u/AdultMaleRelaxation

Snippet post of how the conversation started and ended.

So this guy reached out to me the afternoon prior asking to book. Now in my ad and website I do specify: Me hosting may only be available AFTER 3 pm most days. Reason why is because I often go between cities as this case was or even in my local area, so I can host only in hotels. Which usually means: check in doesn’t start until 3. Even if I can check in earlier, I still usually need 30 minutes to an hour to fully settle in.

In this case, I was open to see about accommodating him. However, since it was short notice I would have had to leave a day earlier because I wasn’t planning originally to come until the next day. So I told him on the same day: I can’t accommodate a morning session because that would involve traveling at night and my vision isn’t that great to do that for the hours it would have taken to get there.

He’s like okay, I can meet at 2. But that he needs to be somewhere at 3:30. I’m thinking to myself: that’s very different than “available until 3.” That means he wants to meet earlier than I can I can A) check into hotel and B) arrive at all from the destination I was coming from.

But in attempt to be accommodating and also me wanting to do the session, I said yes to it. But ultimately it ended up not working out because I would have had to essentially overextend myself to get ready by 2. It was just seeming crazy. So I reached out to him first thing letting him know I couldn’t accommodate that early (including the reasons why). And offered alternatives, including that day and the next day.

Well he had a bitch fit and was basically threatening my reputation. I told him I already booked and reserved the hotel. He was like, “Not my fault” and is like, “I have to go out of town tomorrow so I can’t do tomorrow either”.

I offered to send him majority of the deposit back. He wanted to FULL deposit back (which wasn’t even half of the rate) on top of what I spent. Then he starts talking shit, threatening to do this and that report/review. I’m like bruh: I told you what the deal is, the request was already last minute. I’m like if you want to do all this and that, go ahead but you’ll only get half of it back. And that’s what I did. Idk if it’s true that he reported to my “phone app” (blurring the name for discretion). But my account was NOT locked. And it made me very suspicious because if he’s going to that length, how bad would he have been in person 🤔

The whole point: I’m making it clear for now on: I’m not offering anymore morning sessions unless I has 2 days advance notice (for one I don’t function well in the morning and 2 hotels usually going door to door knocking and it kills the vibe). And I also am not going to be accommodating anything before 3 PM either to host. Too many times I’ve had situations where the client is there at the hotel before I can even check in. Or I can’t check in and I’m left having to ask the client to wait etc.

I just hate how some people come around expecting us to cave to their limited schedule at the last minute. It’s one thing if I was 5 miles away, but this appointment was 5 hours away. And I would have needed to see him as soon as I checked into the hotel.

And I know some people may disagree or say, “oh you should have did this, and not that” or vice versa. But I’m so over the day time crowd who is like, “take it or leave it, now or never” when it comes to planning a time. If they want to see me, they have to be willing to do a time that’s also reasonable for me. Clearly they aren’t willing to inconvenience themselves for me, why should I constantly bear the burden of being inconvenienced for them just because they hit me up and there’s money on the table? It’s fucking bullshit and pisses me off.

Things wouldn’t be as strict if I didn’t have to travel for bookings or I was just hosting at home like I used to do. But when dealing with hotels, that’s just how it’s going to have to be. I don’t like the idea of having to book 2 nights just to accommodate someone who has to meet in the middle of the day. 4 pm to Midnight incalls and 1 pm to Midnight outcalls basically.

(Me in green)

I know technically, it sounds like free money. But this was a returning client who reached out to me. He sent deposit in afternoon for a session in the evening. So I immediately started wrapping up my afternoon in anticipation. I drank caffeine late. I put out my bonfire. It was outcall so I got my things together, showered, put on good smells, all the things before a session. Yeah the deposit was $$$ amount (won’t disclose but a generous amount but still)

This is why I been against same day appointments anymore. I don’t know what cause one may have being canceling but more than likely it’s a case of them not planning enough ahead and realizing they actually can’t do anything after all.

When I inquired about if “everything was okay” I got no reply the whole night. It’s not just about the money, it’s now an evening of no plans when I could have just continued in the mood I was in: which was no expectation of a client tonight and I was content with that.

I know everyone has stuff come up, but it just puts me in a bad mood. This is also why: I don’t cancel plans with friends or family anymore for a client. I rather keep the solid plans I have versus taking something that may not pan out.