r/SexWorkers

a guy wanted to hook up with me,I refused because he was unsafe and at the end he threatens to report me to cops next time he sees me,buying escort services isn't a crime but being an escort is,what I wonder is:can he just use the texts as proof to report me to the police? and what would be the best choice I shall take if it goes down that way? obviously ain't kneeing down to a blackmail but want to be prepared edit:living in turkey so no,being a john isn't a crime here

As generic and cliché, as this is going to sound, I think I’m going into this for the same reason since a lot of people do. I live by myself I have no family and my bills keep going up.
I was blessed to get a work at home job so I don’t have to rely on a car. But I was just told this job might last only until August.
I’m not exactly 100% confident in my own body, but I know that’s a self image issue that I could work on.
My love life is pretty much nonexistent.
And when it comes over to sex, my mindset is pretty open.

As I see it now, I don’t really see any negatives to it.
But I know that that’s a naïve way of thinking.
So any advice to prepare or what to expect?
I’m not really materialistic to begin with so I don’t think I would be doing this for too long.. Assuming I actually do it..

And for what it’s worth I’m proactively looking for another job so I don’t have to pursue this, but knowing the job market, I’m not hopeful.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how much my perspective has changed over the years. Growing up, I was someone who dreamed about love, marriage, and finding someone who would be my safe place. I used to believe that having a partner was something I needed because of the emotional support, stability, and connection I thought came with it.

I also used to be someone who said I would never do OnlyFans. Life took me in a completely different direction, and now that I’ve been in this industry, I feel like the way I see dating and men has completely shifted.

One thing I’ve struggled with is dating outside of work. When someone shows interest in me now, I immediately think about the moment where I have to tell them what I do and wonder how they’ll react. I also feel like becoming financially independent has changed what I expect from a relationship. I no longer feel like I need someone to provide for me, so I find myself asking: what does a partner truly add to my life?

Do you still have the same dreams about marriage and love that you had when you were younger, or has your idea of a relationship completely evolved?

Just an fyi, this isn’t the “all men are the same” conversation 😂 I know everyone’s experience is different. I’m just curious how this work has shaped the way other women see love, partnership, and themselves.

I understand that this sub is primarily a safe space for venting, but the continual contempt for men in this sub has me wondering:

While booking 4+ hours maximizes the earning potential of a night, mentally, do you really prefer it?

There’s a high likelihood I’m very naive, but on the rare occasion I schedule, my preference is for 4 hours to overnight. I like to believe I’m not a sloth and make decent company; I am nearly always introduced to friends as referral or have repeat dates.

Many of your sites say you prefer long dates, (I know that is mostly for the reason mentioned above) but do you actually prefer it? Do you prefer to have to put on the act for that long or would you rather get it over with as quickly as possible?

In my mind, I want it to feel more like a “date”. Get to know your alter ego. Go to a nice restaurant, have a cocktail or two and not have to rush anything. Create a good vibe.

But now I am wondering; aside from the money, do you deep down hate the long date because it requires you to be “on” much longer?

Should I just book an hour and forget about the “date”?

The way I see it: the happier you are, the higher the odds of a good time.

I’m currently a professional cuddler trying to add fbsm into the mix, I sometimes already do add massages to my cuddles but very lightly. Are there any professional classes I can start with or maybe books?

Tryst profile just got approved and I'm offering nuru massage services. I was so nervous at first (still a little nervous, tbh) that I hid my profile at first after the approval, but I figured that if I don't start now, then I probably never will. Lol please wish me lots of good luck. 🤞🏾

I'm thinking of coming to visit Alabama. Any updates on huntsville or Birmingham or Montgomery or mobile?

I'm wondering if it's worth the trip.

I do this work part time (I’m not consistent at all) and I’m dating two older men (20+ year age gap) who are providers.

I’m very content with life but also, love the finer things in life. I don’t like to depend on men and that’s why I’m part time but my question is would you settle down with a provider man or have multiple men on the go.

I sometimes feel like I should be settling down in the countryside somewhere.. I’m feeling a bit left out as all my friends have husbands, children, homes, etc

I truly regret telling my close friend what I do. To make a long story short I’ve always felt this weird tension between us. She’s jealous towards other women so I don’t hold it against her to do the same to me. Today I feel like I’ve reached my last straw.

I was on the phone talking to her about something important and in the background she’s playing an anti-SW video. Basically saying women in SW sell their bodies blah blah blah. She expressed wanting to get into it in the past, even asked me cus she was scared to do it alone but then she backed out. Shes made sly remarks about my body and comparing my body to hers saying “man if I had your body I would be the biggest hoe.” I’m very curvaceous and am confident in my body but…it didn’t feel like a compliment. It felt like a dig. She’s going through a lot financially rn and has been doordashing. She lost her job for the millionth time. I don’t have any money to give her and I already helped her a lil bit. I’ve offered suggestions for her to find work as well. I’m not sure if she was watching the video curious about SW but it just felt like another sly dig. Am I reading too much into it?

My tryst account was recently approved and I am wondering how do I go about purchasing bitcoin so that I can post. That’s the only place I am stuck at. Any advice or recommendations…

Dude, I don't get it. I spend all day answering stupid questions—stuff they could figure out themselves if they just read the ad—but this is the last straw. My ad clearly states that I only do *incall* and specifies my location, yet people ask me where I am every single day. When I give them the address, they go, "Oh no, that's too far; I thought you were over here," or "I thought you were over there." Like, what the fuck? But anyway, this moron asks where I am, says he's at such-and-such place—claiming it's not that far—and asks me to send the address. I send it, and he goes, "Okay, so how does it work? Do you come here, or do I have to go there?"

