r/MarriedSex

happy to answer questions I think it would be fun!

Need reassurance/ your opinion.

Me (F) and my fiancé (M) are getting married in about 10 days. We have always used the pill and condoms. As we get married, we want to stop using condoms and continue the pill. We don’t want kids right now, but will in a few years.

I know the pill is supposed to be used solo, and having a kid right now wouldn’t be the worst, but it’s definitely not what we’re planning. I’ve always wanted him to cum inside me, but I’d be lying if I said, I wasn’t a little worried lol

How long have you gone using just a pill and do you still worry? Do you let him cum inside daily?

Where is everyone getting their lingerie from? Does anyone still go to VS? The only one near me is at a mall and I hate the mall.

I'd like to get my wife some new lingerie because she absolutely deserves to be spoiled. What else is out there that is the perfect mix of sexy and quality? I know a lot of the adult book stores have lingerie but it's usually cheap crap that doesn't last.

I'm open to online shopping as I'm very familiar with her size. The closest big city to where we are is a bit of a drive (Austin), but I don't mind if there are any good stores, besides VS, that sell good lingerie.

When you have sex with your wife, what percentage of the time do you give her oral? Wives, how does it feel to have that full beard between your legs? Do you prefer the beard or clean shaven for oral. I’ve never really grown a beard for very long and I always wondered how this works out for these couples.

We tried “the finger” thing and… wow. My husband was 100% into it while it was happening, making all the noises and the voluminous finish to say the least. But today he’s been a little quiet and keeps saying he feels kinda weird about it now. Like, good weird? Bad weird? He can’t decide 😂 He keeps looking at me funny and muttering “I can’t believe I liked that.” I’m over here trying not to laugh while also checking if he’s okay.
Anyone else’s partner get the post probing weirdness?

My wife 27 and I (32) are married for 2 years. Im thinking to to surprise her by buying something sexy (limgeriee,bikinis) so she could dress up for me. What do u suggest to buy?(new to this)..

I love my wife, however she's not the best sexual partner I'd had. We have passionate sex over the years but not like some of the past partner's I've been with. Her body count is low and she can be shy during sex. I take the lead 90% of the team and she reacts. It got me thinking, How may married couples truly married crave their partner? Like they can't get enough.

We like to have fun online so we like to use one couple account together for have fun with other people. What about you guys and is it good idea?

Wife (38) and I (41) have been mostly remote at least part time for years. I’ve fantasized forever about having some naughty fun while on the clock, but sex is mostly always a weekend thing for us due to fatigue and stress. Then everyone is rested and groomed and there’s plenty of time to enjoy.

That changed yesterday. She came to the kitchen to start making lunch around when I did. We greeted each other with a kiss and I grabbed two handfuls of her ass as we smooched, a standard greeting. Only this time she leaned into it and stuck her tongue in my mouth. Next thing you know we’re upstairs and a he’s on her knees blowing me. After about a minute she grabbed my ass and pulled me in deeper to her mouth, the sign she wants face fucked. I gave it to her for a few minutes and did some damage to her makeup dragging my wet cock and balls on her face. And the we FUCKED. There was no making love about it. I had her on the edge of bed, legs on my shoulders with deep hard strokes while she rubbed her clit. I’m always amazed at how hard of a fucking she can take for such a little lady. I finished inside her which made her cum too.

And then we went back to work like nothing happened. Except I spent the whole day in the adjacent room rock hard working on projects knowing that she was doing zoom meetings with my load leaking out her.

Hopefully every Monday is like this

Hey, so I would love to have a private stash of videos and photos of my fiancee and from our intimate moments. She finds it hot to look at photos, but asks to immediately delete it. She is afraid (with reason) of privacy issues. So I come here to ask you: couples that record themselves, how do you do it? How do you prevent it from automatically back up in cloud? How do I keep it safe in the era when Google is basically everywhere and has access to all inside my phone?

I want to be able to make her feel safe so we can fully explore this

I was having one of those nights where I just couldn't settle down. I kept rolling over, adjusting the blankets, and sighing enough that my wife noticed.

She asked if I was having trouble sleeping. I said I was and jokingly told her the only thing that might help was if she played with me a little.

She smiled, curled up against me with her head on my chest, and started stroking me. It was incredibly relaxing. I absentmindedly ran my hands over her back and hips while we just enjoyed being close.

It didn't take long before relaxing turned into getting seriously turned on. I asked if she'd go down on me, and without hesitation she slid under the covers and got to work. She was completely into it, taking her time but also clearly determined to make me finish. It ended up being one of the best blowjobs she's given me in a long time.

I came in her mouth, she swallowed, we cuddled for a minute afterward, and I don't think I've fallen asleep that fast in ages. Turns out her insomnia treatment is surprisingly effective.

