I never saw him again.

Up until then, I’d never explored a less vanilla side of sex, but ever since that night, that’s the only kind I really enjoy. Still, no guy I’ve been with since has made me feel the way that guy did.

Anyway, that’s it. Just a little slutty story for the girls.

Hey guys, so I've been talking to this guys recently and we are gonna meet up soon. Since I don't state on my dating profile that I'm a side, cause I feel like that scares off a few people, I was wondering when would be a good time to bring up this topic.

Any ideas on when a good time could possibly be without being too fast with smth. Ofc I know it's very hard to tell cause everyone is and behaves differently but a general idea would be helpful.^^

38 y/o here, have been in three prior LTRs. The last two relationships were with guys who were versatile and the first was with a guy who preferred to top. The sex was good overall. However, I often wanted to spend more time with foreplay, body contact, kissing, jerking off, and oral. I started to identify as a side around 2019-2020 because I realized I preferred, and was fully sexually satisfied, getting off with the above mentioned while my bf at the time was not, and felt that without anal, something was missing.

One of the things I enjoy about side hook-ups is that they feel more reciprocal. When it comes to anal I gravitate towards being vers, but even then, anal sex can feel lopsided at times. I like that with side hook-ups whether is frotting, jerking off, 69, etc it feels mutually corresponding.

The issue is sides are hard to come by, and while it would be ideal to be with another side, I’m not completely opposed to dating someone vers again. Who else can relate?

Does anyone have other kinks/fetishes (mine is feet, among others) that “fulfill” or replace the need of penetration? 😁

I am finally at a point where I am looking to date outside my area because it's so hard to find other guys that are into primarily frot in my area. (nearly impossible). I'm looking for a LTR and work remote, so I'm at the point if I want a fulfilling sex life in a LTR, I'm going to have to move. Anybody else running into this issue?