I am 50, have been with my wife for almost 30 years (including dating), and I still find her to be the sexiest woman.
I still stare at her pictures and it keeps the fire burning. We have sex at least six times a week AND she is always up for it.
We talk for hours every night to wind down.
I feel like that level of attraction, chemistry and mutual desire makes me a lucky guy. I'd love to hear from others
my wife and I don’t have sex as often as I’d like. She is on Prozac which I believe has caused her desire to drastically decrease.
Given her low desire, I especially want to make sure I thoroughly enjoy any chance I get that her and I can be intimate together.
Some background: I was on Prozac for a few years but successfully came off of it early 2025. when I was on Prozac I could last a good amount of time and it allowed the wife to have multiple orgasms. I honestly felt great to be able to rock her world. but there were times when I just couldn’t orgasm and that part was frustrating.
Now that I’m off, I have to pace myself and sometimes my wife gets real into it, I get excited and I just can’t maintain. Shes very sexy as well which is awesome but adds to the PE.
Last night she was into it and it felt amazing. she decided she wanted to ride/mount me and angle was great but I lasted maybe 2 min once she got in that position. LOL she got me too excited.
curious what other guys are trying to help them last longer and hear about their experience.
Just like the title says.
Got a couples massage for our anniversary. There were two men who were going to give us a massage.
They started by washing our feet asking us about any stress areas. I just said my neck and back. They left, we undressed down to our underwear but really wanted to go naked.
Well he worked in my neck and back so well, I was in a trance.....
That's when he started rubbing my legs. I pulled my underwear up so I wouldn't get any oil on the briefs I still had on. He starts going up into my inner thigh, it's a very sensitive spot that I never have someone else touch. It felt amazing. Still in that sleepy trance I felt myself getting hard when he would graze that spot, I could feel his fingers graze my balls too and that felt amazing. My wife just a few feet away and having no idea what was going down, drove me insanely horny.
He asked me to flip and did the exact same thing on my inner thighs. Again I could feel myself getting turned on and immediately I tried thinking of crashing cold ocean waves to keep myself together.
The whole experience felt so amazing like I was being cared for in a way that I haven't experienced. I really enjoyed it.
I told my wife on the drive home but she seemed to think it was just normal and didn't think anything of it.
I've been thinking about this non stop since it happened and just wanted to share with someone.
I can't be alone, right?
My (45M) wife (44) has no sexual fantasies at all. I ask her what she’s fantasized about, either recently or when she was younger and first exploring the ideas of sex, and she says she just doesn’t do it. She says her brain doesn’t work like mine and sex doesn’t just pop into her mind, ever, for her to fantasize about.
I’ve asked this a few times (playfully, not badgering her with it) over several years and the answer is always the same.
For context, she had a very mild sexual history before we got together in our early 20s. A few hookups and boyfriends who didn’t get very far with her. She was a virgin when we met while also being very physically attractive and living and partying a lot in a highly populated Southern California beach town. That’s just hard to do. She says she just wanted to wait until she found the right guy, which is great since it was me. We’ve always had vanilla sex with any new idea being 100% mine and usually met with indifference or a firm no.
When I put all this together - no fantasies, mild sex history, no ideas from her - I think she’s on the asexual end of the sex spectrum. Kinda sucks to be honest.
Edit: yes, I know she fits the description of responsive desire to a tee. I think it goes even beyond that though.
My wife and I about 3 months ago were talking about oral. Specifically her receiving oral. She never asks for it but she loves it and says it’s one of the top orgasms she has.
We decided to make a friendly bet about her receiving oral. I asked if I had a standing offer each night to give oral before bed (except during her period) would she ever turn it down. She didn’t think so but I also joked that sometimes by the end of the night I could see her saying she’s too tired. She bet back that I’d be the first person to break the streak.
Here we are three months in where she gets an oral orgasm nightly
I 30M was walking around the Spirit Halloween store that just opened up for the season near my wife (30F) and I’s house and when walking around I noticed that when we were walking around I would see a costume and think about my wife being in the costume and taking her right there in the store. I had never really had that before and thought it was interesting!
My wife then made a comment about me getting a Ghost Face mask and us having fun in that sometime. To which then I looked all over that store and well….could find one that fit my giant head LOL. Then a little time went by and we were talking to some close friends of ours and she had said something about there being a guy in a Call of Duty game I think it was that wore a mask that she thought was hot as well.
I haven’t looked into the game very much but I get the idea - so I want to see what costumes do you all really enjoy dressing up and having fun in? I do plan on getting a few masks and doing some scenes with my wife as that’s something that for sure turns both of us on but what’re some other ones maybe out of the normal Nurse, Cleaning Lady, Teacher, School girl, Velma, those sorts things that you think is fun and sexy!
We are both open to ideas and want to explore this kink together and would love some feedback from everyone here on their favorites!
TIA 🙂
We all love drunk sex 🤪 but do you or your spouse come out more sexually when drunk?
My wife off a few shots is a a freak I rarely see. She let's me do what I want to her, but wat really gets me, is her dirty talk actually gets dirty lol. She's normally polite and witty, so drunk her is witty and nasty. Sometimes I prefer the drunk freak (rarely drink tho). But with that said, when she does drink she has a window of being a freak, because if we dont get to the action in time, she gets sleepy (doesn't do drunk/sleeping cnc), or throws up (as I said, we really dont drink).
