The title is straight to the point on the general question, but I want to get to the specific question, then give some background, first one which is personal to me, and another I see in communities which kinda makes sense there is confusion over why one wants it.
The specific question.... Is a desire to have a bull take over the household a sign the cuckold and hotwife need to stop with the lifestyle and focus on each other and their home?
I want to make it clear, this is not an endorsement of family involvement in kink. This is a hypothesis because I see other places cucks are talking about it.
First, I am into ABDL and Sissification, and the related kinks, love D/s and TPE. However, a lot of doms and dommes dont understand a lot of it isn't sexual, and isn't optional. For me, ABDL is first and foremost a safety and security thing. Do I feel safe, loved, and cared for? If not, the rest doesnt work. It isn't sexual, but to get the sexual and submissive side out of me, I need to have that non-sexual side too.
Most doms and dommes I have chatted with don't understand playing with dollies and blocks, drawing pictures, being vulnerable, being dressed by them, that isn't a sexual scene by nature to me. They cannot separate their sexual desires, and end up frustrated. I am happy that has always been in chats and conversations and not when meeting anyone. The two sides do overlap a lot, and that is okay for ABDL and me, but there still is a difference I am aware of.
I can kind of see the same in another set of communities. Cuckolding is a kink where a wife sleeps with a bull. Sometimes that relationship evolves, and some cuckolds express relief at not having to perform, worried they aren't able to make their wife happy. They aren't expressing sexual gratification for it. Just relief. While the hotwife and bull might have a highly sexual relationship, that isnt overlapping with the cuckolds relationship with the wife.
Cuckolding overlaps with D/s when the cuckold and hotwife want it. There are posts about the bull taking over, sometimes it harms the relationship, other times it helps. Sometimes it is stable. But then there are some posts about head of household and taking over a family. I am aware some cucks have a fantasy, and some bulls might too, but I want to operate on this assumption of innocence when possible, and consider other explanations as to why this is something cucks or hotwives might want.
A bull living with a couple and their family could easily be a polyfamily, with absolutely nothing breaking any boundaries, and the three are co-parenting. What happens in private isn't a reflection of what is happening in front of others, and we do hear about poly families and blended families often enough, and posts about how to keep kink and family separate.
Hypothesis: Some cuckolds are expressing a desire for a bull to "take over the household and family" because they are overwhelmed and want to relieve the stress they are experiencing, but arent able to identify that and are confusing that non-sexual emotion with their kink. They are at the limit of not being able to cope with stress, and see the bull with a strong relationship with the wife as another adult helping with the family, and help keeping the household running.
If that is true, then is a desire to have a bull take over the household a sign the cuckold and hotwife need to stop with the lifestyle and focus on each other and their home?