r/BDSMpersonals

For ages, I've been stuck in this fantasy where I meet someone who wants to buy me a toy. In return, they take complete control of it. You know, something like a remote-controlled toy, but it's inside me all the time, whether it's at the gym or at work, and then, well, here you go... a buzz.

Just the thought of it makes me wet. Wouldn't that be a great way to spend my summer? You never know when I'll be on the verge of orgasm again and have to hide my pleasure from others.

Please note, I'm quite inexperienced and relatively new to BDSM culture, but I like to think I'm a quick learner. I'm not looking for anything too involved or TPE, just something casual and fun, but I'm open to discussing specific boundaries in my private messages. If this sounds like something you'd be interested in, let me know ;)

Hi,

This is going to be a weird ask. I would like to chat to someone who is dominant. I would like you to train me as if I will be coming to live with you. In this fantasy I will be abandoning my human rights and living as your toy/ live stock. I want to discuss what my life would be like and for you to give me tasks to complete irl that will be preparing me for my new life.

Kinks- orgasm denial, pussy stretching, anal, dehumanising, impact play, control, ureteral play, breeding, group use, body mods.

Limits- scat, vomit, gore, snuff.

Hello! My name is Claire, and I’m looking to relocate to somewhere (preferably in-state but am open to out of state) to be a live-in slave. I will be doing online school for at least a semester so there’s really no inhibition as to where I can go.
I’d prefer to discuss most of the details in DMs, but here are some things about me:

19
Chinese
150 lbs
5’7
I’m interested in music, film, and I’m majoring in finance!
Some of my kinks are bondage, orgasm control, edging, pet play, piss play, humiliation, objectification, degradation, bdsm, and more
Hard limits are scat and anything with vomit

DM me to discuss actual details. I’d prefer you open with a fantasy you’d like to make reality if I were your slave.

EDIT: I fixed my chat request settings, I’m sorry everyone!

Hi all,

I’ll keep this decently brief, but please do reach out if you think we’d be a fit. Attraction is important, and I’m happy to share photos/my fetlife quickly.

Quick facts:
- 25, 5’5, 120ish, green eyed brunette
- Engineer and current PhD student
- Marathon/ultrarunner (I promise it’s only about half of my personality)
- Hobby prioritizer, outdoorsy, and adventurous in a non sexual sense
- ENFJ, great family and friends, generally quite normal I promise

I was introduced to kink as a teenager, but spent most of my early 20’s in a vanilla LTR. I’ve realized that some sort of D/s dynamic/kink is going to be a necessity for me in my relationships, so I’m straying from the conventional ways of meeting people.

I’ll be splitting time between the PNW and TX for the next two years while I finish school, but would eventually like to settle someplace with mountains and bike lanes.

Kink-wise:
- Physically very submissive and enjoy being manhandled, tied up, and used
- Open to and experienced with free use/cnc once trust is established
- Into impact play, orgasm control, overstimulation, anal, etc, etc

I know this is an unconventional place to come for love, but I’m hoping other attractive, successful people are having trouble letting their freak flag fly on Hinge too.

Hi everyone!

I’m a 29 year old submissive woman looking for a Dominant partner for an online dynamic, but open to meeting down the line.

About me
So first things first, I’m a bbw. I’m working on getting healthier, but it’s a long process. I’m based in Europe, so my preference would be to find someone in a relatively close time zone.

I enjoy dynamics based on discipline and accountability. My kinks include orgasm control, humiliation, bondage and impact play.

Based on these things and to give you an idea of what I like, I’ve included some things I’ve enjoyed in past dynamics.
- Having a specific outfit to wear at home, like not wearing trousers or wearing a collar.
- Whenever available wearing an app controlled vibrating egg that the dominant can turn on at will.
- Writing a page full of lines that remind me of my place as a submissive.
- Using tasks based apps like the obedience app (open to having the premium version).
- Having to wear a clothespin somewhere on my body for the entire day.
- Cockwarming my dildo for longer periods of time.
- Having to do my chores with my hands cuffed.
There’s many more things, and I have a good idea of what I’m looking for, but I’m not looking for everything to be set in stone. I’d love to hear your own creative ideas!