My wife surprised me by seeming willing to experiment with pee stuff in the shower, so I'm looking forward to that
It expires in 6 days on Tubi. Is it worth watching to help get her in the mood?
Hi all,
Partner and I would like to start watching some porn together. While I already plan to start off with bellesa, are there any web with short gifs/clips that I can slowly tease her into?
Eg just sending her a short gif of what I plan to do to her etc.
Appreciate any websites (something with more ethical sources if possible, incase she gets turned off) Or other recommendations other than bellesa
Do u have a spouse that likes vanilla sex? Or are you the spouse that doesnt mind good ol missionary everytime? Im curious how everyone deals with the vanilla in their lives, do yall ever try and spice it up?
We've been doing a lot of oral to start, feels like once our bodies are excited and naked we grow in ideas lol
Having 3 young kids has made it more difficult for my wife and I to be consistent with physical intimacy. However, one thing I’ve found that sparks the romance and passion is massage. I’m not talking about a simple back or shoulder rub that lasts 2-3 minutes.
I will lay out a clean sheet on the bed. I have proper massage oil that was not expensive. Dim lighting (she has a salt lamp that’s orange, this helps!). And soft music. I’ll massage her legs, upper backs, shoulders. There’s no need to feel like you should be a professional at this. Simply let your hands guide into her and ask her if the pressure is good. You can look up simple techniques online too.
The key here is that it’s very connecting for us. She gets to relax. I get to have my hands on her and help her relax. Take your time. And because it’s my spouse my hands roam. That’s the fun part. Teasing. Letting the finger tips travel where they “shouldnt”.
It almost always results in the most passionate sex we have.
My wife frequently will allow me to free-use (not sure if that’s the proper term) her because she tired and understands I need to release. My problems are: I then try to rush it and have a hard time getting into a good rhythm to finish, and I feel rushed as well as selfish because I feel like I’m not reciprocating. Again, she’s perfectly fine with that but I still feel some kind of way. Am I being too selfish in wanting to take care of her even though her wish is to get me taken care of?
I’m not a selfish person in any other aspect, so it’s a little different for me to make a mental switch.
My wife’s doesn’t like porn or anything like but does like books. Can anyone recommend any books which may help her broaden her out look that aren’t porn novels .
UPDATE so my with read the court of roses on holiday - have had some while nights since - really wild
She begged me for so many new things- minds a hell of aphrodisiac
Just curious how many women regularly give pleasure to their husband through a blowjob or hand job for the sake of taking care of their needs, while not feeling like they are up for receiving pleasure themselves. I imagine this might happen the most when she's on her period, or if the husband has a higher sex drive but the wife still wants to please her husband.
If you had to choose only one, which do you prefer? Fast and furious, hard core banging Slow and easy, simple and sensual Personally, I like the second one, but I know each has their audience. What say you?
My wife 42 and I 45 have talked about buying a suction cup dildo for about a month. She came to me that she fantasized about it for some time. Due to life, kids, schedules etc, it was put on the back burner until recently. Last weekend we went to dinner, smoked, went to our local sex store, and then to the bar.
My wife was instantly nervous but turned on after seeing all the different lengths and girths. I wanted to get the biggest one just to see if she could take it, but I also know you need to build up in sizes. We found a nice girth 8.5 inch suction cup dildo that she agreed to use.
After we got home from the bar, we went to our room and she got ready. She pulled out of the package and slap it on the headboard and interested it. Seeing her face I know she was fulfilled and enjoying her new toy.
Once she got into a grove and started blowing me it was pure ecstasy. I made her stop because I didn’t want to blow my load to early. I had her lay on her back and used the dildo on here while licking her clit. She didn’t last long before she said she was going to cum and wanted me to stop. We placed the dildo back on the headboard and she went back to town on both dicks. We lasted about 5 more mins and both had an amazing orgasm.
I can’t wait to incorporate the dildo more into our sex life and try all different scenarios.
What scenarios do other couples play out that have one?
Husbands buy your wife the dildo!
You can be wildly attracted to your partner and still look at them at the end of the day and think: I genuinely do not have the energy to start sex right now.
Apparently, a survey of 2,000 Americans who were married or in relationships found that 38% said fatigue was one of their biggest barriers to sex more than work stress, parenting, household responsibilities, or health issues.
And I think the desire is technically there, but after a long day, flirting, starting the conversation, planning something sexy, or even figuring out what you’re in the mood for feels like another task.
For couples who are exhausted but still want to keep things spicy, what creative ways are you guys finding to keep the spice alive without making intimacy feel like another chore?
I keep seeing post on here about how ofter ur spouse does this or that for u and the comments are always flooded with:never, not once in 16 yrs, maybe if i beg..... ive always wondered, why do u stay? Im a person who is completely obsessed with his wife but even I wouldn't stay if I was miserable from the lack of sex. So im just curious to why do u stay, i mean if ur scared to get divorced and loose half of ur stuff I understand but id rather give up half my shit then live with my dick in my hand.
Wife is gonna let me do whatever i want to her for a day and she cant talk back. Any hot ideas? Already thought about using her ass but i want your guys ideas.