u/Affectionate-Egg7540

I want you to claim me, to brush my hair, to take me out on dates whispering sweet nothings in my ear and then bend me over and have your way with me.

That being said, I'm looking for something that can develop into a relationship with a very strong kink element. Not a few messages of kinky fuckery. I want something more.

I care more about finding my person than about passport stamps or train schedules and am therefore flexible on location. If you already have a partner, wife, or other subs, skip this post. I'm not into a poly lifestyle and do not share or am willing to be shared. I'm the possessive type and I want someone who's possessive over me in return.

What you need to know upfront:

I'm demisexual. The mental and emotional connection I have with someone matters more to me than the raunchier side of things, or at least - I need the mental connection in order to develop attraction. I can't have a purely physical relationship with someone I'm not mentally attracted to. That said, I'm not interested in a vanilla relationship either. I want the D/s dynamic to live primarily in the bedroom, but I won't pretend it doesn't bleed into other aspects of life.The kind of man who can put me in his lap and sit me down when I'm spiraling. Who understands that caretaking and dominance aren't mutually exclusive.

I'm very independent and very much my own person in real life, but deep down I want someone to take care of me. Not coddle me like a toddler, but someone who understands that life is complex and can just exist with me and hold me. Someone who has presence, who knows himself, and isn't intimidated or easily spooked. Someone who likes to be challenged intellectually and doesn't back down when I push back. Affectionate and nurturing. And who doesn't mind someone who is both fiercely independent and clingy at the same time.

About me:

I'm on the spectrum and I just cannot deal with small talk. When I say that I can't deal with small talk, I really mean that I cannot come up with a response when you ask me about the weather. I need someone who doesn't find that exhausting. Someone who can hold their own in an argument about art, meaning, literature, philosophy, or whatever rabbit hole we've fallen into this week. I read voraciously. I think about things too much. I overexplain when I'm excited. I want a companion, a best friend, a teammate, someone I can share hopes, goals, dreams, thoughts, and ideas with. And also someone who doesn't mind hiking up my skirt and taking me even if I "fake protest."

I'm not very sexually experienced, I'm not a virgin, but my list isn't long. I want to discover my sexuality together with someone. I have a very sexually submissive side and a bit of a bratty streak.

When I say possessive: I don't mean someone who controls my work or friendships. I mean someone who is sexually possessive. Who likes to mark me with his cum, with love bites. Who knows that while I'm sickeningly monogamous, still feels the need to touch me in public to let people know I'm his. Who wants to own me in the bedroom and remind me of it outside of it.

Physically [me]:

160cm, currently a bit pale, dark brown eyes, auburn-light brown hair (it changes colour slightly depending on what I'm wearing) that goes to my bra strap. Hourglass figure (broad hips and bigger breasts but not in the overweight sense), no tattoos, no piercings.

Age: 30–45. Anything under 30 or over 45 feels like too big a gap to bridge.

Logistics:

I'm very flexible in terms of location within Europe, but know that it's my intention to eventually meet and that I'm not looking for something only online. So if we click I do want to meet up at some point this Summer.

If this resonates, reach out. Tell me something that made you think recently. Tell me what you're reading or watching or obsessing over. Tell me what you want. Skip the "hey" messages because I won't reply to those.

Feel free to message me as long as this post is up. But please, DM me something substantial instead of a "are you still looking?".

I want to belong to someone. Claim me. Use me. Brush my hair. Take me out on dates whispering sweet nothings in my ear. Then bend me over and have your way with me.

I'm looking for someone within Europe even if the location matters less than the actual connection. I care more about finding my person than about passport stamps or train schedules. If you already have a partner, wife, or other subs, skip this post. I'm the possessive type and I want someone who's possessive over me in return.

What you need to know upfront:

I'm demisexual. The mental and emotional connection I have with someone matters more to me than the raunchier side of things. I can't have a purely physical relationship with someone I'm not mentally attracted to. That said, I'm not interested in a vanilla relationship either. I want the D/s dynamic to live primarily in the bedroom, but I won't pretend it doesn't bleed into other moments. The kind of man who can put me in his lap and sit me down when I'm spiraling. Who understands that caretaking and dominance aren't mutually exclusive.

I'm very independent and very much my own person in real life, but deep down I want someone to take care of me. Not coddle me like a toddler, but someone who understands that life is complex and can just exist with me and hold me. Someone who has presence, who knows himself, and isn't intimidated or easily spooked. Someone who likes to be challenged intellectually and doesn't back down when I push back. Affectionate and nurturing. And who doesn't mind someone who is both fiercely independent and clingy at the same time.