My hard limits are anything permanent, illegal, scat, blood, needles, breathplay, public play involving others, fisting, breeding, showing my face, lovebombing. These are hard limits, don’t try changing my mind about them.

About you:
I’m bisexual, so both men and women can reach out, although I’d have to say my current preference would be to have a female dominant. I’m looking for someone in the age range of 27-37. I’m open to all shapes and sizes.

When reaching out, please include:
- Your (nick)name or whatever else you’d like me to call you
- Your age
- Your timezone
- Your kinks and limits
- How you want your ideal dynamic to look like
- Your preferred platform to communicate should we enter a dynamic.
- A fun fact about yourself

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Hi all! I’ll try my best to explain my situation. I’m 25 married to my high school sweetheart. He’s not into this bdsm side of things. So we agreed that I could explore online and potentially in person. Now that we have that covered.

I am 5’4 and 140lbs. I’m a former college athlete and fairly fit. I can send a body sample if you’d like to see for yourself. However I am not into sending a bunch of pictures so that is a limit for me. I may occasionally but completely up to me. Anyways now to my kinks:

-Pussy torture
-Tit torture
-Spanking
-Milking/Lactating/Pregnant
-Outfit control (Unsure yet)
-Dares (love these!)
-Daily tasks
-Many more willing to try

I am hoping to find someone to help guide me in these. Put me in my place a little bit. Feel free to reach out with questions. Thanks for reading!

Hey there! If you've clicked on this, I assume you're a submissive boy looking for a woman who can nurture that.

About me; I'm married with no kids. I want to be a nurturing and caring figure in a man's life.
About you; you can be single or not, but l'd ask for me to be to the only Mommy you're speaking to (exclusive in that way). Extra points if you're the type of person no one would suspect to be a submissive little boy;

Kinks (non-exhaustive): JOl, edging, milking, anal play, toy play, watersports, chastity, body worship, body writing, gooning, ruined orgasms, degredation, giving instructions

Things I'm not into:
⁃ major brat like behavior (aka intentional disrespect that goes beyond minor and playful)
⁃ rebellion (unlike the Galactic Empire, I squash rebellions)
⁃ spamming me without giving me a chance to respond. Being desperate is only hot to a point then it's just annoying.
⁃ anything with blood, gore, vomit, scat
⁃ overconfidence in dick size
⁃ lack of respect for myself or yourself

I want to have full control of your sexual life. Men with partner are welcome too.

My fantasy is that whenever I want to use the sub, he needs to find a bathroom or any private place to serve me. Imagine a masculine guy having all kinds of excuses to leave. People are wondering where he is going, but only I know this man is hiding in the bathroom to serve his owner. And there is a tiny caged cock between his legs, only I know. This fantasy really turns me on.
Bonus round

\-I'm 5'4 and 148 lbs

\-I like doing nothing(except work). Nothing is fun

\-when not doing nothing, I like watchingTikTok , eating sweet treats, and occasionallyyyyyyy getting super into fitness for 2 weeks the forgetting about it (currently in a running phase)

\- If you made it past this mumbo jumbo start your message with any flower emoji so I can answer you faster. It needs to be thoughtful for a response though.

\-just a girl. A kinky dommy girl

\- my favorite thing is cumshots. My second favorite thing is edging and denials. To cum or not to cum, such a hard choice

I don't know if I'll get many messages but I hope to hear from some littles who need a loving Mommy in their life.
I'm open to sharing pictures straight away and always am able to answer any and all questions, to satisfy curiosity.

I love everything about pissing.

Drench me in your piss, I want to feel your warm fluid marking me as yours, I want to smell like you, I want you to cover me from head to toe.

Fill me with your piss, any hole you want, or what's more convenient for you, whenever you have to go, on the way to family dinner and need to pee in the driveway, please. I invite you to pee down my throat, in a bar with your friends, yes, please, pull the plug and pee on me in the alley before you come back full and stuffed.