Oh, and I forgot to mention that I also told him, "I work until X p.m.," and he goes, "I don't get it—like, is that when you get home?" And I’m just like, "No, you idiot, that’s when I finish work and turn off my phone."

Im trying to figure something out here. I know the economy is down so thats not a surprise.

But i used to make 1500-2k a night when i worked 3-4 nights a week doing mainly incall from hotels. And charged extra for outcalls

I was high volume (3-6 clients a night) depending on long or short bookings.

Coming back i raised rates from 260/h to 300/h

Everything covered no kissing and added gfe with bbbj and daty for 450$.

Business is deadddd. I got a couple good clients but there not often like before. I got a room the last 3 nights to offer incall because ive been outcall only since i came back. And i litterally got ONE client.

Im always getting messages for incall so i was shocked . But i know things are hit or miss sometimes.

Idk if i just got a big reality check but i never ever had a night like these before. (Like 1&2 years ago)

I was wondering if most good clients who book 1 hour or more usually look at certain times of the month now like pay week or something?

I also charge extra for outcall transportation and it depends on their location but i take ubers and taxis so it gets expensive when theyre not close by.

My highest paying regular right now (3-4 day fun bookings a few times year plus overnights) has a three girl rotation going, including me. He claims to do this so he doesn't get attached. He's gone through at least 7-8 other regulars since the early 2020s before settling on us three, and I'm the most recent addition with the least amount of time in the industry. I like the other two girls because his OG "approved of me" before he even contacted me and the other even has sweetly commented on my social media posts showing the trips the reg and I took together. However, he annoys me by saying unprompted "oh Jane and I are doing this trip to so and so and Sarah and I are doing this trip because she likes this band and you don't, so I can't meet until X month." Recently our communication to set up our dates in advance is peppered with references to the other two.

I'm happy that he's seeing the other two but the details are always provided without me asking. One of them is a property owner, so he raves about her success repeatedly, mind you she is at least a decade older than me and I'm working towards that goal. He said she doesn't get out of bed for less than 4k and she only has to work when she wants to. He also alluded to her being SAed on a plane so she only travels by rail now which I think was not okay to share that. I was tipsy when he shared that and didn't really understand how serious that was until later. He also brings up our specific social media posts that have gone viral and discusses them in detail which is weird. He's not necessarily malicious in these unprompted announcements but I'm assuming it's to make me jealous and competitive, so to speak..? I asked him to not talk about other girls on one of our earlier trips. Unfortunately I didn't set that boundary early enough so that is on me. He's just a very chatty person. I've never met the other two girls in person so I don't know if he talks about me to them. I don't share any trauma or anything super revealing to him. We have gotten to the point of him knowing my first name but I've known him for a year and a half.

We do have a good connection because he likes that I'm highly educated and well traveled and he loves taking me to museums and fine dining and whatnot. He's respectful and easy in bed and not emotionally draining. He's not an addict, follows through on our prebookings, and keeps in touch without being overbearing. I genuinely think we're all he has besides his kids because he's relatively friendless, and he truly lives for his time with all three of us. I can't share more about his sad life story without it being revealing and this may already be revealing. How do I get him to stop bringing up the other two girls without appearing jealous or threatened? He's not a duos guy so I doubt he'd ever bring us together anyways.

So, yes please let me explain the title.

I recently spent time with a provider (sw) met her on Facebook marketplace under massage services. Called number, setup appointment, went . So after the appointment having a few minutes to kill, started talking, asked if possible, and no more clients would it be permitted to go to dinner " No I'm expected back, by such a time" i said ok, then I asked " expected back by whom, just curious " my friend that set up the appointment, she set it up for me " i asked does she do all your appointments" yes" ( so now I know she has a female handler or pimp) so i leave. So week goes by, get a text, from the provider I had seen earlier that week " are you busy, im available running specials" i reply " no busy this weekend, so the following weekend i text her saying " if you are available I have time, " she replied, " not a good time" so a couple days later I get a text " im available please make appointment " i say I can't. Now let me assure you I don't believe this person was on drugs or anything as to why they kept messaging me . So a couple weeks go by, and i message her " her reply " i can't she won't let me leave the apartment , I haven't had anyone this week and cant give her, her share " so what do i do with this ? if she told me her correct age, she was 28, so is this sex trafficking or sexuall exploitation of someone against their will? I want to just walk away, but my thoughts are what if something bad happens, ? Do I report this ( please don't hate me for that ) im serious, maybe this is some kind of scam or act or something. I feel bad for her in this situation.

I am NEVER going to reply to a “hey “ text and I don’t understand why some men keep sending it. We talk about the literacy crisis, but there is a social skills crisis as well.

Guys I keep telling my friend that the police CAN and WILL send you a deposit but she’s not listening to me 😩

I just feel like people rely on the occurrence of fake profiles to undercut actual providers. Onlyfans requires an ID to join and also tryst. That's not to say people do not abuse it. But if someone is charging 200 dollars you know probably wouldn't you kind of are putting yourself in a situation you could have avoided. If you don't see providers who ask for deposit or screening yeah... you probably will deal with some shit. I just think bad experiences outweighing the safety precautions providers deal with is unacceptable. I also think providers should not be influenced by clients who may have ulterior motives: market manipulation, normalizing unsafe practices, and putting the control of the industry in their hands. It's better to go part time if you can't enforce your safety precautions. That 500 dollars with no screening is a higher risk getting a cashier job or a server part time.