u/Adorable_Cow776

hi, my boyfriend and I have had anal sex about 2-3 times successfully. every time we try to have anal sex. It is the most undescribable pain I have ever felt at first. I want to know how to relax the muscles faster because it does feel good after it relaxes, it’s just I don’t know how to get it to relax without feeling that intense pain, which is just absolutely awful. is there a hack to get it to relax faster or more efficiently? I mean, I’ve tried everything you’re supposed to, we use a lot of lube. he plays with it and sticks his fingers into help which doesn’t hurt at all, but once he tries to put it in oh my goodness it is terrible. any advice would be great, but I do want to emphasize that we do dedicate a lot of time to foreplay use a lot of lube and he first starts with his fingers to help so anything else besides those tips would be awesome. I’ve heard of poppers but I don’t feel comfortable using something like that. thank you everybody