Pee on my panties, making me walk around all wet, smelling like you, pee on my toothbrush, pee in my daily water bottle so I can drink you even when we're not together, pee on my leggings when I wear them, making me look like I've wet myself, pee on me when I take a bath so I can bathe in you.

Hello sirs and doms,

l am a asian chub slave and begs desperately for you to destroy my worthless small dick, nipples and useless balls with cruel electro torture. my e-stim coyote 3.0 is hooked up to xtoys.app waiting for you to take complete control slide that power up and fry and shock this slave's pathetic small cock and nipples until i scream and cry for your amusement. your slave will be live on camera, and exposed so you can watch every second of my pain and humiliation. Please send this useless slave a dm for the webcam link and controls.

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About me:

• I am an older slave in my 50's.

• I have long hair, deep blue eyes

• I have a petite yet slightly curvy build with pale skin and freckles h

• I am married and he is very aware of my being here and supports my choices

• I have been in this lifestyle for over 30 years off and on

My kinks:

• Psychological Control, Service, High Protocol, Tasks, Impact, Bondage,Tit and nipple play, Choking, Forced Orgasms, Denial, Light Humiliation, Sensory Play

My Limits:

• Degradation, Shock Play, Water Sports, Blood, Spit, Vomit, Scat, Anything Illegal, Hoods, Needles, Age Gap, Pet Play, Rimming

About You:

• Must be in the US and 28-60+ (Not bald)

• Must be Strict, Confident, Controlling

• Must be more into the Psychological aspect of a dynamic

• Must want a long term dynamic

• Must be willing to give tasks, daily check ins, video or voice calls, Sessions.

So if this resonates with you, please be thinking about more than just if I'm a dripping needy slave and how quickly you can keep me there. I want to get to know you, develope a level of trust all while you exert immediate control. If you think you can do this, then please feel free to send me a response. I look forward to hearing from you.

Hi! I’m shooting my shot and looking for someone to take control of me. I’m not exactly looking for someone to take control of me 24/7 but have enough control over me to have an impact on my day whether it’s with rules or tasks given to me to complete before the end of the day. I work weird hours and I live with roommates so I’m limited on things that I could do such as unable to make loud noises and only being able to play around nightime for me (UTC -6). I’m hoping to find someone around the same time zone as me. If not, we could figure something out.

This doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual 100% of the time. I’d also love to talk about our interests and such. I want to be your friend as well as your submissive.

These are the kinks that I’m really into and hoping to find someone into them as me.

(Orgasm Control) - I love having my orgasms denied and dangled over me. Nothing excites me more than make me earn my orgasm or simply denying it. I also love to edge myself to make my denial harder. The longest I’ve denied myself had been 3 weeks.

(Puppy play) - Sometimes I just want to shut off my brain and be told to hump something. Make me stick out my tongue and crawl around. I love being a good puppy

(Given rules) - It’s a given for submissives to have rules but I really enjoy having a list of what I have to follow whether it’s completing certain amount of edges, told to ask permission to use the bathroom, wearing a specific accessory or article of clothing, needing to do something before I even get out of bed

(Conditioned/Training) - I’ve always loved the idea of being conditioned. Conditioned to get turned on over certain things. Conditioned to consider my nipples as my clit. Conditioned to consider my ass as my pussy. Trained to take bigger toys in my ass/pussy. Trained to work on my gag reflex. Trained on specific positions

(Praise) - I really love being praised for being a good girl. It fills me with joy when I do something to make them praise me for doing a good job. I occasionally enjoy condescending praise as it ties in with my humiliation kink

(Body Writing) - I really love being told what to write on myself. Having my body covered in degrading and humiliating words. It’s so hot to think about the fact that I’m walking around covered in filthy words without anyone knowing.

These aren’t my only kinks but they’re the ones I really enjoy. If you’ve read this far, send me any emoji other than 🐶.