Along with apparently many others, considering getting a wedge pillow.

I’m curious what positions everyone enjoys the most?

It looks like a modified doggy and raised missionary are pretty obvious choices, but am curious about others?

For the couples who have interacted on the app spicer. What results from your partner surprised you the most?

I (F27) would like some advice on how I can seduce and pleasure my fiancé (M26) better.

My fiance and I have been together for 4 years. I have always been the higher sex drive one, while his is much lower. In an ideal world, I would love 2/3 times a day. But with work and other commitments, I'm absolutely satisfied with once a day.

His sex drive is more so once every 3 days. Sometimes, we will go without sex for a week or two. Most recently, because of different stress and life events, we didn't have sex for 3 weeks straight which was absolute torture for me.

He has struggled with ED for the most part of his life. It's definitely getting better with some life changes, but it's always been a big stressor for him because every time we have sex, he does worry that it might not work. I have a lot of empathy for that and I have always supported him in his recovery. Needless to say, I have put my sexual needs aside because of this struggle.

I feel like a burden sometimes because of my natural higher sex drive. I know he feels anxiety and stress around sex because of his ED, so every time I want sex, I feel like I'm burdening him and stressing him out.

Due to the obvious difference in sex drive, I, of course, feel sexually frustrated and deprived at times. But I love him deeply and I have known our sex drive difference since we met so it is something I have chosen to live with because of my love for him.

Now that he is recovering very well from ED, he does seem to be more interested in sex. But I can't help but think that there must be something I can do more to initiate or elicit more sex.

I want some advice on how I can seduce and pleasure him more. Here are the things I already do: I have learned to love giving him head spontaneously. I naturally do a lot of dirty talking, moaning, scenarios, and role-play. I learned to twerk for him and I very much am down for anything he wants to try. I also continue to focus on my health and fitness, I have a personal trainer and I do my best to be as active and eat clean as possible. I regularly go to personal-care appointments like facial, pedicure, and laser hair removal and I invest in my skin care.

We are getting married later this year, I want to pleasure him more and more and in turn I would love it if we have more frequent sex so my needs are met.

What are some ways I can seduce or pleasure him, besides the things I already do?

a couple months ago i think i started noticing , that when i give him oral he starts moving different ways or maybe positioning himself i’m not really sure maybe he’s really enjoying the oral but last night i was doing so and he was doing that moving and seemed like positioning to play with his anus and once we were finished i turned the light on and his arm was kind of behind his back so that’s what brought me here to ask this question and i want to ask him but i don’t know how i would approach asking this type of thing . Can someone answer me quickly ?

My partner is very much into me, often initiates, and seems fully satisfied with our 1+ year sex life. But resistant to new positions, roleplay or fantasies. New positions feel too intense — she lasts \~1min then goes back to her comfy zone. My attempts to encourage her are failing, it’s frustrating. Advise?

My wife and I have never really done it anywhere interesting, so we made plans to have car sex for the first time on Saturday night. We already had a date night planned, so we're going to drive around and listen to some audio porn before we find a nice place to park and move to the back seat, then go out to dinner after. I'm super excited.

My wife has never had a dildo and I bought a realistic one last year. We have really enjoyed playing with it. She is a fan now. We recently were shopping for new toys online and we bought a glass dildo. We finally got to try it out yesterday and it was a big success. She loved the way it felt. It’s ribbed and she said the sensation was amazing. I started off by going down on her for a while, because I can’t resist. Then I eased in the glass dildo in, slowly at first, and she loved it. She almost came so we stopped with the toys and got down to the real business. I read that you can chill it or heat it up so we will be playing with that soon. Guys, buy toys and use them! You will both be very happy.

I don't know how common this is in other relationships, but my husband (28) and I (27) have a habit of cuddling and talking while he is inside me. Usually, after getting home from work, we sit on the sofa; I sit on his lap, and we talk about his day and what I’ve been up to, all while kissing and caressing each other. There’s no Movement or ejaculation involved, we’re simply "connected" talking, kissing, and enjoying the moment. It has become such an important part of our relationship and intimacy that I wanted to share it with you all so you can try it; it’s a lovely habit that brings us closer together.

Hello,

Me and fiancée have been looking for a sex pillow, to make some positions more comfortable. I saw a post about the topic and went with the flow hahaha. Here were we live, we don't really have access to the famous Liberator Wedge. Some cheap alternatives we have are inflatable ones. Some more expensive alternatives (not as much as the liberator), are curved and ergonomic pillows (that's the best way I can describe them).

Have any couples here tried these cheap inflatable ones? Would you please share your thoughts and reviews?