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My (45M) wife (44) has no sexual fantasies at all. I ask her what she’s fantasized about, either recently or when she was younger and first exploring the ideas of sex, and she says she just doesn’t do it. She says her brain doesn’t work like mine and sex doesn’t just pop into her mind, ever, for her to fantasize about.

I’ve asked this a few times (playfully, not badgering her with it) over several years and the answer is always the same.

For context, she had a very mild sexual history before we got together in our early 20s. A few hookups and boyfriends who didn’t get very far with her. She was a virgin when we met while also being very physically attractive and living and partying a lot in a highly populated Southern California beach town. That’s just hard to do. She says she just wanted to wait until she found the right guy, which is great since it was me. We’ve always had vanilla sex with any new idea being 100% mine and usually met with indifference or a firm no.

When I put all this together - no fantasies, mild sex history, no ideas from her - I think she’s on the asexual end of the sex spectrum. Kinda sucks to be honest.

Edit: yes, I know she fits the description of responsive desire to a tee. I think it goes even beyond that though.

My super innocent wife was a dream come true when we first met. This hot 22 yr old virgin whose only sexual experience was blowing a few guys seemed like finding a unicorn.

Don’t get me wrong as I’m not really complaining, but from a hotpast kink standpoint, I wish she would have had at least one wild night with a guy who absolutely railed her. Man, I’d love to hear her recall a story like that to me while I fuck her. It’s obviously not going to happen, but it’s become a fantasy of mine after discovering hotpast.

My wife had a guy she hooked up with a few times in college whose dick was too big to fit in her mouth. She was a virgin and staunchly set on not having sex with just any guy. So when she tried to suck this guy’s dick and they both realized it wasn’t going to work, she ended up resorting to handjobs. Let me tell you, when she and I first got together, her handjobs were pretty rough. Just way too tight of a grip and too aggressive.

She said they did this maybe three or four nights over a month or so. Apparently the handjobs weren’t that exciting for anybody involved (which I get), she wasn’t that thrilled about his inexperienced finger banging technique, and their situation just kinda fizzled.

But, it’s super hot to picture her trying to wrap her lips around a cock that just was too big to go in. If she’d been willing to have sex, who knows if they would have been together longer.

I’d describe my wife as very picky when it comes to guys. She was hot and smart and her high school friends said she was the girl guys wanted to marry and not just try to bang on a Friday night. She was also very wary of getting pregnant when she was younger.

We met at 23 and I took her virginity a few months into dating. Prior to that, she’d given blowjobs to 6 guys, been eaten out by 5 of them, and maybe orgasmed from one of them (she doesn’t really remember it well but thinks she came).

The problem was she went to a highly academic school and just didn’t really fit in with the demographic. So, she didn’t click with the guys and as a result, not a ton of hotpast stories for her to share. But every now and then she’d suck a guys dick at a party or find a little FWB for a month or two, which I love hearing about.

I thought it was hot when I first met her. I basically had her whole sex history more or less all to myself. Now that we’re in our 40s, I wish she had more to share. She’s way too physically attractive - 5’8” fit yoga physique with a very pretty face - to only have had a few guys play with her body. Oh well! Worse problems to have I suppose!