Limits: blood, scat, vomit, pics/videos(There will be some instances I can send pics), public play, hypnotism

Hi! My name is Violet and im looking for a dom who loves control and wants a 'pet' project.

Im tall, skinny, brunette with big dark puppy eyes and ive always been submissive and obedient to whatever authrority figure has been in my life.

Sadly since I left school I havent had much direction or guiding influence and have really struggled to get by with day to day stuff. Ive got intense anxiety and I get very overwhelmed and scared by decisions. The last time I really felt at ease was when I was with my controlling ex, I didnt realise it at the time but I need that kind of control in my life.

I have some experience and lots of fantasies with BDSM, petplay, ddlg, humiliation, degredation, domestic service, lifestyle dynamics etc. Id love to find someone to explore them more with.

I really love to be bound, it makes me feel very secure and safe with the right dom. Im obsessed with gags and collars and feel like the more im restricted the calmer I feel because nothing is expected from me but to endure the bondage.

Dm me and tell me what youre looking for and we can chat!

Hi, hey, hello.

let me get my disclaimers out the way first... I'm a plus size girly so if you're not into that don't message. I am also in a relationship with someone who isn't into this lifestyle and doesn't know I'm here.

sadly recenly turned 30. F. Living in the north of England. Dyed red hair, green/grey eyes.

Anyway, looking for someone normal as a bare minimum (a big ask for Reddit I know) who is funny,kind, silly and for the love of God doesn't have the emotional availability of an egg🤣

I need a genuine connection to be able to get into a dynamic, so looking for someone I vibe with but also am physically attracted to.

Love silly, witty, caring types.

I'm a brat but have a big heart and actually prefer a soft dom with a natural golden retriever personality. A dom that helps me take care of myself and genuinley cares about my wellbeing.

kinks: orgasm control,denial, light degradation, rules,structure, nipple play, spanking,choking etc

hard limits- any shit or piss shenanigans, hard degradation, people with very specific fetishes. whatever tickles your pickle but kinda freaks me out 🤣

I would prefer somebody around my age but obviously there's leeway.

also please be willing to swap pictures off the bat

It’s currently almost 2am, and I found myself stumbling back on this app.

This might not be the typical post found on here, so I won’t be responding to the typical responses. I’m not looking for something quick, and I’m not looking for a 24/7 power exchange.

so hi! I’m an 18 year old, about to study politics and philosophy. some general facts: I’m a big literature reader (it’s been a while though ☹️), I mostly enjoy the classics, philosophy, romance, and generally love consuming media (movies, series, news). I lean left wing, I am a feminist, and I do have some strong opinions. BUT! I am always open to conversation and debate about them, and I appreciate all perspectives (as long as they’re not insane and inhumane of course)

physically for me: black hair, brows eyes, 5’6ish?, pale skin. even though insecurity catches up to me - as does to every person - I am aware I am attractive based on beauty standards.

I do have a weird relationship with kink. I am definitely a sub, but unfortunately some of my kinks bring me shame I have not resolved yet.

I am looking for something real first. someone who will put in the effort, someone who will want to know me, not just my body. I can’t promise anything long term if we don’t click, but I always communicate!

but for now? just a conversation. maybe ill stumble upon another lost soul that’s on here for the right reasons (if there are any).

please, if this stood out to you, don’t just message me a “hi”. be real, be vulnerable- there is truly nothing sexier.

Are you a confident, self-assured, accomplished man who seeks guidance and leadership from a dominant woman?

To you, is submission not a weakness or shame, but a sign of strength — an honest recognition of who you are? If so, we may connect well. I want to explore and express my dominant nature not as an experiment, but as an authentic part of who I am. Connection matters deeply to me; before I can fully step into my role as a Dom, I need to feel a genuine bond with the man I’m engaging with. There’s no rush — the discovery itself is part of the experience, and it can start through honest online exchange.

Approach me sincerely, openly, and truthfully. I value honesty and the courage to show up as you are. I aim to create a space where both of us can safely explore our roles — as much about insight and trust as it is about power and surrender.