About me:

I'm neurodivergent and small talk feels like running a marathon but deep conversation feel like breathing. I need someone who doesn't find that exhausting. Someone who can hold their own in an argument about art, meaning, literature, philosophy, or whatever rabbit hole we've fallen into this week. I read voraciously. I think about things too much. I overexplain when I'm excited. I want a companion, a best friend, a teammate, someone I can share hopes, goals, dreams, thoughts, and ideas with. And also someone who doesn't mind hiking up my skirt and taking me even if I "fake protest."

I'm not very sexually experienced. I'm not a virgin, but my list isn't long. I want to discover my sexuality together with someone. I have a very sexually submissive side and a bit of a bratty streak.

When I say possessive: I don't mean someone who controls my work or friendships. I mean someone who is sexually possessive. Who likes to mark me with his cum, with love bites. Who knows that while I'm sickeningly monogamous, still feels the need to touch me in public to let people know I'm his. Who wants to own me in the bedroom and remind me of it outside of it.

Claim me. Use me. Brush my hair. Take me out on dates whispering sweet nothings in my ear. Then bend me over and have your way with me.

I'm looking for someone within Europe. Location matters less than the actual connection so I'm quite flexible in that regard. I care more about finding my person than about distance. If you already have a partner, wife, or other subs, please skip this post. I'm the possessive type and I want someone who's possessive over me in return.

What you need to know upfront:

I'm demisexual. The mental and emotional connection I have with someone matters more to me than the raunchier side of things. I can't have a purely physical relationship with someone I'm not mentally attracted to. That said, I'm not interested in a vanilla relationship either. I want the D/s dynamic to live primarily in the bedroom, but I won't pretend it doesn't bleed into other aspects of life. The kind of man who can put me in his lap and sit me down when I'm spiraling. Who understands that caretaking and dominance aren't mutually exclusive but are in fact a must.

I'm very independent and very much my own person in real life, but deep down I want someone to take care of me. Not coddle me like a toddler, but someone who understands that life is complex and can just exist with me and hold me. Someone who has presence, who knows himself, and isn't intimidated or easily spooked. Someone who likes to be challenged intellectually and doesn't back down when I push back. Affectionate and nurturing. And who doesn't mind someone who is both fiercely independent and clingy at the same time.

About me:

I'm wired differently and neurodivergent. Small talk feels like running a marathon but deep conversations make me feel like I can finally tear off my mask and breath again. I need someone who doesn't find that exhausting. Someone who can hold their own in an argument about art, meaning, literature, philosophy, or whatever rabbit hole we've fallen into this time. I read voraciously. I think about things too much and then overexplain when I'm excited. I want a companion, a best friend, a teammate, someone I can share hopes, goals, dreams, thoughts, and ideas with. And also someone who doesn't mind hiking up my skirt and taking me even if I "fake protest".

I'm not very sexually experienced. Oh, don't get me wrong, I'm not a virgin, but my list isn't well... long. I want to discover my sexuality together with someone. I have a very sexually submissive side and a bit of a bratty streak, but I think I also have a switch in me (ratio: 20% dom / 80% sub). In my book a D/s dynamic is about taking care of each other. As much as I need you to have my back, you need me to have yours. I want to take care and nurture you in return.

When I say possessive: I don't mean someone who controls my work or friendships. I mean someone who is sexually possessive. Who likes to mark me with his cum, with love bites., etc. Who knows that while I'm sickeningly monogamous, still feels the need to touch me in public to let people know I'm his. Who wants to own me in between the sheets and remind me of it outside of it.

Physically [me]:

160 cm, currently a bit pale, dark brown eyes, auburn-light brown hair (it changes colour slightly depending on what I'm wearing) that goes to my bra strap. Hourglass figure, no tattoos, no piercings.

Physically [you]:

Taller than me. I like to feel small and there's nothing sexier than a man who towers over me and can pick me up. Quite fit, lanky, skinny. Perhaps a bit of an androgynous/metrosexual look. I like the thought of being overpowered but also like men who have a bit of a softer/feminine side.

Age: 30–45. Anything under 30 or over 45 feels like too big a gap to bridge. I should also mention that I don't have children, am not keen on having them and would prefer a partner without kids as well.

I'm very flexible in terms of location within Europe, but know that it's my intention to eventually meet and that I'm not looking for something only online. Don't message me if you're outside of Europe.

If any of this resonates, please reach out. Tell me something about you. Tell me the things you obsess over, the things that make you laugh, cry, angry, sad, joyful. Anything. Please tell me something other than "hey".

As long as this post is up, feel free to message me.