u/Admirable-Shake-2069

(29f) (32m) The wife’s libido is at an all time low, sex is painful and she is absolutely disgusted by the thought of a blowjob or a handjob with lube. (Says she doesn’t like the way a penis with lube feels in her hands.) I would consider myself definitely more adventurous sexually than her, typical man, I know. Overall, I’d say I’m a pretty good sport about the low libido situation but it’s starting to take its toll on me. We’ve had some healthy conversations about compromise but it seems it’s never applied to our sex life. I guess my question is how to overcome this hurdle?