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my wife and I don’t have sex as often as I’d like. She is on Prozac which I believe has caused her desire to drastically decrease.

Given her low desire, I especially want to make sure I thoroughly enjoy any chance I get that her and I can be intimate together.

Some background: I was on Prozac for a few years but successfully came off of it early 2025. when I was on Prozac I could last a good amount of time and it allowed the wife to have multiple orgasms. I honestly felt great to be able to rock her world. but there were times when I just couldn’t orgasm and that part was frustrating.

Now that I’m off, I have to pace myself and sometimes my wife gets real into it, I get excited and I just can’t maintain. Shes very sexy as well which is awesome but adds to the PE.

Last night she was into it and it felt amazing. she decided she wanted to ride/mount me and angle was great but I lasted maybe 2 min once she got in that position. LOL she got me too excited.

curious what other guys are trying to help them last longer and hear about their experience.

I’m 42 and my wife has a kink for cum volume. She loves it when I’ve saved up a weeks worth. To her it’s a point of pride that she gets because she “made me do that.”

Anyway this past year my volume has drop drastically. I’ve gone to a urologist and he told me it’s a natural part of aging and nothing they can do.

I find that response odd to be honest and felt that it wasn’t actually accurate.

Is anyone taking any supplements or seen a doctor that has provided different instruction on this?

Key note is I did have a vasectomy about 10years ago.

TLDR - Wife was a sexual Vixen recently which as been out of character and I loved every minute of it.

I'm unsure how to approach her to do it again given her feeling in the past that all I care about is sex. I've been working on being a better save emotional outlet for her and its going well.

I've heard of CNC but unsure how to approach

She seems to have a slutty fantasy but is very reserved and doesn't share.

Quick Background - My 38yr old wife and I have been together for close to 20 years. We got married early and like almost all marriages it seems, sex was great but took a back seat as we got older, kids, life and work.

For the past decade sex has been almost planned routin. Scheduled on Friday nights and sometimes mid week she comes home from work and doesn't feel overwhelmed.

In the past year we've started to really struggle in our relationship and have had some big time arguments. I started reading books and I feel we are slowing improving there.

Another thing of note is that I've been a more passive person than I was in my early 20s when I had more of a Fiery personality. Sometimes I felt it was borderline asshole behaviors looking back.

I was also more bold, like I would grab my wife at a moments notice, kiss her and grope her and sometimes just bend her over and Stick my cock in her for a bit. This all faded over time as she eventually became too overwhelmed with life and would stop me and tell me to not touch her and accuse me of only ever wanting sex but not providing what she needed (I finally learned later she needs Emotional availability from me).

I've also been way more cautious after the whole me2 movement because honestly couldn't tell if she at times wanted to me to pursue her more aggressively or if she just didn't want unpinanned sex.

New Situation - This past Friday after a long day, I was exhausted and took a shower. I got out and she was in our bathroom naked, wearing heels only ,looking at her mirror. One of the hottest things I've ever seen in my life. She tells me go sit on a bench at the foot of our bed. At this point I know I'm getting some tonight so I'm already starting to get rock hard (I've had some ED issues in the past so this was a good sign). She eventually comes out of the bathroom with her sex toy box and says I want to play tonight.

She pulls out this 9inch BBC dildo & her vibrator wand and places it underneath her. I make a comment like, oh you want a massive cock tonight.(Something she's had for years not but hardly uses it to my knowledge) She tells me she rode the BBC in the shower the prior week when I was gone for work. She then takes my cock and just does everything to it, licking, sucking, deep throat. She begins begins to use the vibrator and start slowing fucking the dildo all while having my cock in her mouth. Eventually she has a massive orgasm and starts kissing me. She then starts giving me hard deep throat and grabs both my hands, places them on her head and basically motions that she wants toe to face fuck her hard.

Eventually I pick her up, place her on the bench bent over and give her a good pounding until I finished which due to the excitement was pretty quick.

This whole experience was epic for me and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it and her.

What's Next/Question - This was really awesome and I would love to do it again. We had our normal sex a couple of days ago because I hit her up but it was pretty basic and she seemed somewhat disinterested like she was just getting me off for my sake.

I'd love to have more of this exciting hyper sexual sex more where I feel she's really into it vs the bland stuff.

How can I communicate this without coming off like a dog.