I’m 32, professional, committed to self-care and growth. I’m introverted but socially aware; serious-minded yet playful, valuing humor and thoughtful conversation.

I’m drawn to a man who presents as confident and masculine to the world but shows his soft, obedient side to me. A man who communicates clearly, pays attention to detail, and acts with kindness and respect — not just in submission, but because it’s in his nature. I’m particularly interested in men my age or older, though younger men who are mature and self-assured also appeal.

From the start, I look for: a submissive yet masculine energy; a man who takes pleasure in prioritizing his Dom’s satisfaction; someone eager to follow orders and complete assigned tasks — even when they challenge him. Effort matters more than perfection. I value growth through trust, leading to deeper, more authentic submission.

In time, I’d like to explore elements such as bondage and rope play (to the extent possible online), boundary-pushing through tasks, controlled humiliation, and mental or physical restriction — forms of intensity that arise from trust, not force.

I don’t engage in games, casual JO sessions, or anything dishonest, dangerous, or illegal.

As a test: I have a switch bf. If i let you two alone in a room, would you Dom him or submit to him? Let me know your answer and motivation

Howdy, I’m a dommy mommy, who’s an O1 in the army, residing in the southern state of Arkansas. I’ve been in the dominant role for several years gaining more and more practice in this position to know how I operate (I’m more of a controlling soft dom). I’m in search of some new submissive boy toys that are younger than me (I’m 22). I can handle subs who are older than me up to the age of 30 then it’s a case by case basis on exceptions.

Things that turn me on:
-obedience
-a guy younger than me with a decent body
-the rest you’ll have to find out while obeying ;)

Personally I love it when a masculine sub obeys and worships me. What I do with the sub primarily depends on his limits as well as my mood in the moment.

Things I’m not into:
-major brat like behavior (aka intentional disrespect that goes beyond minor and playful)
-rebellion (unlike the Galactic Empire, I squash rebellions)
-spamming me without giving me a chance to respond. Being desperate is only hot to a point then it’s just annoying.
-chastity (I like my meat free range so I can do whatever I want with it when I want to)
-anything with blood, gore, vomit, scat
-overconfidence in dick size
-lack of respect for myself or yourself

hey f26 looking for a new master / daddy. Hoping for something irl but I’m cool with online to start.

I’m 5’3, 120 lbs, long brunette hair, olive skin, DD, brown eyes, skinny/curvy. Ideally you’ll be under 38 y/o. My kinks include petplay, tpe, cnc, humiliation/praise, impact, bondage, exhibition, hucow, name calling, watersports, ddlg, orgasm control/overstim

1. I'm consistent, reliable, dedicated, and honest
2. I'm great at cuddling, and aftercare will be comfy AF
3. I take my dynamics seriously, and am in it for the long run
4. I'm quite responsive and make some great noises
5. I'll want to learn what you're most interested in and needing
6. Your stingy impact toys that most people fear? I'll probably love them
7. I'm very resilient - I can handle an epic impact scene and be ready for more soon after
8. I'm a direct communicator and will always let you know what's on my mind
9. I'll never show up with too many bags and make you carry them for me
10. I have the necessary time and capacity to dedicate to a dynamic, and I don't expect that to change
11. I'm tiny and easy to pick up
12. I've curated a lifestyle with a lot of flexibility, and can easily use that to our advantage
13. I know when to be a little sassy, and when to be serious
14. I've been immersed in the world of kink for my entire adult life, and have a really good idea of what works for me and my body (and what doesn't)
15. I can usually untie myself or slip out of restraints after a scene. Convenient!
16. I know my boundaries and limits already, and I'm comfortable safewording when needed
17. I've been described as "wonderfully insatiable"
18. I'm persistent. Persistent in learning, persistent in improving, persistent in finding joy
19. I have a ridiculously cute cat, and no, that's not a euphemism
20. I welcome you to keep reading, on a more serious note, in the lengthy about me post on my profile. If you're in Atlanta and want to talk more after reading, send me a message!